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How To Stay In A Love Relationship That Doesn't Work?

Updated on July 29, 2017
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Gladz loves to read and express thru writing. She started writing during her childhood days just to express her opinions.

Starting A Love Relationship

Everybody dreams to have a perfect partner in life. During our teenage life, we usually ask questions beyond our imaginations like "Is there really destiny?", " Is destiny true?, " Who will be my partner?" and so on. We never thought of asking as to what are the things we really need to do to stay in a relationship especially when everything is getting worse.

How does love relationship starts? What does relationship mean in a first place?

Well, relationship is a bond of two or three individual. Love relationship means falling in love to someone else be it of opposite or same sex.

Starting a love relationship undergoes different process, situations, and experiences. Some Love Relationships start with being friends at first, Others starts with being an enemy, Some start at first glance which most says that it's called love at first sight.

Flow/ Process of Love Relationship

  1. A man or woman must have an intention over someone and an intention to enter in a relation.
  2. Having their intention, courtship starts.
  3. They will now get to know each other which depends on them whether to meet daily, weekly, or monthly basis. Nowadays, most teens just court through cellphones by calling or texting the one they love.
  4. If in one click, they felt the same thing or what we call "Love" then it is the right time to think for the possible outcome.
  5. The girl will now weigh the pros and cons to be in that love relationship.
  6. Finally, the "Decision Making"

10 Ways To Stay In Love Relationship

The things that we should to to maintain that bond or relationship especially when you already decided to live with that person in one home.

1. Always think positive. Despite the negative feelings you have inside, let the world know that you feel positive over the situation you are in. Let your love also know that you still love him even though the feeling inside you is really a feeling that you want to give up on your relationship.

2. Stay Calm. Even though your partner is becoming irresponsible and caring you less, stay calm and think or many possible solution for your problem.

3. Make your Partner Fall For You Again. Make crazy and sweet stuff to let your partner feels his/her importance to you. Let your partner remember all the thing you have gone through be it negative or positive.

4.Communicate. Every now and then if you have problems with your partner let him/her know that you're hurting deep within. Communication is still the number 1 solution to every problems we are encountering especially in love relationship. The only problem is how we are going to say it to that person since at times we feel shy and angry deep inside us.

5. Show Care. At times because of the pains are partners made us feel, all we have in our heart is hate. Still, let our partner feels that we love them even the truth is we want to kill him/her. Prepare some dishes, surprise with letters and chocolates, hug unexpectedly, always smile, and do every efforts we can to stay strong in our love relationship.

6. Be Strong. Always think that everything has its reason. Maybe that person is really not meant for you. As the saying says, If someone closes a door, windows will be opened.

7. Change. We always put our pride first is always one cause of quitting a love relationship. Instead of making your partner change, try to reflect on some things. Maybe it is really you who is the problem and not your partner. So try to change from bad to good. From nagger to soft spoken, from careless to careful, from not sweet to sweet, and for sure your partner will realize your importance.

8.Learn to Listen. Most of the time we are so busy that we seldom listen to our partners. Why not spend at least 20 minutes daily just to listen to him/her.

9. Travel. Have a travel to different places. Visit some places which will calm your inner soul. Bring your partner with and enjoy what nature is giving you.

10. Pray. No matter how big is your problem and how wounds you have in your heart, only God can heal everything. Just trust in Him, He knows what is happening and He knows the right solution. Everything will happen in His time.

Why "Never Say The Word Quit"?

We may experience problems daily which will add hate tour partner. Still, Never Say the word Quit to your partner. Instead, always stay in love to your partner despite the negative emotions you have in your heart because of him/ her.

If the 10 ways to stay didn't work in your love relationship, continue to love your partner more and more each day and begin with the first step.

Before quitting, we need to evaluate the following:

  • Duration of Relationship. Are you willing to give up your long term relationship in one click?
  • Love. Do you really fall out of love? Is it just pity you feel which makes you stay?
  • Fun. Are you really not unhappy when you're with your partner?
  • Trust. Do really completely distrust your partner?
  • Partnership. Is your partner irresponsible?
  • Investment/Money. Is money your problem? Can your partner provide your needs at home?

Always think that there is no such as perfect partner and perfect relationship. It is our choice to perfect everything.

Everything will work in God's time and in your positive aura.

Cast Your Vote

Which is better, to quit or to stay strong in love relationship?

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    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 6 months ago

      "How To Stay In A Love Relationship That Doesn't Work?"

      Life is too short to be unhappy in your personal life!

      Each of us gets to choose our friends, lovers, and spouse.

      Human beings make (mistakes)!

      If you're unhappy in a relationship and choose to stay you are choosing to be unhappy! If either you or your mate has to change your core being to make a relationship "work" it means you're with the wrong person!

      Thank God there's over (7 Billion) other people!

      Every ending is a new beginning!

      People are fond of saying relationships require "hard work" but if you're with the right person it's a "labor of love" as you seek to maintain that which you wanted. The real hard work is in finding the "right mate" for oneself!

      When it comes to love and relationships most of us (fail our way) to success. If this were not true we'd all be married to our high school sweethearts!

      As teenagers or during our 20s most of us pursue relationships without figuring out who (we) are let alone what we want and need in a mate for life. We allow "impulsive connections" and "happenstance" to dictate our relationship choices.

      It's the equivalent of going shopping without a list!

      With age and life experience we gain wisdom and craft or mate selection process along with our "must haves list".