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Find Your Soulmate With Online Dating Sites

Updated on April 2, 2013

I have always been a busy person. With night classes and working full time, I never had much time to meet new love interests. I often times found myself on the weekends, wishing I had someone to share my free time with. I would meet a lot of people in my day to day life, but no one that I ever felt the need to get to know romantically. One day, as I was sitting at my laptop, I sporadically decided to join an online dating site. This article will cover my experience with online dating and the techniques I learned to make a winning profile to attract the kind of person that I wanted.


#1 Find a Dating Site

A good first step for any decision is doing some research. Once I had made the decision to try online dating, I started to look around for a website to try out. I started to look around a little and came up with some basic things that i was looking for. I wanted a free dating website with a good rating. So I did a little research online and found a website that worked for me. Because I wanted to just experiment with online dating, I wasn't ready to invest any money into it, but I still wanted a good website so I could get good results. In order to find what website will work best for you, decide what attributes the dating website should have, and then research them until you find the right one. When deciding what kind of website keep in mind what kind of relationship you are looking for i.e. friends, dating, spouse.


#2 Know What You Want

Before you even start to make your dating profile, you have to know what it is that you are looking for. Are you looking for a serious relationship? Or do you want more of a casual dating thing? Its important to know what you want. Some people make the mistake of making a dating profile without really knowing what they want, this makes it hard to connect with anyone online. When I read profiles of people who didn't seem like they knew what they wanted out of a relationship, or if after talking to them found that they had no definite idea of what they were looking for, I saw them as wishy-washy and didn't pursue the relationship. Not only do you need to know what you want out of a relationship, but you also need to know what qualities you want in a person. I found it helpful to make a list of attributes that I wanted a man to have, then when I talked to men I kept the list in mind. This is especially important to make sure that you find a person that you are actually interested in, and helps you avoid getting caugh tup in someones looks. There have been many times that i talked to men just because they were attractive and wasted time and dates on someone that i was physically attracted to, but that didn't have the qualities that I wanted and needed in a man.

#3 Know Yourself

I know that after choosing a dating website, and deciding on what you want in a man/woman your really ready to jump in and start online dating. Online dating opens the door to so many possibilities. You can meet people that you might have never run into otherwise. But before jumping in and starting to look around its important that you reflect on one more thing: knowing yourself. Reflect on your likes and dislikes, your hobbies and interests, your values and weaknesses. Knowing who you are and keeping that in mind during the next step, will ensure that you find who you are looking for, and get the relationship that you want with a person who is looking for someone like you. Too many times, I tried to be something that I wasn't in order to keep a hot guy interested. In reality all i was doing was wasting his and my time, by not being honest. Keep in mind that in you and everyone else on the dating websites are looking for someone who meets your requirements. Don't waste any time trying to be someone your not!

Know who you are and what you want.
Know who you are and what you want. | Source

Knowing Who You Are Will Help You Find Someone Who Love You For You


#4 Creating Your Page

Finally! After lots of researching, thinking and list making you are ready to make your online dating profile. Now that you know who you are and what you want, you have all the information that you need for making your profile. Keep these things in mind, and close at hand while filling out details of yourself and when stating what you want. In order to complete this step there are a few substeps that you need to complete.

Upload pictures to your online dating profile.
Upload pictures to your online dating profile. | Source

A. Uploading Photos- the first thing people look at when they see your profile, will be your picture. This can be a good or a bad thing. Make sure to use pictures of you smiling and having fun. Preferably pictures of you that other people have taken. Your picture says a lot about you, uploading a bunch of self portraits can make you look concited. While having pictures of yourself out with friends and doing things you love will make you look like a fun, likeable person. Think about what each picture says about you before putting it up.

Fill out your bio with details about yourself for a winning online dating profile
Fill out your bio with details about yourself for a winning online dating profile | Source

B. Filling Out Your Bio: I know after going through the process of applying for the account, you may not feel like taking the time to fill out a profile, talking about yourself. But your biography/about me section can make or break a connection. Many times, I saw a good looking person who didn't take the time to complete their about me section so I didn't take the time to message them. Your bio is the second thing that people look at, but may be more important than your picture, your picture reels them in but for most people reading your bio will help them determine wether or not to try to talk to you. Use your bio to highlight your personality traits, hobbies, and what you would bring to the table in a relationship. Its important to find a balance without being too informative or too withholding.

Find Your Person

Now that you have a profile highlighting yourself, and know what you want out of a relationship its time to win in the dating game. Your profile will act as a filter to weed out people who are not what you are looking for, and will attract people who are looking for someone like you. Keep in mind that not everyone will come onto dating websites as prepared as you are, and take time to get to know the person before deciding wether or not to go on an actual date. In order to make your profile work for you, you have to keep in mind who you are and what you want at all times. Don't get distracted by beautiful pictures or interesting bios, make sure before having a conversation with someone, that they at least look like they meet some of your requirements. Also don't forget that in order for it to work, your true self has to meet some of their requirements as well. It may take some time, but with patience you can find "your person".


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      Amanda Jones 4 years ago

      Congratulations Daniella! I'm very happy for you. I met my husband online too, it was 5 years ago, after divorce I gave up on dating, but my friends persuaded me to try it out, so I did, it was the best decision in my life.

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      Danielle Cherise Norris 4 years ago from Virginia Beach

      Thanks Amanda! I actually wrote this article just before marrying the man of my dreams. I met him onlne and this article is actually steps that worked for me! Thanks for reading and commenting.

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      Amanda Jones 4 years ago

      Great tips Daniella, online dating is a fab. opportunity to meet new people and to find a date, wish you good luck in your search.