The Secret of Understanding Women and Break-Ups

Men are consumed with the "one that got away". So, here's an article on better understanding why women break up with men. While this article doesn't describe every reason women break up with men, it hopefully provides some insight. Understanding how women think about this subject is key. Men with broken hearts might be able to read this and gain some understanding.

Have you ever lost "the one"? Here's an explanation about female behavior that may give a few of you men some closure.

When it comes to dating and relationships, women and men do not think about the future the same way. Men don't think about how great their wedding will be Women do.

Parents of most girls raise them to believe they will have a storybook wedding and a romantic honeymoon. Everyone talks about it. Many women spend their formative years dreaming about having children and what an important, life-changing experience it will be. Of course, not all women buy into this fantasy, but many do. And it's not due to stupidity or gullbility. The fact is, society bombards women their whole lives with images and sounds reinforcing this message. Women need a provider. Women need to be with a man who earns more than them. Anything else is failure. It's social message that's hard to escape.

If you are going to last in a relationship with a woman, you must fit into her future. What exactly is that future? Does she see herself in a big house? Does she want five kids? You might be a totally hot, buff guy, but if you're still making minimum wage, it's not happening. Sooner or later, she'll break up with you.

A woman might be dating a guy she absolutely adores. However, if he can't afford the life she wants, she's going to dump him eventually.

Have you heard one of this conversations? Been a participant in one? In all likelihood, the woman said it wasn't you, it was her. That's just not true. It was you because you didn't fit into her vision of the future. It's a perfectly good reason for her to break up with you. It's just like you breaking up with her because she got fat. It sucks, but it happens.

As we all know, there are many women who seem to stay with guys who are losers. There are many young women who date guys who are lazy,. Others date men who are heavy drinkers, or don't seem to have too much going on upstairs. Women date men for the same reasons that men date women. Women stay with men short-term for the same reasons that men stay with women short-term. Sometimes they're fun. Frequently, they're having great sex. When people see them together, it's a source of pride.

As women age the issue of the future comes into play. And it comes into play in a woman's mind much earlier than it does for a man. Furthermore, men do not really focus on the future like women do. Men wonder about things like how a woman is going to look when she's older. They don't really think about a woman's job. Men don't care much, until much later, if a woman seems like a good mom. And if they do, those thoughts occur to them long after they occur to women of the same age. This is one reason men like to date younger women. Sure, there are the usual reasons.

However, one rarely discussed point is that younger women don't think that much about the future. They think about the now and having fun. A 29-year-old guy is much more likely to want to date a 21-year-old woman than the reverse. If a 29-year-old woman is dating a 21-year-old man, it's because she wants to have fun. She isn't immediately concerned about marriage and starting a family.

I hate to generalize, so I just want to emphasize that this doesn't apply to all women. However, it does apply to a lot of women. Bottom line is that most women like strong men. And by strong, I don't mean physically strong. I'm referring to a combination of professionally strong and mentally strong. If a woman pictures herself with a guy, it's because he fits into her future. If she doesn't see that guy in her future, she'll dump him sooner or later. Different women have different futures, so kids and marriage aren't important to all women. However, they're important to a lot of women.

So, if you're a guy and she dumps you out of nowhere, think about what she wants. How does her future differ from yours. Because ultimately, the great sex doesn't matter. Nor does your sparkling personality. What matters to her is whether or not you fit into her vision of her perfect life. If you don't, she's say goodbye every time.