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How do Couples Accept a Break-up

Updated on April 21, 2018
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Acceptance in a break-up

Two people meet and fall in love and they think everything is going well for them.

It takes a while before one of the significant other realizes that something is not how they had expected it to be in their relationship.

This could be from having a jealous partner, the oversensitive partner, the abusive partner, in both categories, physically and mentally, and the possessive partner.

Sometimes couples have had enough of one another's bad habits such as; gambling.

Not picking up dirty laundry after themselves, and the over and over again cheating on each other.,

Trust is not easily gained once broken!

It's not easy to come to terms with daily issues after a breakup. Acceptance is difficult and one often thinks their partner will come back to them.

Off-course couples break up more than once and get back together as they wish

Do you really want to go through that same habits and routine all over again?

Sounds monotonous, doesn't it?

A break up is painful and will hurt for a long time before you decide to meet someone and move on again.

At some point in your life, you will experience disappointments, painful experiences that don' just vanish.

It also depends on how much of time you were together for the break up to be as painful as it is, it could just be a walk in the park.

No break up is painless but the bottom line is you have to accept it.

In a serious relationship, you make plans together and have a mindset of being together for a long time.

You do a lot together and enjoy each other's companionship too.

The positive moments that was once in your relationships are replaced with negative moments once you break up.

The space between you two is changed and the hopes you had is all gone, and the sudden change makes you feel pain.

You question yourself over and over again and still, you are confused and don't want to accept the breakup.

If only you could turn back that clock, but a bit too late for that!

Is it because you weren't destined to be together?

Acceptance is hard for anything in your life.

Some couples revenge the break up because they haven't accepted it.

It doesn't mean you must be horrible to your ex-partner. Make peace and move on when you feel good again.

One partner finds it hard to move on while the other is up and about with another partner the next day.

If it was your fault you don't want to admit it.

The partner who doesn't stop contacting you hasn't accepted the breakup.

You, who have accepted the break up has moved on while the other is constantly trying to keep in touch with you.

Even though you have deleted that person from your social sites, and it doesn't look like they are letting go of you easily.

The other partner is hoping to get back together.

It is a struggle to move on after a breakup but is also a lesson learned.

Would you treat your partner badly before a breakup?
You show acceptance when you have no contact with the other person.

In time you accept whatever happened and move forward with new experiences.

Your painful experience is accepted slowly and you learn to see life in another perspective.

I had to heal before I accepted my new life in a foreign country.

In the same way, after a break up you have to heal before accepting the experience.

It doesn't feel good when it happens to you.

You start to heal a little each time.

Scars will be there as I know it is for me but moving to a different life.

It does make a difference when you want to accept your life as it is.

You begin to understand the process of healing and of the experience that put you in that situation.

Suddenly you feel good and want to get out of your home to meet new people.

Everything from the break up is a shock to you if you have been together, and had not seen the signs.

The break up is not a shock to you if you had seen the signs and ignored it.

Sometimes you don't want to be with anyone else, and ignore the red flags in the hope of some changes in your relationship.

You don't realize the quicker you see the red flags the better for you.

What do you understand in your relationship?
The one who wants the breakup and the other who is on the receiving end are both faced with difficult issues.

A lot of thought is required before telling the other person it is over!

In a way, the couple still loves each other but have to go their separate ways.

The decision to break up is made and you can't change it.

Compassion and understanding play a major role for both partners.

Without accepting the break up it would be most difficult to move on with your life.

You need time alone to grieve your break up but you have to think of yourself as well.

No matter how mild the rejection is you are hurt by the actions.

Not everyone wants to break up with someone you have to surrender and accept what is falling apart in front of you.

After rejection, you need to pull yourself together and look at life in a positive way.

That is the way of life for many people.

You need to stop fighting the breakup, it will only make you feel at your worst.

Create power for yourself to move on to your dreams.

It is nice to feel good after a breakup, especially if you wanted it.

You can't force acceptance it happens slowly and you need time to get yourself together.

A break up happens for a reason and you don't know when, where, and how it will take place.

Understand your reasons for this breakup.

Remember, it is a bad idea to go back to the same relationship.

You will be miserable!

Accept the break up with a positive mind.

Try not to be obsessed with your ex.

This happens in many relationships where one of the partners hasn't accepted the breakup and tries to meddle with whomever the new person has in their ex's life.

No threats after a break up that would make you look like a psychopath.

An individual chooses to break up because they suddenly realize relationships are not part of what they want in their lives.

A commitment is not for everyone.

Most people want that someone special in their lives until death does us part.

Although you think it is not what you want others still want a partner.

A relationship doesn't work out if the trust fails between the two persons involved.

If tow people lost interest in each other, one of the partners turns up one fine day and tells the other, '' I want out, I am no longer in love with you.''

Is that fair to anyone?

You choose to live that way!

Believe in yourself and grow with yourself.

People change and each day in a relationship shouldn't be taken for granted.

You feel like your world is turned upside down when you break up with someone. Though you will never be happy about the breakup, in time you will accept this bad experience.

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    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      11 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Eric Dierker thank you for stopping by here. I appreciate your comments.

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      Devika Primić 

      11 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Dora thank you for comments, always appreciated.

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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Devika this kind of made me feel good. Maybe, just maybe I have done it well.

      I can hardly wait for my wife to get up to hug her and thank her for sticking with me.

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      Dora Weithers 

      11 months ago from The Caribbean

      "No break up is painless but the bottom line is you have to accept it." Thanks for saying this. It's just the way life is. Either move on, or become a living dead.

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      Devika Primić 

      11 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Bill Holland thank you for sharing your comment. Well said!

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      Devika Primić 

      11 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi shanmarie, thank you for sharing your opinion on this topic. A break up can ruin a person life if they become obsessed with their partner. To those who know how to focus after a break up everything goes of without a major issue.

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      Bill Holland 

      11 months ago from Olympia, WA

      I believe we can learn from any experience if we are willing to do so. A break-up can be valuable if we are willing to pay attention to the lessons.

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      Shannon Henry 

      11 months ago from Texas

      Looks like you tried to show many perspectives here. I didn't date very many people before I married so I've never had anyone try to interfere with a new relationship and never tried to interfere with an ex in a new relationship, though I did stay in contact with a couple of guys for awhile. Then we all moved on and naturally lost contact. I don't know if it's easier to accept a breakup and stay friends or to accept it by no more contact at all. But I do think a civil friendship is best after a break when kids are involved.

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