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How Can I Get A God-Sent Husband-I'm Tired of Waiting -Part III

Updated on March 27, 2014

Since my first two articles on this topic, I've been amazed and humbled by the comments I've received. There are many women out there waiting to get married, just like I was. What has been most eye-opening are the relationship stories many have shared--stories that emphasizes how many women are settling for less that what they truly deserve.

It is extremely important, ladies, that you know your worth and maintain a standard in your relationships that reflects the value you are. If you want God to send you a certain type of man, why are you dating men that are opposite of what we are looking for. Don't waste your time!

Here are some additional tips for those waiting on God.

You Must Have Faith

You have to start believing God for the mate He wants you to have. Romans 14:7 tells us to call those things which be not as though they are. Start believing that you will marry the right man. Start praying it. Make confessions and affirmations. Start speaking it. Say "I believe I will marry the right person. God is having our paths cross at the right time. I will hear from God and will not miss it and marry the wrong one." Live by those affirmations.


His Rejection is God's Protection

There is nothing more heartbreaking than being dumped by some guy. It can be humiliating and can really damage a woman's self-esteem. If you're not careful, depression can set in and you feel defeated in life. This is how the enemy sneaks in and tries to kill, steal and destroy. Don't let the devil tell you that something is wrong with you.Use failed relationships as an opportunity to grow and improve yourself. Look at his rejection as God's protection. If he is not the one God wants for you, being dumped is God's will. Remember that God can see things that we can't.

Know What You Want

You need to know what matters to you. If you want kids and he doesn't, then chances are the relationship will fail. You must be completely honest with yourself and each other about your dreams, goals and future plans. There must be common ground or it will eventually become exposed in the relationship and will cause problems. Don't think that God will work it out and ignore the red flags. That is a huge mistake. When things don't work, you can't blame God. You can only blame yourself because you went in the relationship with your eyes open.

Don't Settle!

Sometimes we are so desperate to get married that we just settle. Don't get into a relationship with someone who has a different vision for your life. The Bible says how can two walk together unless they agree. Being equally yoked is so important in a relationship.

One of the things I've picked up from reading many of the comments I've received is that woman are settling big time. Women are shacking up when they don't want to, but in order to keep him, they will settle- knowing that this doesn't please God. Women are allowing men to be in another relationship with someone else in addition to them--that's another form of settling. Women are allowing men to drag a relationship on for years and years with no commitment. They are praying that it will end soon. Trust me when I say this, if it takes him more than 2 years to commit to you, there may never be a commitment. It's decision time. I'm not one to advise ultimatums. Let me ask you this--Is the type of commitment you want one where you've pushed him in a corner? You want him to freely commit. You make the decision to move on. If he is the one, he will come running after you!

Ladies-it's time out for settling and desperation. It's time in to pray, have faith and trust God. Know your worth. Believe God to bring marriage to pass in His time. Trust Him. Get ready to receive your blessing.


God-Sent Husband, Part I

God-Sent Husand, Part II

From A Male's Heart: When Looking For A God-Sent Man

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      Ebony 24 months ago

      Hello love the story made me really sit down and think for a few minutes. I am a christian and I am waiting for God to send me my husband and at times I must admit I complain because I am single. I learned a lot from reading your article and I want to say thank you. I needed to read that to keep me on the path of waiting. I know it won't always be easy but it will be worth it and I am going to share this with a few other single ladies from the church who may need a boost. Thanks again. And God bless you and your family.

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      Trina 2 years ago

      Hi. I'm blessed by your testimony.

      Do you think it's because a man is not right for me, that almost everyone who expresses interest, I feel nothing or almost nothing as far as connection? This has been going on a while. Some people think someone "will grow on you if you get to know them. Why would I just go along for the ride with someone I don't feel a connection to, meanwhile their feelings may be intensifying. It isn't fair to either party.

      I think when you meet the one you would have some kind of mutual connection and if you don't it's probably a big indicator. I think some people think they can talk someone into being interested or convince someone with their actions.

      Or maybe it's dangerous to go by feelings? I pray and I just feel like

      I haven't met my husband yet.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      You deserve so much more. Keep praying and I'll do the same! Thanks for stopping by!

