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How To Make A Man Who Wears Lingerie Happy

Updated on October 16, 2009

So your man wears lingerie. It may have come as a shock to you, or it may not. You may support it wholeheartedly, or you may be reserving your judgment for a later time. (You may already have run screaming for the hills, but if you did, it is highly unlikely that you're reading this article.)

More than likely, you're confused. We're not educated in men being anything other than a few stereotypical types, so it can be hard to understand what's going on when someone you're involved with breaks the mold so completely. You  may have felt comfortable interacting with a 'normal' man, but how do you make a man who wears lingerie happy? It's pretty simple really: engage with him in his lingerie wearing. Tell him he looks nice in his new panties (lingerie wearers or not, men are all about the ego, and stroking it a little is sure to make everyone much happier.)

Accompany him on lingerie shopping trips. Is that idea too embarrassing for you? Keep in mind the fact that most people won't even know what you two are up to. It will be your little secret, there in the lingerie aisles.

It may not feel like it now, but your man has just entrusted you with a very private and very deep part of himself. You have tremendous power now that you know he wears lingerie. You can hurt him deeply by rejecting who he is, in turn making him protect himself by shutting down from you, or you can lift him up into ecstasy by embracing it as part of who he is.

If you'll spend a little time browsing these articles, you'll see that there are two types of commenter. There are those men who have had their love of lingerie rejected and who feel they must hide it, and there are those who are fortunate enough to have found understanding and loving partners in life who support them for who they are.

If you take nothing else away from this article, take this: he is still the man you loved before you found out he likes lingerie. He has not changed any fundamental part of his personality, and he does not care for you any less. He does not want to take your role in the relationship, nor does he want to be treated as any less of a man. He wants to be acknowledged for all he is, not just the part of him that is acceptable to fashion society.


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      9 years ago

      i like the idea of; she wants to wear my silk boxers and i wear her vanity fairs!

    • SatinJenni profile image


      9 years ago from Burlington Ontario Canada

      I must open as my wife has been to my lingerie wearing over the years, she has had occassion to empty my pantie drawer and lingerie chest on the living room floor. This was done in anger in the midst of my daughters. Not a real disaster since they already knew of my affinity for womens clothing, but still it was embarrassing to have your lingerie intimates dumped publically for all to see. I Imagine the same scene could potentially be extended to include neighbors, co workers etc. if she was ever angry enough. Moral of the story ...keep her happy and what ever you do don't tick her off!

    • Hope Alexander profile imageAUTHOR

      Hope Alexander 

      9 years ago

      Damn good points there GoneNylon, seriously, thanks for adding that, I agree entirely.

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      9 years ago

      When you reference the power the lingerie-wearing male affords his spouse/wife/partner/girlfriend, you're speaking of power on universal, earth-shattering terms.

      It should be borne in mind by any man considering sharing his underwear preference with that "special someone," that, even given the most understanding of females, it will, at one point or another or several, come back to haunt him.

      No one is perfect, and we all say things we don't mean when we're angry. Guys, don't be surprised if some day in an angry moment, you hear her say " . . . you skirt-wearing sissy" or "you little pantywaist!" It will almost certainly happen, no matter how otherwise understanding she is. When it does, let it be water off a duck's back, and for the love of heaven, don't respond in kind.

      While Hope's observations are trenchant and spot on, this topic still has enough taboo for a month of Sundays and each relationship will bear its own strains. How men deal with those will determine how the relationship goes forward, if at all.

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      9 years ago

      Hope: Women, who accept and support their men's lingerie desires, will never have to worry what kind of present to buy for their guy. A soft nylon nighty, or a pair of "tidy (not tighty) whities" will mean more to one of us than any "manly" item. Those we can buy for ourselves. They can even share the wearing of same with us - making the gift even more intimate and enjoyable.

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      9 years ago

      to make me happy is buy me lots of ligerie


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