Marriage and Communication

the institution of marriage is the culmination of everything that makes life beautiful. marriage is wonderful when love is present.

communication is one way of keeping one's marriage alive.

marriage or matrimony is wedlock of two hearts been joined together as one. it signifies that bond of love now becoming joined...

marriage is the biggest step in life one takes... it is not just a step up, it is a step that keeps going on and on, you never reach the end, you only pause...

Many times marriages are taken for granted, that once the honeymoon is over, everything goes back to normal...

Yes, everything will come back to normal, but with the two people doing it... It is they, not I, and it doesn't mean that love stops, no, it is the beginning of a new phase of love, happiness, self-indulgence, give meaning to life, and whole experience in doing things you once did alone...

No two persons will relate to a similar interest in the same way... no, but doing it together adds a new touch, feelings, ...

Marriage is a bond that connects two persons for a lifetime..... It signifies the coming together of two hearts into one... Today, Marriages are not just about a man and a woman; it can be two men or two women.... marriages are sacred and not just a toy. it's a lifetime bond, and should be held protected at all times.

Marriages were instituted to make the bond of love and sex legal, to give precedence to both parties, and to guarantee their status and rights.

In olden times, marriage was held high; a woman's status was elevated once she became a wife.

When one looks back at the Golden Ages; one tends to wonder how these marriages survived such a long time, but if someone from that period were to be alive today they will tell you of the ups and downs they faced and the many challenges that came then, then we have today...

Today technology has made communication simple and life in general... But why is it that today's generation is facing more Divorce than ever... People will end a marriage for trivial things such as Suspicion, jealousy, or lack of Communication... Today, we rely too much on technology, and we stop speaking face to face. Everything we want to say, we text or email. We avoid facing others. This concept is wrong, yItIt! it is good for work, queries, etc, but not personal problems, Personal problems need to be sorted out with both parties sitting in that room facing each other, so that reaction can be seen and felt. a meltdown of the heaEveneven sex is not there anymore, they are too tired, or just don't seem to want each other in that sense...What has gone wrong? What is it that makes us so distraught that we forget our happiness and wellbeing... why are we so concerned about what is to come than what is present?

marriage was intended to be what it is today, it was meant to keep society and social norms intact. it was always sited as the best thing to happen. it was always the most joyous occasion, it brought families together, it brought communities together when persons from two community got married.

Divorce was allowed for extreme cases of indifference.

trust is long gone out the window, many people today simply don't know what that word is or mean. they just shrug their shoulders and give you a cross look. we have allowed distrust to be the norm, trivial things we lie about, why can't we be open anymore. why do we have to lie? is it that we no longer trust our own selves anymore. do we feel this subject that we have to lie for any and everything?

Manypeoples find themselves in a position where they fear their partne 'ss reaction or simply they can't find the right words or time...If one knows that his / her partner has a short Fus,e they find the situation even harder... people everywhere will say to you "oh I fear his / her reaction".Iff you love someone, you sleep with that person, why then should you be afraid of them?

Never allow yourself to become a shadow of who you areMarriagege should give freedom to someone, to allow that person to grow both spiritually and physically. It was never meant to take away that free spirit. For both parties to mature together in strength and unityButut we find today with all that is happening, the stress and worry over the ki,s. That person sometimes is a shadow of who they wereTheyey forgot the good times, the laughter, the time when taking care of themselves meant more than an hour in front of the mirror.

Many suffer in silence, many become depressed, Many will take to Drinking to ease the pain inside... Some just leave without notice... All of this can be avoided if a person sits and discusses what is on their mind... ask an alcoholic and he/she will tell you the problems they have. Butt is drinking the answerNono!Drinking is never and will never be the answer, it causes more pain in the end.

if you feel stifledepressedpress in your marriage, don't just leave. Leaving will not solve any fact; it will leave more unanswered questions, and you will still wonder what if I had stayed and said something? We all, from time to time, encounter some difficulty in our marriage, but that doesn't mean you just pack up and leave. No, you have the option of speaking your mind. Always remember life is never static. Everything is for a time for happiness, time for sadness, time for kids.

in marriage there is bound to be mistakes, remember the things that you were accustomed to doing by yourself is now to be done with your spouse. everything that you love to do will now have to be shared ... some many not go well, some may be accepted... these are all the flaws that will be adjusted over time...

the flames of marriage must never be allowed to go out, it must always burn bright, then and only then will that marriage survive the tides.

(1) be supportive of each other, in every way. look many persons marry persons whose interest is not compatible with theirs, but that doesn't have to be a problem, no you can both once in a while enjoy the other interest... show your spouse that you care in what they do, ask how was work, and read up on what they do so you both can have a healthy conversation on the subject...

(2) don't keep secrets from each other unless it is something past before the marriage... secrets never do a marriage any good. in fact, it can hurt a marriage and destroy the trust that you both work so hard to build; yes, one little mistake can ruin an entire marriage...

(3) find time for each other, travel, nice romantic getaway, or dinner... marriage is not the end of romance it is the start of a lifelong relationship of pure honest love, that cement the bond of friendship... now you have someone to share your love, happiness, interest, even your sorrows...

(4) be spontaneous, don't be too routine minded, leave that for work... marriage should be routine minded, it should be a spur of the moment romance, dinners, anything that will bring you two closer...

(5)Don'tt neglect your kids or their problems, or soon you will find yourself in deeper problem, .which can affect the homeYeses, many parents don't check on their ki;s, they just assume that all is well with them, until they get involved with either the cops or the principal...