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      Waiting on God 3 years ago

      All of this even the posts are so so very helpful. I'm 36 years old and just got out of a relationship I've been I for almost 5 years on and off. It has been a total emotional rollercoaster. We get back together after he decides to leave and he decides he's unhappy again and leaves again. I put so much into this man and always looked for his approval on everything. I felt so unloved. I lost my self esteem and my joy and zest for interests I used to have. I'm still hurting right now but also praying and trusting God to send me the man of his choice not mine. Keep me in your prayers as I will do the same God bless!!

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Lynn- Thank you so much for your words of kindness and encouragement. Be encourage and stand strong in The Lord! Thanks for stopping by.

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      lynn77 3 years ago

      I have enjoyed reading thus blog and all the comments. I'm 37 yes old. I'm saved and single. In also waiting on my God sent husband. Turns out I have been in the right track during my wait. I have been working on myself, praying, studying Gods word. Working on my God given purpose for being here. So to all my single sisters be encouraged. God has a plan for us. I pray for you to continue in Gods plan for your life. I stand in agreement with you that your God sent husband is on his way to you in Gods time. Thanks to this blog author. Your advice was helpful. I receive that in Jesus Name!

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Hi Kelea: You bear by loving yourself and God and quit fantasizing about someone you don't even know. God created as whole beings who should love Him and ourselves. You put yourself down. Are you going to a Bible beleiving and Bible teaching church? If not, find one and join quickly and get involved in ministry and make christian friends who will help encourage you an build you up. Stay in touch and thanks for stopping by.

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      kelea 3 years ago

      Hi Karen, I've read your post but am still in great need of advice. Im a 33 year old virgin. I try my best to turn my despair to Jesus, but how can I turn to friends when I really don't have any? Every time I think I've made a friend, female or male, I always find myself alone. No one wants to talk, they won't talk. My voicemails are ignored, they won't talk when they're in pain. I don't have the money to go out. My personal life is even worse because I have to bear everything. I had to hold my dads hand in his divorce, I had to do the jail time and still have to pay $25 thou for a crime he committed but no one would believe me innocent for. Let me stop rambling on lol. Let me just say I don't think anyone can love me, no matter how nice I am. That's why I decided to love from afar some one who still doesn't know I exist. I fell in love ten years ago with a man whose picture I saw. And I really mean in love! I tried to find out as much as possible about him through interviews, articles and books. When I found out about his marriage I wanted to die even more. I prayed to God and asked only that he make him happy. Recently I found out he's now divorced. I don't know whether to be happy or not about this. I really feel a bond with him despite the fact we've never met and but by his manners and behavior I really think that he is the one for me, since I never had anything real to ever look forward to. Ive dreamt about him, prayed for him. I know its practically impossible that we'll ever meet or that or that he'd feel anything for me. But what else do I have since I never been anything but alone? My life has been hell particularly this year, I've lost my liberty, my reputation, my self respect at work, and my job, my health-- I've lost so much weight and my hair's falling out . I just want to be in Gods arms, since he's the only one who can love me! The Bible says God won't put more temptation/trials on anyone that they can bear. How can I bear?

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Ash: Thank you for your awesomeness! Thanks for stopping by.

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      Ash x) 3 years ago

      Wow!! This really has hit home!! I`m 23, never dated :( I`m SOOO GLAD God has revealed his purpose for me this early in life! In HS I was never interested in dating (my mom wouldn't allow it anyway lol) and I didn't date in college (my mom suggested I get a career and degree first) I thank God for keeping me during college! It really is tough. I went to a very secular and liberal private Art school. Everyone perplexed at why I was a virgin despite being.."beautiful"..which is only skin deep btw. God could easily take away any physical appearance, it's the inside that counts!) But I believe God used me in college, it seemed NO one had seen a virgin that looked decent. In itself that is the DUMBEST (excuse my French) thing I've every heard. Virginity doesn't have a standard of beauty!! They started to feel convicted and realized it may not have been the right to have given their purity at such a young age (myfriend is japanese, and gave hers up @ about 15..which is the norm there..I was shocked o.O. But they also realized how much one could give up for God! God WILL use you in your purity! I heard trends start to happen when little by little people start to stand up and try it. That's what I'm hoping to do with my purity! (Except this trend was born since day 1 of Gods creation of the world..we'll just be bringing it back xD) it is very hard though. I used to struggle horribly with fantasies, imagining what he'd look like then participating in sexual acts (in my mind if course...I may be a virgin physically but my mind is not :( im glad God delivered me! I don't even think about it anymore! But I'm continuing to pray earnestly, setting an example to the world (especially to the children I teach in ministries)

      Hang in there women!! We got this! Do not sulk and allow society to see how miserable this walk is!! Show them we could easily be as happy as they are without a man, but as God in replacing!!

