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How is it Like Being in a Commitment

Updated on January 12, 2016
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I would take the challenge!

This was the status I posted on my facebook wall. The story of this came about because of something which has been unlocked. What it was... then here it is...

But I want to start this with questions like, how does it feel to completely commit to someone else? In a romantic relationship point of view. Is it that risky? Is it that painful when unsuccessful?

Well, I am just trying to prepare for the worst to come. That is why those questions come to arise. :)

Anyway, I take the challenge. Why? Because I am ready and I am committing to someone. After years of holding back my emotion to that someone, I am already unlocking the floodgates of my emotions. I am outpouring what I have been holding back for years.

Honestly, it is kind of scary. Scared of what this certain commitment will bring in the future. Will I be ready to handle or bear the turn around of circumstances caused by being committed? I know how much I am willing to give and to invest emotionally. And I know how much I will be pained then.

But then again, I am ready and willing to take the challenge. I may not know what might the future bring to this new endeavor and though things are just passing, I will make sure to enjoy along the way. I will do my part in painting the canvass of this new story of my life. It might be bright and vivid color or dark ones. This is part of the journey. I have to bear and be strong to be stronger.

I firmly stand still and say: I take the challenge with a smile. :)

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    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      2 years ago

      It really depends on how one defines commitment I suppose.

      Some people liken it to unconditional love where they believe no matter what happens you stay. In other words they have no "deal breakers" or boundaries which contain a "last straw". They plan to stick it out through verbal/physical abuse, cheating, alcohol/drug addiction, gambling away financial stability, and not providing their children with stability in the household if that it was it takes to "stay together".

      Commitments are not written in stone!

      A commitment is only good for as long as both parties agree on a strategy to reach a desired goal. Being committed to someone does not mean you “turn off your brain ”. You are still entitled to have “deal breakers”. In fact if you don’t have them odds are you don’t love yourself or you have low self-esteem.

      There is no amount of work or communication that can overcome being with someone who does not want what you want.

      The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship as you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least there is a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them as (is) or move on.

      “Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.” — unknown

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