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How Dragging Your Family Into Your Own Addiction Is So Unfair

Updated on May 1, 2013

Before I begin my hub I am proud to say this is Hub Number 400!

Having and living with an addiction to alcohol is bad enough, but dragging innocent people along with you just isn't right. How dragging your family into your own addiction is so unfair.

None of us set out to ruin other lives, but when we are addicted to any substance and have a family, we are dragging them right down to the hell of addiction a little bit at a time, and the sad part is that the alcoholic or drug addict doesn't even see it happening.

We don't see the world or the people around us. We don't realize that the people that are close to your heart and the ones that love and care for you are being effected by your own addiction to alcohol or drugs.



I have said this before and will say it again and again. None of us just woke up one morning and told ourselves that we shall ruin our life and others lives with an addiction to alcohol. No that is not how it goes at all.

Many of us started out with a few drinks, or maybe an experiment to see how alcohol makes us feel, and all of the sudden we start to take a liking to the taste and to the buzz alcohol gives, and before you know it alcohol tends to be a very big part of our lives from then on.

The only way this could not happen is if you have the willpower to say you have had enough and know your limit and how often you should drink alcohol. Then there are those, like myself, that just don't know when enough is enough and when to quit drinking. Social drinking is not a option for many people including myself as well.

In the meantime, we are hurting the very ones that love and care for us. These people, such as your spouse,children, mother or father and dear friends are taken down along with you and your addiction to alcohol.

When I think about this now being sober, I feel so bad that I put so many people that love me through my own addiction. If every alcoholic can just see what they are doing to the ones that love you, you might think twice before drinking that next drink.

We are killing them inside, and we are killing our self by drinking and abusing alcohol. They don't have the pleasure of the drunk or buzz, but they are going through possibly more than the alcoholic them self. We are destroying them and they haven't had one drop of alcohol.

Can't you see what you are doing to your loved ones? Open your eyes and take a real hard look into the eyes of those that care so much for you and you will see for yourself they are crying inside seeing you, the alcoholic, destroy yourself and them along the way!


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      ShyeAnne 4 years ago from Deep Bay, British Columbia, Canada

      Hi there, the residual pain of someone's addiction is just horrific. At what point do we, as enablers just say enough is enough. It goes against the grain of humanity to not help a person that is suffering, but addiction is too big of an adversary, takes a pretty focused David to knock that Goliath out. When you love, or are, an addict, it is a shitty shitty life unless you learn to love yourself enough not to absorb it.