How Do I Get a Boy to Like Me?
Girls Always Want to Know What Makes Boys Tick
How do you get a boy to like you? This is a question girls ask the world over. They think about it from the time they are six until the day they die. Of course, by the time they get to about age 20, things change. The question becomes not "how do I get a boy to like me?" but "how do I get a man to like me?"
Nevertheless, this is about boys and getting a boy to like you is very different when you are young. In fact, it's pretty different trying to get a boy to like you when you are 6 than when you are 10 or 14. Thus, if you're 6, the answer is different than if you're 10. Regardless, one things is always important. Never give up your self-respect. Believe in who you are. Never let a boy mistreat you or be mean.
Remember, if you're young, boy behavior is hard to understand. However, it gets easier the older you get. But if you're reading this and you're only 8, don't fret about boys too much. Don't rush things. This probably applies if you're 10 or 12. There's not that much to figure out. Once you get to about 13 though, things will start to change. Among other things, boys will be a bit intimidated by you. That's because some of them will think you're cute. Others will think other girls are cute. This change of behavior will be very odd at first. Just don't get discouraged. Girls have a lot of advantages.
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Girls are More Mature Than Boys
This is hugely important if you're a girl. 99% of all the boys you're going to like you are going to be less mature than you. That means you're going to do something that makes complete sense and they'll react in a way that seems ridiculous. Kind of like an alien. Though this article for girls, it will work for women too. Women grow up a lot faster than men. Many men stay boys forever. So, these lessons may carry on for some time even when they seem like they shouldn't. When you like a boy, but he doesn't seem to like you, things might not be what they seem. This can often mean resorting to other measures. Also, because girls just understand that whole emotional landscape better than boys, boys are often going to seem stupid. Really, when it comes to dating, boys just don't grasp what's going on.
Your Self-Respect is the Most Important Thing
No matter how much you like a boy, never embarrass yourself. Never do something that goes against your moral code. Don't let anyone force you to do anything. Never make a decision that will affect your belief in yourself or your confidence in yourself. Boys are temporary. Self-respect is forever. That said, if you are super, super desperate, go for it. However, it might lose you some friends. Always remember though, friends are more important than one boy.
Boys are Silly
Remember that boys are silly creatures. Before they hit that magical, mystical thing called puberty, they are not likely to make sense to you. If the boy you want to like you hasn't hit puberty don't fret about how he reacts to you. Before boys hit puberty, girls might as well be dolls. They're not thinking about you like you're thinking about them yet. Refusing your interest might be as big a deal to them as accepting. You just don't know what they and their friends are thinking, so don't try to figure it out. Thus, if you like a boy and he doesn't like you back, wait a year. If you're in a hurry, trying farting or something boys like.
You Have All the Power
Remember, you have all the power. Most likely, you'll always have the power. Girls are more mature, so boys are always catching up. Once that boy realizes he wants to kiss girls, not pull their bra straps, he will be putty in your hands. Make sure that boys you like seem to like you back. Then you will dictate the terms of everything that you do. A boy will not realize until way too late that he has any power over women at all. In fact, he might live his entire life without realizing it.
There are Always More Boys
Crushes are wonderful. But always, always remember that if one boy doesn't like you, there's another boy who will. This is very important. It is unhealthy to become fixated on one boy. There are tons of boys worth your time. Cute boys are like mosquitoes. They're everywhere and you usually have to slap them hard to keep them off of you.
Boys are Dense
Boys don't understand girls very well. It should be no surprise when flirting produces odd results. It will confuse some boys. If this happens, it doesn't necessarily mean he's not interested. He simply may not know what to do. He's probably a bit scared. You may actually have to tell him that you like him and see what he does. If he doesn't do anything, try another boy. It's probable that the first boy will realize that he likes you. If you really want that first boy to like you, ask around. See if his friends know something. Just do it carefully.
Flirting is an essential girl quality you're going to need. It's critical if you want to communicate with boys without directly asking them out. What is flirting exactly? It's really nothing more than seemingly a little more interested in a boy than the other girls. It means laughing at their jokes. Maybe, it means touching them on the shoulder after they've said something funny, tossing your hair around. Stuff like that.
Don't Be Afraid to Do the Asking
Being a girl doesn't have to mean waiting around for boys to ask you out. Sometimes, if you want to know where you stand, you have to do the asking. Just remember you probably have to be very clear or the boy may get the wrong idea. Say something like "hey, I'd like to get to know you better. Let's go to a movie."
Do Something to Get the Boys to Notice You
If a boy doesn't know you exist, he's not going to like you. He's not going to dislike you either. He's just not going to know one way or the other. In other words, you just can't sit on the sidelines and expect boys to magically show interest. It's just not going to happen. I've outlined a few things you can do to get a boy to notice you, like flirting. However, you can start on an even more basic level and just talk to him. Ask him what he likes to do. And then see if you can do some of that stuff with him. That's a start.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
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