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How Do I Pick Up That Girl?

Updated on September 5, 2013

The Basics

Some guys have all the luck.

Is that how you feel? If it is, you’ve come to the right place. Via this hub and others, I will teach you exactly how to be “the guy who has all the luck”. Of course, I encourage you to be loyal to Mrs. Right once you find her… but sometimes, she has been found but doesn’t think of you as Mr. Right. She will, though, she will. Keep reading, my friend.


I see too many decent guys out there who just don’t think hygiene is important. They may be the smartest, caringest, funniest guys out there… but their hair is greasy and smelly, their nose hairs are longer than their eyelashes, their ears have more wax than a beehive, their breath smells like horse manure… there are so many reasons that girls are turned off by the sight and smell of you.

Good hygiene is the first step. Without good hygiene, nothing else matters. No, not even oodles of cash.

- Wash your hair every day

- Take a shower just as often, use deodorant/anti-perspirant

- Brush your teeth morning, noon and night – floss at night

- Brush your tongue until it’s pink (the source of most bad breath)

- Clip those errant nose and ear hairs

- Don’t be caught picking your nose, scalp, or anything else in public

- If you’re going to see a girl, avoid sweating

The smell of a man matters a lot to a woman. It is better to smell like you just took a shower, rather than to smell like disgusting sweat + body spray. And usually, oily hair or sweaty pits connotes a disgusting smell. Don’t let yourself ever look or smell gross.


The next most important thing to worry about after basic hygiene is your hairstyle. Yes, hair matters even more than clothes, because women look at your face first – a face that’s easy on the eyes can overcome ugly clothes any day. Hair is the biggest component of a pleasing face (that you can control).

That said, don’t think that your hair is something you can be cheap about. A $5 haircut isn’t going to cut it (Bill Gates, although the richest man in the world, didn’t have many ladies knocking each other over for him). Spend some good money on an amazing hairstylist. Ask him or her to give you the most suitable hairstyle and to teach you how to do it up yourself.

See your hairstylist regularly… and remember, wash your hair every morning (then blow-dry) and do your hair appropriately. You must wash your hair in the morning (not night) and then blow-dry… hair that’s slept on will not retain the shape you want. This is not something to get lazy about.


Yeah. Yeah, we’ve all heard the saying, “Clothes make the man,” and this is true, but it only makes the man after your hygiene and hair are taken care of. After your hygiene and hair are taken care of, you can now worry about your clothes.

The rule with clothes for men is to wear clothes that fit well. The second part of, “Clothes make the man,” is, “Wear your clothes, don’t let your clothes wear you.” That simply means that hip-hop, baggy-style, I’m-wearing-my-daddy’s-castoffs is a no-no. Don’t wear clothes that are too big for you. I don’t care if you have a belt to tighten the waist on those on-sale-because-nobody-wanted-them pants, or if you think the shirt that’s actually a parachute looks okay… donate both of them to charity or use them as rags. You need clothes that fit well; clothes that fit well are neither too big nor too small. Most of the guys that can’t get Mrs. Right usually wear clothes too big, however.

If you totally have no fashion sense at all and don’t know what fits you, it’s as simple as going into the nearest clothing store and asking the clerk there. He or she will give you recommendations and help you find the size that fits you. It doesn’t matter if you’re walking into the trendiest department store, a funky street boutique or a big box retailer – just make sure someone is there to help you! Don’t decide for yourself… you have to get the honest opinion of those who aren’t afraid to hurt your feelings.


If you’ve made it as far as exercise, congratulations! You’ve almost got the basics down pat. Hopefully, you can follow through on what you’ve read here. Exercise should only be pursued after hygiene, hair and clothes. Even without exercise, most guys out there can look pretty decent with all of the aforementioned. However, if you really want to knock her out, then exercise is your secret weapon.

Hygiene, hair, and clothes can be taken care of in a day… exercise, however, will take months to see results. If you are dedicated enough to do something almost every day with results only coming after about six months, then read on.

My own personal love affair with exercise started randomly one day when I just randomly decided that it was about time to start exercising. I was 22 years old and had laughed at others in the past when they said that exercise felt good – the only regular exercise I had gotten up to that point was walking up to the second floor of my parents’ house! Pitiful. Anyway, I went from 175 lbs. to 155 lbs. in about six months. I went from flabby to cut. I went from weak to strong. I didn’t even do much, either! This is what I did:

1. Do as many push-ups as you can in one shot.

2. When you can’t do even one more, drop to your knees and do as many more as you can.

3. That’s it! It should take no more than 10 minutes. Your muscles will feel sore for 4 days.

4. Once the soreness goes away, repeat Steps 1 & 2. The second and third time around, your muscles may only be sore for 1 or 2 days.

5. Every time the soreness is gone, again do as many push-ups as you can. Eventually, you won’t be sore at all and you’ll be doing like 20 – 30 push-ups in one shot.

6. Congratulations, you’re now muscular.

If you now become addicted to doing more than 10 minutes of push-ups once or twice a week, please feel free to get a gym membership or personal trainer.

But, 10 minutes, once or twice a week is all you need to be above-average in fitness and body tone. Simple.


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