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How Are you Affected by International Marriages

Updated on April 6, 2017
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Are you affected by International Marriages?

International marriages are unique, and need working as any other marriage.

Why do I see in international marriages as different?

I married a Croatian man and that changed my life.

We met in South Africa and he chose to come home. My life was fine but he felt the urge to go home. He needed to move back to his place of birth and to reunite with family.

Foreigners marrying each other from different backgrounds are a challenge.

Culture, language, self-confidence, compromise, love, children, conflicts, unhappiness, sadness, anger, frustration, and the different lifestyles, the changes in daily activities, and so much more can affect you in an international marriage.

Are you capable of handling these issues in an international marriage?

Any marriage can have problems but, the an international marriage is challenging and not much is accepted in this type of marriage.

Intercultural issues in a marriage need patience and respect for each other's families and friends.

The move to a foreign country for a couple can break a marriage or make a marriage.

Children involved in an international marriage need to learn the different languages.

In sharing the same qualities and the basic responsibilities are great influences from parents. Our lives changed in Croatia and still more changes lies there.

The traditional life changes you in many ways. I did not think much of it but now see how much I have changed in this life.

If you appreciate exotic cultures you will have no problem moving to another country. Family and isolation is a problem for one of the partners.

Foreign spouses don't know much of how to move around in a new country.

Understanding is difficult when you have not lived in a foreign country.

The culture is a draw back if you don't have a clue of the culture from before.

You lose a part of your culture in living in the host country. The two cultures are unique and sharing such experiences together is a problem. In his country he dominates the tradition in the family.

For many international couples language is a barrier.

Communication is most difficult when you don't speak the language.

Lifestyle changes hits you hard.

You don't know what to expect in a foreign country.

Culture shock can be mild to severe.

Children caught up in between this lifestyle and changes are not affected as adults are in a foreign country. Adults become depressed and more alone.

Living abroad is not for the faint hearted.

International marriages are adventurous but you need to take it serious. Don't ignore the basic words.

You need to look at the world in a different way to be able to move to a foreign land.

Learn new skills, the new language, new behaviors, habits, understand each other more in communication and cope with two cultures. Marrying someone from a different background doesn't mean you will only get the good side of that marriage.

As in other marriages you are faced with the truth here. Marriages require commitment, attention, and work. So, don't think your move to a foreign country will destroy you instead think of it as another experience.

I know for a fact the language was a barrier for us and the mutual understandings grew tremendously. Suddenly, everything felt different.

Everything I was once familiar with is now gone.

Our differences in values and culture from both countries belong to us.

Don't forget your roots. You must go back to find yourself again.

You can find yourself in any place but, to go home and find yourself is a greater experience.

Avoid the uneasiness for future plans it can be hard if you don't want to do it.

I read, talked, and learned each day to improve my life in a foreign country.

International marriages are exciting and worth a try. You learn of exotic foods and people too.

You don't need to have the same beliefs to be in love with each other.

Financially you need to be secure and discuss money issues together.

Stressful moments can cause many negative thoughts in your head about the host country.

Be positive and enjoy what you have together.

Blaming each other for making the move too soon won't make work out for you.

Sometimes you can feel as a stranger in your hometown.

In a foreign place you feel that too. Time is what we needed and lots of effort to overcome the many obstacles in Croatia

I did not choose Croatia. My reasons for leaving my country came with my marriage. I eventually learned of my good choice. Now looking back, I won't change it for anything or anyone.

I developed in to a strong individual through all experiences in my host country.

My experience can bring light to those who have walked in my shoes.

When you choose to marry someone from another country you are taking the plunge as you would in any other marriage.

You are not prepared for what comes next.

I focused on the positives, and with our good sense of humor, is the way we coped with difficulties and challenges.

This doesn't mean we took everything lightly and not seriously. Most important we did not forget how to enjoy ourselves.

Some people forget to enjoy themselves when living in another country. Life becomes less valuable for those who dwell in the past.

Marriage works both ways not just the one way when in a host country.

It is simple to meet people from other cultures.

Modern lifestyles allows for such changes. You can fall in love with any one and you can't help who you fall in love with though often you wonder how it happened?

Sometimes you will find the one sided family meetings tiring. While you are not able to see your family but see his for most of the time since you are living in his country.

I felt that way but no longer. I chose to live in a different way.

I created my life the one that makes me happy.

As far as family is concerned he doesn't have much of family around. Family is important in many cultures and in different ways too.

