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How To Forgive Others
How Do I Forgive?
The word "forgive" can be so powerful and healing. To #forgive based on Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary means , "to cease to feel resentment against (an offender): to grant forgiveness: pardon (one's enemies): to give up resentment of or claim to requital for: willing or able to forgive." As an imperfect person, forgiving another person who has hurt you is not easy. After putting so much time and effort into the relationship and then the person turns against you for no reason, can make forgiveness difficult. So what can we do to get pass this feeling of imperfection that may hinder #forgiveness.
When we look at ourselves carefully and in an honest light; #forgiveness is not as difficult as we may think. Due to our imperfections, we constantly have so many faults. These faults can accumulate before the true God. Yet we go to Jehovah God in prayer and he is ready to forgive us for all our shortcomings. All we have to do is forgive each other of the sins others have committed against us. What a beautiful lesson. Jesus taught this lesson while on earth that we should, "Forgive our #DEBTS, as 'we have forgiven our DEBTORS," as stated at Matthew 6:12 based on #The Emphatic Diaglott . If we want forgiveness to be granted to us we must forgive others of their sins against us.
The forgiveness we receive from God is conditional. How can we pray for forgiveness if we have not forgiven our offender. It is vital that we forgive others before we can receive forgivenmess. Feminenza North America , A Monthly Teleconference mentions how, "forgiveness can cause a great allowance of new, it can be a release from the bonds of the past, we can say forgive ourselves or forgive others. This is a forum in which to explore the quality of forgiveness, individually and collectively within the theartre of our daily lives." Seven pillars are then explained such as, "Understanding, Freedom, Remedy, Warmth, Enhancement, Hope and Continuance." Dates are given for each session and there is no charge for the classes.
How Do I Forgive and #Apologize
Once we forgive others, it is easier to apologize. "Apologies are powerful. They resolve conflicts without violence, repair schisms between nations, allow governments to acknowledge the suffering of their citizens, and restore equilibrium to personal relationships," explained Deborah Tannen, a best-selling author and sociolinguist at #Georgetown University in Washington, D.C. An article in The Watchtower 2002, November 1, page 5 stated, "The Bible confirms that a sincere apology is often an effective way to repair a damaged relationship."
We can all appreciate the point made by Katherine Piderman, PhD., who stated, "Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. Perhaps your mother criticized your parenting skills or your partner had an affair. These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, forgiveness, you may be the one who pays most dearly. By embracing forgiveness, you embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy."
When we forgive others, we do not deny that the person hurt you nor do you minimize the hurt you have experienced. The person or offender can be forgiven without you excusing or agreeing to the act they performed against you. The forgiveness you give them is to allow freedom to enter into your life. You have to go on. Awaiting their call to say, they are sorry may never arrive. That is why it is important for you to move on. Forgiveness gives you a peace to move on with your life. This is desperately needed because you know that it is time because this feeling of #resentment truly hinders your growth. Now it is just time to move on. What a blessing forgiveness can be.
Will we be able to easily forgive and forget? No. It may take us weeks, months or years. We are imperfect and we may play what the offender did to us over and over in our minds. That is why forgiveness becomes such a personal decision. Not based on what a religious instructor, teacher or just someone who loves you advises. Once you do the research and prayerfully consider the situation, you can then make a decision.
In the end we must let go whatever is hindering us from obtaining #peace. When we hold on to grudges it becomes damaging to us. Why not let go of these resentments so that we can move on to that peace and happiness that forgiving each other will grant us. When we forgive, there is a certain amount of control we allow ourselves. We can then take that control and receive the freedom of peace and contentment that only Jehovah God can give us based on what Jesus taught us which is to forgive others. What a simple and uncomplicated lesson. Let us all see if we can follow this simple but beautiful lesson of forgiving each other.
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The Truth About Forgiveness
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