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How to be Sexy and Confident, Top Tips

Updated on July 11, 2017

Tips to Being Sexy

We all want to be confident and sexy at some point in our lives and I think it’s important to point out the tips to being just that! Sexiness comes from within, you have to feel it but you can always display it as well. It doesn’t matter if you have short hair, long hair, if you are bald, if you are tall or short, skinny or normal shaped. Because to be confident is about appeal and projecting that sex appeal to others. So are you confident and sexy? If not, here are the tips to become sexy, if so, and then these tips will help you enhance your appeal.

Top Ten Sexy Tips

How to be confident with a side of sexiness;

  1. You have to feel sexy to be sexy. You don’t have to be beautiful to be sexy. Find your inner confidence, put on some killer clothes that make you feel good about yourself and feel the inner soul of foxiness come from within.
  2. Be a FLIRT. Yes, be a flirt, touch when you are talking, slowly and softly (not too much) just enough. Flirt like a professional not a beginner, wink when appropriate, lick your lips, play with your hair and whisper or purr in their ear. Or send a simple smile that speaks "I am confident in who I am."
  3. Dress the part. Yes, you have to dress the part of a sultry, foxy, sexy vixen if you want to be confident. Wear the clothes that make you feel good, shorter skirt, wear a thong or men, tighter jeans, whatever makes you feel that way, and then it will work.
  4. Be fun. Sounds simple but how many of us are thinking of the work we have to do. All the stuff we need to finish, well, forget that and just be fun. Look at your life and find humor, learn to laugh at yourself, be friendly, be fun, and laugh.
  5. Women, wear sexy lingerie, it will make you feel sultry and spicy. Married, dating, single, it doesn’t matter buy some good lingerie, you are worth it.
  6. Men & Women, clean up down there. Yes, sad but true but keeping it trimmed is important. Hair is overrated and really, it’s time to step it up and groom yourself, it’s sly, pretty, yet appealing in all the right places.
  7. Be a Tease. Men & Women, being a tease is clever, I am not saying be a slut but teasing is attractive when done appropriately. Learn to tease the right way, by kissing your partner’s ear, nibbling on his/her neck, slightly rubbing your bodies together. Teasing is intense arousal but keep it at that level to be a tease, going all the way immediately takes the fun out of teasing, plus you turn into a slut at that point. Being a tease will keep them coming back, it’s about arousal at many different levels.
  8. Walk with purpose. Yep, walking with a little shake never hurt anyone. Walk with confidence, walk with your shoulders back and be confident in your stride. Walking is pure sex appeal for men and women, walk with a purpose.
  9. Be Tempting. Be Persuasive. Be Alluring. Talk while you are enticing your guest, tempt with food, allure with music, pursue with purpose.
  10. Be original. Sounds easy but really, if you want to be sexy then find your inner sexiness and be original with it. Work on it and find what works for you. Some are pure sex kittens but others are funny sexy people an others are mysterious sexy vixens, find what works for you.

First, find your confidence and then start with the top ten steps above. Sexiness comes from within, look deep, find your confidence and let the sexiness flow from you. Second, don’t get hung up on your flaws, tall, short, fat or thin, forget about your flaws and start working on your sexiness. Third, tantalizing sex appeal is fun so experiment with it. Lastly, talk with your friends (of opposite sex) and let them help you find that sex appeal and learn how to project that sexiness. Anyone can be sexy, just start working on it.


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    • Ladybird33 profile imageAUTHOR


      11 years ago from Fabulous USA

      ailang, thank you for the awesome comment! I bet you are sexy anyway ;) thanks for stopping by!

    • ailang profile image


      11 years ago

      reading your hub makes me sexy..I love it!

    • Ladybird33 profile imageAUTHOR


      11 years ago from Fabulous USA

      GmaGoldie, Thank you so much! I am so glad you stopped by.

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      Kelly Kline Burnett 

      11 years ago from Madison, Wisconsin

      Wonderful! Very well done! Complete with 3 take aways! Beautiful!

    • Ladybird33 profile imageAUTHOR


      11 years ago from Fabulous USA

      Cheeky Girl, how are you? thank you for reading...this was fun to do :)

      prettydarkhorse, hope this article helps many people...that is why I wrote it because we are seeking some new tips from time to time, right :)

    • prettydarkhorse profile image


      11 years ago from US

      very good advices hehe, we need this article of yours, thanks lady, Maita

    • Cheeky Girl profile image

      Cassandra Mantis 

      11 years ago from UK and Nerujenia

      Some nice tips on keeping it all nicely together, and looking great I'm in a relationship, but this is good reading for anyone looking to get that date or find that special person or even just get noticed!

    • Ladybird33 profile imageAUTHOR


      11 years ago from Fabulous USA

      bingskee, all women need to find there inner confidence...thank you for reading.

      zzron, how are you? Appreciate you stopping by.

      wolfpack5, appreciate the comment!

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      11 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Great hub lady, keep on with your work :)

    • zzron profile image


      11 years ago from Houston, TX.

    • bingskee profile image


      11 years ago from Quezon City, Philippines

      this is a very helpful hub, ladybird! it's time for women to be confident!

    • Ladybird33 profile imageAUTHOR


      11 years ago from Fabulous USA

      James, thank you for bookmarking, that is awesome! Being sexy does take some work for us all...thank you again.

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      James J Mills 

      11 years ago from Northern California

      tempt with food, allure with music, pursue with purpose..... How soon we forget... love does take a lttle fuel to continue to burn. I'll bookmark this one. JM

    • Ladybird33 profile imageAUTHOR


      11 years ago from Fabulous USA

      Madison22, thanks so much for the great compliment! I enjoyed writing this hub and discussing with my hubby!!!

    • Madison22 profile image


      11 years ago from NYC

      What a fun hub, I really enjoyed reading it, all the way from finding your inner confidence down to being original. Excellent info, thanks!

    • Ladybird33 profile imageAUTHOR


      11 years ago from Fabulous USA

      Tattoo Guy, Happy New Year to you too, hope it's a great year for you. Hope you are well. good to hear from you.

      Pamela99, Thanks so much for stopping by.

      emievil, Thank you soooo much for reading and commenting! Very much appreciated.

    • emievil profile image


      11 years ago from Philippines

      Hey sexy, I mean Ladybird, a thumbs up for this sexy hub of yours :).

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      11 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Great advice.

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      11 years ago

      Yer always a sexy lil vixen to me, Happy New Year moi friend x

    • Ladybird33 profile imageAUTHOR


      11 years ago from Fabulous USA

      dohn, you are so right. Carry yourself with confidence is key. Thanks so much for being a fan, I very much appreciate it.

      Jersey Jess, nice to meet you and thank you so much for reading and commenting, which I agree with your comment completely!

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      Jersey Jess 

      11 years ago from USA

      Great Hub, definitely uplifting. I agree with dohn121, how you carry yourself is the key to being sexy! Looking forward to more of your Hubs!

    • dohn121 profile image


      11 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

      It's my belief that if you think you're sexy, then you are! The way in which one carries himself or herself is vital. Being secure with oneself is also essential. You covered all the rest! Thanks, Ladybird33! Awesome work.

      And a Happy New Year to you too!


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