Parenting in international marriages can be challenging.

In my case we were not faced with many challenges in raising our child.

Despite our different outlooks on each lifestyle from South Africa to Croatia we know what is best for our child.

An open mind says everything about us.

Living in a foreign country you need to have that open mind about life.

Off-course there was arguments more than before the challenges got bigger but we worked through it.

Patience allowed us to grow together. I am glad to have come this far and now can freely speak of my experiences in a foreign country.

Croatia is different to South Africa and in a way better.

Cultures deal uniquely with romance and that can slip away without you even realizing it.

I met many international couples and found that a good learning experience for me. It is harder in an international marriage but is still up to you on how you choose to deal with such issues.

You can pick and leave to go home or work on your marriage to keep your family together. Remember for better and worse works in international marriages too.

Happy marriages are not always visible and sometimes you may wonder if a good idea is?

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      Bill Holland 17 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Marriage is difficult with someone who lives in the same town...I can't imagine how difficult an international marriage would be. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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      Shaloo Walia 17 months ago

      Love can conquer all odds! But still many love marriages fail because of lack of understanding. A very interesting hub!

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      Marlene Bertrand 17 months ago from Northern California, USA

      You paint a very big picture for people to know what it is like to be in an international marriage. Cultural differences can bring the most difficult obstacles. Sometimes, we are so in love we think we can overcome the differences, but oftentimes it means one person or the other person must change completely to accommodate the relationship. In the beginning, we think we can do it, but over time, it just wears on a person. It is difficult, to say the least.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 17 months ago from Southern Illinois

      It would be very difficult for me to live in another country/culture, but they say that love conquers all obstacles.. Happy you have found peace..

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi MarleneB it's so nice to read your comments. When I moved to Croatia that's exactly what caused me so much unhappiness to change to accommodate the marriage. I didn't because I knew my happiness was slipping away. I am happy to be me. Thank you for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi billybuc thank for a valuable comment.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      swalia thank you very much for sharing your views.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      always exploring I have found peace in my comfortable zone. Love holds us together. Thank you for asking and commenting.

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      Paul Richard Kuehn 17 months ago from Udorn City, Thailand

      I have been involved in international marriages all of my life. I met my first wife in Taiwan, and my present wife in Thailand. Language and cultural differences are the biggest to reconcile in international marriages. I am sharing this with Hubpage followers.

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      Linda Crampton 17 months ago from British Columbia, Canada

      As I've said before, I admire the way in which you've adapted to life in Croatia, Devika. An international marriage must involve a lot of challenges! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences.

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      Nithya Venkat 17 months ago from Dubai

      It is a big change all the way from South Africa to Croatia. You have done well in adapting yourself to a totally new place. Am sure you must be missing your hometown but you can always go back to visit. Thank you for sharing your experiences.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi there Vellur I appreciate your presence at my hubs. Thank you for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC Thank you greatly for sharing your thoughts here. Always appreciated.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Paul Kuehn I am glad you understand my views here. I plan to write about my International marriage. Indian married to a Croatian and born in South Africa and now living in Croatia. Thank you.

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      Nell Rose 17 months ago from England

      Yes it must be difficult, especially if you really do like living near your family. Not sure if I could do it, so kudos to you DDE, nell

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      Mel Carriere 17 months ago from San Diego California

      When you get right down to it, people are all the same, despite differences in language, looks, and culture. Man and woman can learn to love each other and to share life in spite of all of this. I too am in an international marriage, 25 years now. Marriage is never easy and takes a lot of work, even when two people come from the same country.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Nell Rose you are so right, ''especially if you really do like living near your family'' I had to adapt to a change that got me feeling stronger at heart. Thank you very much for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Mel Carriere You sure understand what I mean here and so glad you came by. Thank you.

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      FlourishAnyway 17 months ago from USA

      You're very resilient and adventurous to have faced successfully the challenges involved with an international marriage. Although it's not something I could do personally -- especially moving to another country -- I am in awe of your commitment to one another.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 17 months ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      All marriages are challenging to keep though cultural differences make it all the more challenging but faith and the will to give and take makes for a well adjusted and successful marriage.

      Glad you could do it.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi FlourishAnyway my life changed in sort time and over the years I just focused on what made me happy along the way with many obstacles. So glad you came by. Love can hold to people together through all times. We made it work for us. Thank you.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      rajan jolly thank you very much for sharing that.

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