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How To Mend A Broken Heart When A Guy Breaks Up With You
Getting Over The Guy Who Rejected You
So you meet a new guy and everything seems wonderful. He is really sweet and soon you both start talking for hours on end. You hang out a couple of times and he tells you things like he can see having a future with you. Then lo and behold, if he pulls the "I am not ready for a relationship" card. He swears up and down you can both be friends and wait for a relationship to grow. However, if you are like me and would rather be dating this man than being his pal, it is time to move on and look for someone who is more worthy of your time. Being just friends with a guy who is not ready to commit is fine, but this article is about how to get over the guy who just does not seem to be ready for a relationship.
Read The Book: He Is Just Not That Into You
Help With Ending A Relationship
The co-writers Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo use their own advice in writing this no nonsense book. No matter how wonderful, stunning, and smooth your date may be, if he is not asking you out then he is not interested in you. I know because even though I read this book two years ago, I am again re-reading it to fully grasp this message. Recently I started seeing this guy who says things like he could see us getting married tomorrow and how I am the perfect woman. However, there are days when he does not call and others when he calls non-stop. He told me he is not ready for a relationship and wants things to happen naturally. I decided that if he wanted a relationship with me that having known me for five months would have helped him figure it out by now. Greg says:
"An excuse is polite rejection. Men are not afraid of 'ruining the friendship.' " ( He Is Just Not That Into You, pg. 21)
If you are into a guy and are willing to wait around for a friendship to turn into a relationship, then by all means give him all the time in the world. I guess what I have learned at this point is that I am no longer willing to talk to a guy I like, but who does not like me back. I am going boldly forward and looking for someone who wants to ask me out. We all have something wonderful about us, and holding out for a guy who wants to date us is not overly expectant or dramatic.
Time Passed and I Got Over It
I am still single, but now I do not feel bad like I did weeks ago. There are many things we can do to help us get over a broken heart:
1. Do not call, text, email, or contact them in any way, shape, or form:
We need to get these people out of our lives as soon as possible so we can move forward and feel happy and content. Some people may think I sound bitter or unforgiving, but I do not want to be friends with someone who rejected me. I just decided they are not really the type of friend I would want to be with. You have to decide what feels right for you, but I do not want to be friends with someone who would break up with me. They say do not mix business and pleasure, but I also say should not mix relationships and friendships. It is better to keep your friends your friend and your lovers your lovers,which results in less complications in the long run. This is just a suggestion, and everyone must decide for themselves!
2. Get rid of his or her belongings:
Do not keep the belongings of your ex, give them back! Arrange to have a friend give your ex back their belongings so you do not have to have an uncomfortable confrontation. Do not destroy your ex's property, give it back and get some good karma back into your life. Personally I like to get on with positive feeling and not look back.
3. Get rid of their pictures:
Delete the pictures or put them away in a file not to be opened for five years. Yes, I am doing this, it is helping me to move on.
4. Get busy with your own life and do not look back:
Easier said than done, but try your best to always be busy. It will minimize the down time for having memories about your ex. Attend self-help workshops, talk to friends, check self-help books out of the library,which is basically doing anything it takes to move past this horrible point. You will be happier in time, I promise. Best of luck and I hope you find true love soon.