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How To Listen And Understand The Silence Of Your Husband?

Updated on February 27, 2020

Introduction

Is you dear husband serving you with the sad old silent treatment? Are you tired of the cold silence over dinner? Are you feeling anxious about his sudden apathy towards you? Has he started sleeping on the sofa? Is he spending more time at work? Are you growing weary of his impregnable silence? There are a few strategies to work your way around the silence. Don't poke him or make fun of him. Please don't call it quits either. If he is silent, then there are a lot of things that you can do to break the ice. Start off with understanding the cause of his silence. Try to work at the root of all the frustration and bitterness in the relationship. Follow these tips to infuse your relationship with love and laughter all over again.


How can you respond to the silent treatment of your husband?

1. Do not assume the reason for silence

The cause of the silence can be complicated and unimaginable too. So quit assuming the reason for his silence. Such an assumption can be counter-productive. Assumption can cause more anger, frustration, and defensiveness. Try to communicate with him instead. Try to learn about the cause of his silent rage.

2. Express your need to communicate to your husband

Silence may be golden, but a cold silence is always hurtful. Silence in marriage can be very toxic. So do not let the poison spread throughout. Instead, seize every chance to communicate with your husband. Pester him if you have to. He will give in if you put in genuine efforts to understand his feelings.

3. Listen carefully instead of talking all the time

Be a good listener. If you keep talking, then he will never be able to express his feelings in words. So let him speak. Stay calm and listen to what he has to say. Your husband is silent because he has bottled up his feelings. So coax him to speak. And when he starts talking, keep quiet, and listen to what he has to say.

4. Be gracious and friendly, and not caustic or sarcastic

Sarcasm can kill his genuine effort to speak to you. Don't tease him or be sarcastic about his silence. Be kind to him instead. Say "thank you," when he starts to speak. Encourage him with kind words to keep talking. Please do not be rude or caustic to him. Be friendly, and his heart will melt.

5. Let go of your grudge

It is natural to hold a grudge against your husband. It is understandable too. But holding a grudge can be devastating for relationships. Holding on to a grudge for an extended period leaks out into life. It affects you and everyone around you. Let go of your grudge against your husband, and his silence will fade away too.

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    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      4 weeks ago from Chicago

      Sound advice!

      I would also mention if this is how he has always been then don't expect him to become someone he is not. People generally do not change unless (they) are unhappy.

      Life is too short to be trying to change water into wine.

      The goal is to find someone who {already is} what you want.

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships. We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.

      The choice is up to us. No one is "stuck" with anyone!

      The goal is to have a "soulmate" not a "cellmate".

      Suffering is optional.

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde

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