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How Positive Affirmations Help Us in Life

Updated on April 9, 2016

What are Positive Affirmations

Positive affirmations as defined according to, a popular website promoting the use of affirmations, positive affirmations are positive statements or messages. Affirmations that are heard and repeated often enough can have a pronounced effect upon the user. Positive, high impact phrases can actually change your life for the better as they act as a counter-weight to all of the negative messages you hear daily through radio, TV and the media (not to mention all the negativity you may carry over from childhood)”. That’s because they affect your subconscious mind.

Everyone that feels negative about themselves could truly change their entire life by stating affirmations daily and believing in them. The only person that can change you is you. Start today by repeating positive affirmations and believing what they tell you.

Positive Affirmations About Yourself

The hardest thing that most people have trouble with is loving themselves. If you don't love your self, you can not love others. You will fail at relationships because you only bring negative thoughts to the table. You are not good enough, why did they pick me they could have had her, everyone is always talking about me, why can't I attract nice men/women. All these things could be so much better in your life if you would just learn to love yourself.

Loving yourself:

  • I love myself unconditionally and accept myself as I am.
  • I accept that to err is human and I forgive myself for all my mistakes.
  • I am proud of myself and all that I have accomplished.
  • I recognize the divinity in me. I respect myself and treat myself with kindness and love.
  • I accept myself for what I am and I am constantly trying to better myself.
  • I am a valuable person and I try to be as much useful to everybody as possible.
  • I am worthy and so is everybody. I love all.
  • As a human being, I have both strengths and weaknesses.I concentrate on my strengths and ignore my weaknesses.
  • I love myself and I love the world. I know that love is everything.
  • I am own best friend. I am also a friend to the world.

If You Can't Love Yourself, You Can't Love Others

How Negative Affirmations Affect Us

We go about our lives daily and we constantly think about our situations we find ourselves in. Our internal voice tells us how we feel about situations we are in.

Inner voice or our “self-talk,” and it includes our conscious thoughts as well as our unconscious assumptions and beliefs.

Negative self-talk often causes us to feel bad, and can make us feel hurt, angry, frustrated, depressed or anxious. It can also make us behave in a self-defeating way. For instance, thoughts like ”I’m going to fail for sure” might discourage you from working hard when you are preparing for your exams, and you might actually fail as a result.

Positive affirmations is challenging the negative or unhelpful aspects of your thinking, and replacing them with more reasonable and helpful thoughts. This is a powerful way to feel better either about yourself or a situation.

If you continue to think negatively about your self and situations, you will continue in a down ward spiral of sabotaging yourself by assuming it is going to always turn out bad.

I can't pass this test. I can't find a good man because I am ugly. I can't I can't I can't.

Oh but yes you can. I have had my own times of negativity in my life. Always feeling guilty about my weight and food choices. I had to learn that I am beautiful no matter what because at the end of the day, no matter how hard it is, if you can't think highly of yourself and love yourself then no one else will either.

The Old Sayings

We have all heard the old saying you are what you eat, you can't do it, it wasn't meant for you, you're too old, you can't teach an old dog new tricks. These are negative affirmations that most of us have heard from someone in your lifetime or how you have actually felt about yourself.

You can reach for the stars if you try to. You can be anyone that you choose to be. You can do anything you want to do if you believe in yourself. We are our own worse critics about everything we do in life.

If you have negative people in your life, let them go. They will only continue to make you feel like a nobody.

Someone else does not control your past, present or future. It's your choices that control everything that you do. If you truly believe you are unworthy of love then you will be. If you think you are not good enough for your spouse or significant other then you won't be.

Living daily in the negative can have the worst impact on your life. It makes you feel worthless and sometimes even ready to die. No matter what you have been through, those lessons teach you to be a better person.

Combat Negative Talk

Feeling Ugly

You look in the mirror and this isn't your best day but you say to yourself "I am ugly today". That set the tone for the rest of your day. Your hair didn't come out right, the clothes you have on make you look too fat, I have an ugly pimple that everyone will notice instead of noticing me. I have said those things also. However they do not help your day one bit.

You will find yourself in a whirlwind of negativity before you even leave your house. Young girls are very venerable about their self image. They look at models, actresses and other important people and think they have to be like them or they can't be part of society. This is how young girls start off with eating disorders. They have to be skinny for society to accept them.

The suicide rate for teenagers has tripled in the last decade. From being bullied to being self conscious has caused a lot of teenagers to lose their lives.

Young Girls Have the Most Negative Thoughts of Themselves

Make them feel beautiful
Make them feel beautiful

Do You Love Yourself

It seems loving ones self is harder then most people can imagine. This is why there are so many failed relationships because you never loved yourself. The divorce rate has tripled over the last ten years.

Your spouse has an affair and you automatically assume you were no longer good enough for him and you had nothing else to offer. Cheating is not a reflection of you. It is a poor choice on your partner who thought the grass was greener on the other side.

No one should make you feel unworthy of love or make you feel any less of yourself just because they have issues with their own identity.

Do you love yourself

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We are Our Own Worse Critics

Being critical of yourself can be a good thing. It can make you change the way you are and modify bad behaviors. But being overly critical of yourself makes for a disaster. There is a vast difference between “I need to work out more,” which sparks your motivation, and “I’m a jiggly blob.”

How to stop negative talk to yourself:

Embrace your imperfections. Put negative stuff In a box (your brain box). Try the power of possible thinking. Ask yourself if you’re really so guilty. Put a better spin on things. Give your inner critic a name. Give your rants a name too.

Instead of saying "I ruined my whole career for what I said in the meeting", try to say "I made a big mistake and now I must fix it".

We are human. We make mistakes but if you continue to feel bad about yourself, you will never accomplish what you so deserve. We are our own worst enemy most of the time.

Self Abuse

What We Need to Say

In closing, my thoughts and my carefully chosen words have helped a lot of people. People who are over weight tend to keep the weight on to keep others away from them. I have been obese and skinny and had less people talk to me when I was obese.

The world is full of rage, anger, self destruction and the only way you are going to feel better is to believe in yourself. Every day tell yourself "I am beautiful", "I can be anything I want to be", I am not worthless I am a value to someone in my life".

Positive affirmations could change the world if people would only believe in themselves. It is not always females problems but men can also feel bad about themselves.

Society has taught us we have to be skinny, we have to have blonde hair to be attractive, women sell cars not the cars sell themselves. You will never see a fat person on any ad to sell something. Look how horrible people made the Cheerios commercial look because it showed an interracial couple with their biracial child. You have to start making your self feel good.

Make today the day you change your negative affirmations to positive ones. You will find a whole other life waiting for you outside your negative door.


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      Amy 14 months ago from East Coast

      Great Hub. It was very well written. I have been listening to positive affirmations for 6 months and they have changed by life dramatically. You presented your article beautifully!

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      Gwen 20 months ago

      This is a great hub Cheryl. This is just what we all need. Kudos.

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      Cheryl A Whitsett 20 months ago from Jacksonville, Fl

      Thank you for stopping by Billy

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      Bill Holland 20 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Here's a positive affirmation for you: I love this message and how you presented it. :) We all need this...daily...sometimes hourly. :)