How To Become Most Loved And Engaging Person Around?

I get a lot of questions about how to become a more interesting person, how to have conversations that are more engaging more exciting. What I've to say is that in order to be engaged in a conversation, in order to be interesting in a conversation you really have to believe that your life is exciting, your life is interesting because that's what you're bringing to the table in every single moment.

You're always bringing with you exactly what you believe about yourself and I think it really boils down to something very very simple. Our mechanics are very very simple, we have input and then we have output and we're really to the series of tubes in a series of nerve endings and all the senses that are coming in, all the senses that we feel are our input and the way that we speak the energy that comes out of us that's our output. We've complicated it of course because as animals have evolved and almost become more complicated and humans of evolved humans have become much more complicated but at the very end of the day when you really boil debt, when you really take it down to the basics we are what we put out, what we bring out.

What I say to you right now is a consequence of what I've taken in but now not only that because you can take two people. Take two men who lead very similar lives, let's say they have the exact same job. The two guys live in the same apartment building, they have the same commute to work, they went to the same University, they've got they have all the same education and they've even had very very similar relationships. Yet when you talked at each of these men you might find one guy to be very interesting. A fascinating person is somebody you really just love talking to. Now you meet another guy and this guy's kind of boring you don't really like talking to him. He doesn't really have much to say you kind of feel like you're dragging the conversation along or you're in a conversation with them and you kind of pause and you don't know what to say. There's really weird awkward moments of silence and yet these people have lived the exact same types of lives. So their input has been exactly the same but their output is very different and so what it really boils down to is the way in which we process, the way in which we process the information that's coming in so we take in the information and we are what we do our experience are happening as human beings is a series of processes and how we process the information, how engaged we are with the information that comes in, that's what the output is, that's what comes out of us.

So it's constantly a series, a sequence of a question of how engaged are you in the moment, how engaged are you with everything that's coming in, are you enjoying your time.

So I encourage you today if you're reading this in the morning go about your day and become real. Really participate in everything that's going on around you, think about everything that's going on around you. If you're if this at night go to bed tonight think about this and get up in tomorrow morning and make that commitment to yourself. Say you know what there's all these things happening around me, there's all these really interesting things happening around me. The question is am i engaging myself with the world around me?