      We are married to Christ!! Until he sees us as worthy wives, he won't pass us on to put ordained husbands! Let's get to work!!!

      Thanks for the article! Had made me feel 100x more confident and had skewed me to have more faith!

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      Gloria 3 years ago

      Thx for the response and God bless.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Sure you can ask God, but if it is not his will, it won't happen. Why not ask God to let his will be done and let your desires be in line with his will. Thanks so much for stopping by.

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      Gloria 3 years ago

      As a christian woman waiting on the Lord. Can you meet a man and start asking God to incline the desires of your heart with his and make thus man yours.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Lauren, When we force, we take matters in our own hands instead of allowing God to work on our behalf. Thanks for stopping by!

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      Lauren 3 years ago

      What a wonderful article. Thank you for your input. It has helped me tremendously. I will really focus on me and what I can add to the relationship. These things have to happen naturally, they cannot be forced. So true

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Ashley, Friendship is a strong foundation for a relationship. Just think friends. The Bible says a friend must show himself friendly. Be a friend and lot God take it to another level, not you. If it is His will, it will come to pass without you having to pursue. Please stay in touch and share my articles with your friends. Thanks for stopping by.

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      Ashley 3 years ago

      Great article. I've been single for most of my life. I've been on dates with guys but nothing ever really came from any of them. I've been hurt a lot in my life but there's a man who is so different than any other guy I've ever met. In my past, I would try to pursue guys (not all of them). But with this guy, I want to do it differently. He is someone at work and I had to email him about a meeting and I mentioned that I see him around the office but we've never officially met yet and that I hoped we could soon. When I read the part in your article about pursuing guys, I got scared. I don't want to do that...I want him to pursue. Now I'm worried I've ruined it and God will be upset. I didn't ask him out or for his number...I just said I hoped we could be introduced soon. He's always looking at me, smiling, walking by, etc. I know he and I haven't really met, but something about him makes everything in my life make sense. All my mistakes, choices, relationships, etc...feels like they all led me to this. I don't want to do anything to jeopardize that. Did I already?? Or am I thinking too much into it? I know God has a plan, I just hope I didn't ruin it.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Rebekah,

      Great! When you are ready, email your content to Karen at evans4yourlife@gmail.com. Please send your bio and picture along with it. I'm excited for you!

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      Rebekah 3 years ago

      Evans4life, I would love to be a guest author. You are very right in saying my age group is disappearing from churches, and I would love the opportunity to help my peers hold onto their faith during this time.

      Thank you so much!

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Rebekah, You speak words of wisdom at your age. Very impressive. Maintaining a walk with God while in college is very difficult. The age of 18-23 is disappearing from our churches because it is the age where young adults are free to explore the world and forget their walk with God. Stand firm in your Christian upbringing. If you are interested in being a guest author on my blog, www.evans4life.net, let me know. Your age group needs to hear your words. Stay in touch and thanks for stopping by.

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      Rebekah 3 years ago

      Thanks for all 3 articles! I'm still very young (20), so I have a ways to go, but the way society is, the pressure to conform and be in a relationship can be suffocating. I almost gave in a couple months ago when I starting hanging out with a guy with plenty of interest in me, but none in God. I got caught up in what my peers were telling me I should be instead of focusing on who I was in Christ. I felt like an outcast for being the only girl in college I knew who'd never even held hands with a guy, so I tried to attach to the first guy who showed an interest. It was miserable to try to pretend to be something I wasn't. Luckily God brought me to my senses quickly, and I learned a lot from that situation. First of all, God used it to show me that a guy could actually be interested in me, which until that point I didn't believe. It also showed me exactly what I DID NOT want in a guy. So I fully surrendered my "love life" to God, and a few weeks later I met a godly man whose character matched what I prayed for since I was a little girl. He is obedient to God and unashamed to show the love of Jesus, and just watching his walk helped me to really seek God again and restore my own. I don't know if he will actually be the man God has for me for the long haul, but if nothing else, God has showed me that true God-honoring men do exist, and He sees my desire for a Christ-centered relationship. What I've learned the most is that when you are praying God's will, examine your heart to make sure that you are praying it sincerely. Many times we pray God's will expecting the outcome to be what WE wanted it. Be faithful to God even when His will doesn't meet your expectations. 1 Corintians 2:9. God Bless!!

