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How Can I Get A God-Sent Husband-I'm Tired of Waiting -Part III
Since my first two articles on this topic, I've been amazed and humbled by the comments I've received. There are many women out there waiting to get married, just like I was. What has been most eye-opening are the relationship stories many have shared--stories that emphasizes how many women are settling for less that what they truly deserve.
It is extremely important, ladies, that you know your worth and maintain a standard in your relationships that reflects the value you are. If you want God to send you a certain type of man, why are you dating men that are opposite of what we are looking for. Don't waste your time!
Here are some additional tips for those waiting on God.
You Must Have Faith
You have to start believing God for the mate He wants you to have. Romans 14:7 tells us to call those things which be not as though they are. Start believing that you will marry the right man. Start praying it. Make confessions and affirmations. Start speaking it. Say "I believe I will marry the right person. God is having our paths cross at the right time. I will hear from God and will not miss it and marry the wrong one." Live by those affirmations.
His Rejection is God's Protection
There is nothing more heartbreaking than being dumped by some guy. It can be humiliating and can really damage a woman's self-esteem. If you're not careful, depression can set in and you feel defeated in life. This is how the enemy sneaks in and tries to kill, steal and destroy. Don't let the devil tell you that something is wrong with you.Use failed relationships as an opportunity to grow and improve yourself. Look at his rejection as God's protection. If he is not the one God wants for you, being dumped is God's will. Remember that God can see things that we can't.
Know What You Want
You need to know what matters to you. If you want kids and he doesn't, then chances are the relationship will fail. You must be completely honest with yourself and each other about your dreams, goals and future plans. There must be common ground or it will eventually become exposed in the relationship and will cause problems. Don't think that God will work it out and ignore the red flags. That is a huge mistake. When things don't work, you can't blame God. You can only blame yourself because you went in the relationship with your eyes open.
Sometimes we are so desperate to get married that we just settle. Don't get into a relationship with someone who has a different vision for your life. The Bible says how can two walk together unless they agree. Being equally yoked is so important in a relationship.
One of the things I've picked up from reading many of the comments I've received is that woman are settling big time. Women are shacking up when they don't want to, but in order to keep him, they will settle- knowing that this doesn't please God. Women are allowing men to be in another relationship with someone else in addition to them--that's another form of settling. Women are allowing men to drag a relationship on for years and years with no commitment. They are praying that it will end soon. Trust me when I say this, if it takes him more than 2 years to commit to you, there may never be a commitment. It's decision time. I'm not one to advise ultimatums. Let me ask you this--Is the type of commitment you want one where you've pushed him in a corner? You want him to freely commit. You make the decision to move on. If he is the one, he will come running after you!
Ladies-it's time out for settling and desperation. It's time in to pray, have faith and trust God. Know your worth. Believe God to bring marriage to pass in His time. Trust Him. Get ready to receive your blessing.