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Does anyone seem to notice that we as women seem to have lost our way? Instead of saving ourselves for marriage, we are just giving up then expecting a man to respect us. Before you get all riled up I'm speaking for personal experience.
It seems that we as women are losing our value in this life. Instead of putting our foot down and saying "No I'm worth it" we are just having premarital sex, living with a guy for years and having children out of wedlock.
We have convinced ourselves that we need some guy, but we really need are real MEN. We have bought into this idea that sex is everything and you can't know a guy until you sleep with him. And we wonder why the divorce rate is over 50%. I speculate if we did some kind of survey and asked: Did you live together first?, Did you have sex before marriage?, Did you have a child out of wedlock? I can almost assure you that most of divorces occur when these factors are in play. I'm not saying if you have premarital sex you are doomed I'm proof that that's not true. I'm simply saying if we respect and love ourselves first "that guy" will become "THE ONE" that will love and respect you too.
I personally did some of these things I knew having sex before marriage was wrong, but I bought into the bull of the world that said "it's okay", I can only blame myself, but sex being everywhere didn't help. Then, I got pregnant and that's when all heck broke loose. We moved in together constantly asking the same questions "Where is relationship going?" "Does he love me for me or because I'm having his baby?" "Will he ever marry me?" And with all the fighting, yelling, feeling guilt for committing sin and not knowing how I/WE were going to make it, my sins caused me morepain then I'll ever be willing to admit, (to anyone, but God) but then after much soul searching and praying. We had our son and got married. Now we live a more devout life and try to tell other people our story. But I was blessed I realized I was wrong sought God and through Jesus Christ started living a better Christian lifestyle, but I know there are women out there who have similar stories. You're living with a guy and he won't commit, but who would rather settle for that then be alone. Remember this: YOU ARE NOT ALONE! GOD IS WITH YOU AND WILL SEE YOU THROUGH ANYTHING WHEN YOU SEEK HIM FIRST.