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      TyeshaR- It's tough! Remember you are not alone. Hold your ground! Don't settle. Stay busy working for The Lord. Please share my articles with you close friends. Also check out http://evans4fashion.com

      Stay in touch and thanks for stopping by.

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      TyeshaR 3 years ago

      Hi. I love these articles! You are blessed. My problem is after my lasg relationship I said I won't be in a relationship I refuse to settle for less, I told myself I will not be intimate nor have a relationship with a guy and I have kept it that way. I know I'm not ready but sometimes I get so lonely.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Marsha, It sounds to me like there are more issues you need to address. The fact that you are single is not a deal breaker for life. Is it low self-esteem? Depression? Trust me, marriage will not fix whatever it is! You need to deal with it first! Please talk to a strong Christian, like your Pastor or Elder. Prayerfully than can set you on the path to wholeness. You need to be whole first! Please stay in touch and thanks for stopping by.

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      marsha 3 years ago

      I have been praying for 30 yrs.for a husband.i cry a lot.i am sick of being alone.all my brothers and sister are married.i am alone most of the time.you are a miss fit at church.every one is a couple.its very painful for me.sometimes I pray that I die.but God doesn't even do that.i have thought of killing my self many times.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Anna, What wisdom you have! Continue to be strong and seek God first. Everything else will fall into place. I wish I had your determination and drive at age 23! You will receive a great reward.

      Stay in touch and thanks for stopping by.

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      Anna 3 years ago

      Thanks a lot for your articles! I'm very impressend by all of you commenting women who've already been waiting on God for such a long time and still won't settle. I'm 23 and only had one short relationship in my life jet because I realised that I don't want to waste my time in a relationship to a man that I'd never want to marry. He wasn't saved and I'm glad I didn't made the mistake of letting him take my purity away. My walk with God has become more and more intimate during the last months and I feel that he wants me to work on my personality. I've decided that if God doesn't want me to marry than that's it. And I pray that I trust him enough to still think that way when the years go by.

      I'll pray for myself but also for all of the unmarried women in need of a godly husband.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Stacy, Awesome words of encouragement. It is so hard to keep our self esteem as singles when a man tells us we're not the one! It hurts deeply. But God can heal the wounds of a broken heart and help us remember just what you size- we are the prize. We are precious jewels! It's HIS loss! Stay strong! Thanks for sharing your story... Remember- "in God's Time!" Thanks for stopping by.

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      Stacy 3 years ago

      This was a much needed read. Thank you for writing them all. As we all have stated, I feel like I've been forgotten in this arena. What I have to remind myself sometimes on a daily basis, is that, God has given me so much, why wouldn't he give me the desire of my heart to be married to the man He would have for me. I am 32 yrs old with a successful career, home, attractive and wonder a lot... What's wrong with me. It seems that everyone else's husband or boyfriend thinks that I have "secondary chic" written on my forehead. I refuse to be 2nd to anyone! The most recent person I dated said he liked me, he was attracted to me but said he didn't see a future with me being his wife. This hit me like a ton of bricks when he said it. I figured it may be a little early in the relationship so I'll give it sometime. Lucky for me after 6 mos. it did not. I have finally decided after 6 mos. of waiting my time that this person is simply not what God has for me. Stay strong ladies and as a really good friend of mine often reminds me "I am the prize". A man that findeth a wife, find etch favor in The Lord. I have faith that He will send the right man for me

      ~Stacy

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      Jenny 3 years ago

      I know I'm late commenting on this but I just found this article today. I'm in the early stages of another broken heart :-/ I'm 33 and all I've ever wanted was to get married & have kids...have a family of my own. Every time another guy drops me... I just feel more and more hopeless. They all say the same thing.. "I'm really attracted to you.. I really like you & I really like spending time with you" .. I just don't have "a feeling". I definitely feel like God has forgotten about me. Like I'm never going to measure up for anyone.... Has He forgotten about me? /Does He care?

