How Do I Deal With a Selfish Boyfriend?

Sometimes, us women can judge too harshly. If your man is stressed out or perhaps is going through something at work, you may assume that he is not giving you attention because he is selfish. Avoid jumping to conclusions. The first step is to observe him and see if this is something that he has been doing because of some other issues or is he really mean to you. Take stock of the situation and then make your decision.

If you think some of your needs are not being met the way they should in in a relationship then it's time to have a talk with your significant other. When you are having a talk with your partner it's very important that both of you are respectful of each other. Tell him specifically what you find unacceptable and ask him to listen to you. Don't make accusations like "you don't love me anymore" or "you hate me", instead tell them whatever the matter it. For instance: I've observed you don't weekends with me anymore and instead go out with your friends or whatever it is that's bothering you.

If you have a partner who is selfish, it's possible that when you start talking to him, he may not be that accepting of your views. Which is why it's important to tell him that you need to be heard respectfully. It's only when you communicate to each other in the coolest way possible that you'd be able to solve any issues. If he agrees to listen to you, make sure that you make your points firmly and if he denies something, provide evidence to support what you said.

Once you have told him what you needed to, observe how he reacts to your concerns. Is his natural response to what you say defensiveness? In that case, you can be sure that he is definitely guilty of selfish behavior. I am not saying that he is going to accept his mistakes immediately, but at the least he should not jump to defend himself he is is guilty. If he isn't ready to hear you out and mend his ways, then this relationship may not be worth all the pain. Selfishness can rarely be cured.

After you have done everything you could and you still don't have any positive response from him, ask yourself if you are being reasonable. It's true that you maybe right but there is always a possibility that you may not be. This is not an exact science and the only way to find out is to sit down and talk about and diagnose it. If you think that there is nothing in your relationship that's working out, then it maybe time to pull the plug.