(6) don't yell, speak to each other in the most loving of terms. ( pet names). pet names for your spouse are good it makes them feel special and it lifts them overall moral, they know that you genuinely love them...

(7) don't bring strangers into your problems to solve. we tend to run to friends, that's a big no!! trying speaking to each other. many persons brought friends into their problems to solve, only to find that they encounter a greater one when their spouse becomes involved with the person...

(8) communication is one way of bringing your inner feelings to the fore. speaking your inner feelings is the only way you can get out what you really want to say if you keep back your feelings how will your spouse/partner know what really you want...

(9) grow old gracefully, don't be ashamed of the little extra weight you put on. think of the person in total and why you fell in love in the first place... know that aging is all part of human nature... leaving someone just because they got old will not solve yours, you too are old... a younger spouse will not love genuinely they will only want you for the money...

(10) both couples must put family first. yes, put yourself and your family first. every other person comes third. couples need to put themselves first, make sure the flames of love are burning brightly; kids should always feel that love and bond in the home... every other person is now to be included...

(11) never shut God out of your life. always give praise and thanks... god is the rock of anyone's life without him our life is dead, he gives meaning to life, he helps us when in difficulty, he is always there watching over us... our life is always in his hand...Followw these simple 11 step,s and you are on your way to a bright and happy marriage.

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The big c! Yes, the big C is communication!!Youu read right, communication is the key to all problem,s not just personal.

The time is now; tomorrow might be too late. Before you can s, ay it, the person is gone... If you feel that telling your spouse/ partner what is troubling you is wrong, then u are in the wrong (Denial)...would you prefer to hurt inside, rather than say what's eating at your soul. Many times, your worries may be false; just asking can free up the mind and put to rest what's been troubling you.

we communicate before the marriage, we talk and talk and say everything we have in our hearts, but why after the marriage, kids, we stop talking, I don't mean we don't speak, we speak, we yell, we talk about everyone else except ourselves. why is it that we can't speak about ourselves now that we are a family.

funny, before the marriage, you speak to each other so lovingly, now that you are married all that is heard is yelling, more yelling on both sides, about trivial things, the "honey, baby, & darling is out the window, in comes the explicit. name-calling and even the smallest problem will end up in both parties yelling and no one listening. the anger may last until the next day...

Before the marriage, we set goals, goals that we both wanted. Now, five/ ten years down the line, we may or may not have to achieve them, but don't you think it is time you set new goals ( shshort-termRethink what's importantRemember, er now that you have kids, you are aging, it is time to set your priorities for the future. If you don't talk about I, how will you get it started? Is sex a must or just a routine once in a while?. This needs to be in the open. Doo you have a retirement pla,?

have you set aside for your kid's college, have insurance in case something happens god forbid? these and more couples need to discuss. not wait until the catches up with you.

Why did God give man speech in the first place?

He gives it so we can give praise and thanks to him and to express what is in our heart...speech was given to make clear the things that we should know. to make clear the fear in our hearts and mTod. to ask questions and not follow blindly.

Communication is the only means of expressing our inner thoughts and feelings either by words or writing... we must communicate, at all times, we must look for common grounds. ask ourselves why did I fall in love with this person, why did I marry this person, why after the kids, love has dwindled?

When we have children, it makes it even harder to Divorce... Divorce should always be the last resort. Counselings should be mandatory... divorce can be ugly, and it has a long-lasting effect on the kids.

Let us, as Adults and mature persons, act as one... Let us find it in our hearts to compromise rather than let our selfish desires get the better of us...

How do we keep the Flames of Marriage Alive?

Simply by talking to our loved one about what they want, how they want it, and when...

Make sure you set the Ambiance right; get him/ her in the right frame of mind, then say it in a sweet and loving tone; look them straight in the eye,(Don't look down) and if possible hold their hands, and speak clearly and to the point...

Don't use too much poetry ... Be frank, don't push the issue hard... Allow room for suggestion and compromise...

The more you sit and talk about the issues that bother you the more at peace you will be; the less stressful you will feel and the more trust and confidence will be developed between the two of you...

Even if you leave without saying anything, the same will happen again, then again, how many times will you continue to leave your Marriage?

go back to basics, go back to the old fashion way. no amount of technology can rekindle your love is only by two persons been together, in the same place at the same time. love can never go out of style, it can only cool but once you can find that spark back it will burn brighter than ever.

don't let a simple problem doused the flames of love, sit and work the problem out, do it in an atmosphere of tranquility.

Simply talking to someone can help save a Marriage...

Just look at your parents and implement some of what you saw.

Why is communication important in marriage?

Communication is vital in marriage because it is the only way two people can get out what they want to say... You may have issues that either of you feels is not right, or you may want to rekindle that lost romance...

If you don't speak what's in your mind, then there will come a time when you are not able to stand the pressure anymore and you will walk out...

Don't wait to speak your mind, do it now...

3 simple tips on communication in the bedroom!!!

(1) set the mood right ... if you want to speak your mind to your spouse about what your feelings are, or what you want to do, make sure both of you are in the right mood to listen, don't speak when one is too tired or angry...

(2) set the ambiance right, maybe some scented candles, nice music, some wine whatever you see as the best...

(3) speak softly and in slow romantic tone, not the harsh one you used elsewhere... shower kisses as you speak ... let the speech be lite and to the point... be supportive of what the other has to say, listen, and if a compromise has to be let it be... for only by speaking your mind will you be able to move forward in your marriage with your mind free...