      ~Jenny

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      lonely 3 years ago

      Thanks for the articles~

      I will be 38 this Jan 23rd 2014... I am a single white woman who has fought to keep my virginity and purity... (Although, its always a temptation)

      I fear my eggs will shrivel up before I find the husband God (hopefully) has planned for me... :( As I would desire at least two biological children...

      I am open to any race, but hope for a strong Christian and he who holds all God's commandments in his heart.

      I sometimes feel God has forgotten me... Not just in finding a loving partner but also in other parts of my life...

      I truly appreciate the articles you wrote. May God bless you my sister in Christ.

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      christianlady 3 years ago

      I like what I just read, however I am a divorced woman who is waiting for a very long time that I passed child-baring age. my ex remarried, so God grant him with his wish but me.. and all my friends are married now. I want to be proud that as a married woman and make my parents proud of me. I feel I am failure and try to hide from my old college friends because I am divorced and lonely old woman. I got involved in church, but I am lonely inside. went to counseling and didn't help me get a husband. got involved in many exercise program, found myself I am the only single woman. went online and found all men went sexual relationship which I am oppose to it. I don't left my head up since I feel I am a frailer. I pray to God and cry but not sure if God is listening to me. I don't know what to do since I am getting older. if God bless us with what we desire, well I no longer can have children which I always wanted. Not sure what to do.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Joan, It's very tough...been there. Keep the faith and trust God. Thanks for stopping by.

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      Joan 3 years ago

      Your article has been very encouraging,but its not easy though. I'LL still be patient,after all, in him I trust. God bless you.

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      Evans4life 4 years ago

      patient- I believe that those who God has chosen to remain a lifetime single for a higher purpose are at peace with it--like Paul was. Your answer may be "wait" not no. Continue to pray, seek God's face and do just that "wait" on the Lord.

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      patient 4 years ago

      Everything u said is very true. I've been living alone for 7 years now. Sometimes I get lonely but I have God's. Peace. How can I know if my answer to prayer is really a no. It would be a miracle. I don't want to claim finding a husband if God doesn't want one for me

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      Evans4life 4 years ago

      @Christina Unfortunately God did not bless me with natural children. As a young woman, not having children was never a thought...I always thought I would have them, but it just never happened for me. I am at peace with it and I have three stepdaughers and 2 grandsons by marriage and am thankful for them. Sometimes our life plans just don't work the way we think they should. When we are walking with God,He will give us peace when life takes a different turn.

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      CHRISTINA 4 years ago

      BEING THAT YOU DIDN'T GET MARRIED UNTIL YOUR FIFTIES, WHAT ABOUT HAVING CHILDREN?

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      Evans4life 4 years ago

      @Preacher---- Loved your commets....Ladies...who wouldn't want a man who tries to honor God in his body and life. What a rare find. Thanks for stopping by! Stay connected please!

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      Preacher 99 4 years ago

      Ok ladies I am a Christian man here I stumbled across the site and looked at a few posts. I am a part time preacher and currently raising my support for a national ministry here in Canada. I know you ladies deep desire to have a man. I am single I wear a #12 Chastity ring on my right hand. People make fun of me when they find out I am still a virgin and in late 30's. The men at one secular job posted a sign on my back one day that said Please be nice to me I am still a Virgin. I figured it out four hours later! Crazy Canucks ever watched strange brew?

      So ladies us men go through tough times to honour God and stay pure for you. It has been a difficult road last couple of years with tremendous temptations when I travel. My married friends wives can't believe I am still not snatched up! They tell me I am so handsome and look stunning in a suite green eyes gym build get it! Bla bla I don't believe it though so maybe that's good I don't know.

      So here is what us men go through for God and our future spouse. I am preparing my message for a Church 600 in attendance ok speaking on Jonah I call him The little man with a bad attitude so I take a break I am out at a restaurant like an Applebee's with some friends this beautiful blue eyed blond who had been drinking comes up to our table slams her purse on the table puts her keys next to my hand pulls up a chair strattles it and takes her knee rubs it inside my thigh looks me strait in the eye and says I am ready to go! WOW to tell you the truth the voice I heard In My head was from the Devil I believe and it was This would be so easy now nobody would ever know! Then I realized that was from the Devil! A few seconds later a girlfriend came over and they left together! I am telling you men go through a lot to try to stay pure and honour God. And we also try and do it for you as well ladies its tough out there for men especially ones who want to see people get saved. My pastor friend could not believe that boldness in her! You need to keep praying for your men that God will put some armour plate around their heart, eyes and mind.

