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How To Attract Love, By Loving One Self

Updated on February 23, 2017

Self Love

Love Thy Self
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Our Bodies are electro magnetic fields, we pull energies and frequencies towards us through our Aura. Our Aura is an illuminated circle that lines the surrounding area of our body. Our aura pulls in energies, some positive, some negative. Our aura cannot decipher positive or negative energy. It is a powerful magnet that gravitates energies towards us. We are, what we attract, that's just how the universe works. Our minds, body and soul are apart of the universe, we are one, we, are stardust, born into this world. Connected to everything on this planet, and that itself is a wonderful thing to celebrate. Love is a powerful emotion, to give love and to receive love is the the most powerful thing anyone can ever experience. That's why its the most craved and wanted emotion throughout the galaxy!


A lot of people lie to themselves daily, and to friends and family members, by making the statement, "I love myself". Let's look at your surroundings, let's do a review of your mates from the last two years. Did you give respect to a mate but got no respect in return? Did your mate make sure your ideas, feelings and concerns were taken into consideration? Did your mate cheat on you? Did you take them back? Was their verbal/physical abuse in your relationship? If yes, did you stay in this abusive relationship? Thinking, this person would change? Is your relationship one sided, does your mate demand love and respect but does not return the favor? Do you feel lonely in your relationship? If you answered yes to one of these questions, you are not in a loving relationship. This kind of love has conditions, and is not considered real love. Therefore you do not love yourself 100% unconditionally. I know a lot of people will fight me on that last statement, but all in all, the truth really does hurt. Let's go back to the rules of the universe, "Like attracts like".

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If you truly loved yourself, you would be in a loving compassionate relationship. Now, I'm not saying it will be perfect, because we are human beings ruled mostly by our ego and no relationship is without flaws. But, overall your relationship should be 100% unconditional love. No abuse, no loneliness, or onesidedness. If you truly love yourself, you would walk away from a relationship that does not grow you. A wise person once said, "If it doesn't nourish your soul, get rid of it". The real secret to attracting love, is to love yourself. Give energy to your dreams, not your fears, forget about your past relationships. The only time zone that matters, is right NOW! living in the NOW, reduces stress. Living in the past, depresses us and living in the future causes anxiety. We spend way to much time waiting for someone to love us. What if we loved ourselves so much that we actually enjoyed being alone? And welcomed it with open arms. one else but you and your soul. Alone in a forest, with the trees above your head, and the dirt, gritty, beneath your feet. Alone... in your backyard on the patio, enjoying the cool breeze blowing through your hair, the experience gives you tingles. Just the thought of aloneness, excites you and sends invigorating shivers up and down your spine! Close your eyes and inhale the fresh air, doesn't the air in your lungs feel heavenly? Just to relax and be at peace, is a lovely thing. If you can master being alone and feeling great about it. You are experiencing self love and gratitude and before you know it, the love of your life will materialize, right before your very own eyes, "Like attracts like", always remember that.


Expecting Love From Another Person

When you expect love from another person other then yourself, you set yourself up for failure. You may even end up feeling worse, if those expectations are not fulfilled. In order to be loved or attract love, you must love and respect yourself. when you have love and respect for yourself the universe picks up on these feelings, and will send a loving and respectful person into your life. When you love yourself you are building positive energy, and this positive energy will be thrown right back at you. " I thought I love myself"? "Why do I keep attracting assholes? If you have to ask this question, then , you could not possibly love yourself, because you are attracting assholes. Remember "Like attracts like". You might be thinking to yourself' "But I am not an asshole". This may be true, but if you allow someone to treat you with disrespect, and you keep them around, then you do not respect yourself. Your sending signals out to the universe that you really don't love yourself. Allowing a person with negative energy to stay in your life, says a lot to your soul. It says, your not worthy, your not loved or worthy to be loved.


How Do I Learn To Love Myself

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself, that you built against it" ~Rumi

The first step to loving yourself, is making the decision, to actually love yourself. Pick a day, like today, and say to yourself, "Today I have decided to love myself". Flaws and all, I love myself. Were so busy waiting for someone to love us, that we have forgotten about the one person we need to love first, ourselves. Love the skin your in, embrace yourself, be content with being alone. Thats right, by yourself without any fears of being alone for the rest of your life. While enjoying your time alone, learn to meditate, connect with your soul, its the most loving feeling in the world. keep a journal, write down what you want in a relationship, also write down any emotions or feelings you may be having that day. Don't be so hard on yourself, sometimes we are our own worst critics, eliminate all self criticism. Be very positive in this process of self love and have patience, it takes time to work on yourself and self esteem. Their is no rush, don't worry about age or statistics, let those things be the last of your worries. I actually live in a city were the ratio of women to men are 10:1 and guess what? Love found me, and I've been in a healthy loving relationship for over four years now. Don't listen to statistics, if you choose to move to a new city, do it for you, and only you. A fresh start, a bigger city, more opportunity, but, never pick up and move because your looking for a mate. And last but not least, have faith, if you have concurred self love 101, your mate, is right around the corner.

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      January Moon 4 years ago from NY, Now Living in Atlanta Ga

      @Pamela99 I was alone for awhile before meeting my mate, I learned to embrace it and actually enjoy my own company, I meditated and just focused on the joys of world and simple things. Thanks for your comment :-) glad you liked the Hub!

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      Pamela Oglesby 4 years ago from United States

      I really like this hub aa I relate to it so well. I have been in places where I sure didn't love myself and attracted men who had nothing to offer me. Life is so much better now, and I enjoy being alone. Awesome hub.

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      January Moon 4 years ago from NY, Now Living in Atlanta Ga

      @Prosoectboy thank you so much for your comment, and I'm so glad that you feel better from reading my hub, I think self love is something that we all can learn from :-)

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      Bradrick H. 4 years ago from Texas

      Hey cherrycrime26! The content and message of this hub that you've written is amazing, and I couldn't have read this at a better time. I hate to admit it, but I've been suffering from some self-esteem issues as of late in regards to women. Reading this is a reminder to me that I need to be comfortable within myself, and not worry about attracting women, but rather seeing and embracing the positive things about myself. Reading this helped bring a smile to my face. Thank you, and great job on writing this. Voted up, rated useful.