      I get really lonely as well but a lot of it for me is a piratical attack. Oh and by the way I have not had that much luck in the dating christian woman thing. When I was in Seminary I asked out 6 women they all turned me down LOL ! I can't figure them out they say they wand a Godly man but go out with them. Anyway hopes this helps somebody.

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      Faith 4 years ago

      My prayer is that we, as women of God, will know our identity in Christ. Because when we know who we are, we won't settle for any ole man. We will have standards, which I didn't have six years ago. I dated unsaved men who treated me like garbage. I settled because the question was always, "Where are all the saved men?" Certainly not in the church building...at least not in the churches I've attended over the years. But in January '07, I decided it was time for change…I couldn't stand the life that I had created. So I kissed dating goodbye, recommitted my life to the Lord, and told Him that I only want the one He has for me. And I absolutely believe that God is more than able to bring my hubby and me together at His divine, appointed time without my help, being that I've never been good at choosing a decent man. And guess what? He's holding me to my word. I have not met any men or gone out with any men since '06...it's like He has me in His hiding place. This is a long wait. I didn't know I would still be waiting six years later after I decided to submit to His will, but yet I wait and still I trust in His faithfulness. I know that my husband already exists. It's just a matter of time before we meet.

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      Deslandres 4 years ago

      Ty! Will do

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      Evans4life 4 years ago

      Deslanres: I applaud you and will continually pray for God's will in your life. Keep me posted!

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      Deslandres 4 years ago

      I too, have never been married, and I'm still pure in my 40's. strangely enough, God revealed a specific man when I was in my early 20's, but at that very young age, I never knew it was God, nor did I know I had the prophesy gift.

      Years later I learned that God was revealing the man I was originally supposed to marry, but the man I guess couldn't wait, and became a modern day Jonah, when he jumped right into a marriage with someone else; And this was the very man God revealed to me in my early 20's. it took 10 years before God got a hold of me and wouldn't let go until I realized that it was He who revealed this man. Also, I later discovered I have the prophesy gift when way too many things ended up coming true that I saw in many visions that were all too close together. Finally, I'm an abuse survivor who once feared marriage, (I won't let anyone abuse me ever again). I normally won't date, since I want a man from a "proper" family, and I won't settle for less.

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      Evans4life 4 years ago

      If he is in another relationship, then there shouldn't be any uncertainity. Cut your ties. Don't try to manufacture your own happiness, it will likely backfire. Trust God!

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      mo mo 4 years ago

      The only reason its uncertaiy is cause he is in a realtion ship. Uncernaity is I don't know if he is the one. I'm just gonna say forge k

      tired of wating! I dn

      thik there is that man of God I feel like I'm wasting my time just wating I refuse to wait in my 40 to be happy! ! No no offense to u. I

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      Evans4life 4 years ago

      Momo: There should not be uncertaininty. You should know he is the one. Such a big question mark leads me to more frustration. You can't receive what God has if your hands are clenching something else. Stay in touch. Thanks for stopping by.

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      momo 4 years ago

      My problem is liking the wrong person! I don't know if he is or not but I'm tired of wating unknowing, frustrated I rather just move on I refuse to settle! I Pray about it unanswered prayer.or answered just not paying attention.

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      Evans4life 4 years ago

      dashingscorpio: Thanks for your comments. I never said God will gift wrap a man to you. I am saying that if you have a relationship with God and ask for his direction, he will do just that. When a woman has to wait an eternity, deal with unfaithfullness and the other antics of some men, that should be a red flag. Many women ignore red flags. The law of action will propel the woman to not settle for something that she really doesn't want for the sake of being in a relationship. Many women out there do just that. Thanks for stopping by.

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      dashingscorpio 4 years ago

      Very interesting topic.

      Although I do tend to think some people use God as a cop out. The truth is God has already made 7 billion people and about half of those are men. Expecting God to gift wrap a man or woman and send them to our doorstep is probably unrealistic. Even a lottery winner purchases a ticket.

      The law of attraction does not replace the law of action. I think it's great to ask God for direction but it's up to us to use the brain he gave us as well. Awhile back I wrote about a woman who blamed the church for women being lonely and single. https://hubpages.com/relationships/Black-Women-Is-...