- Gender and Relationships
How to Attract the Right Girl
This guide is to help all those men out there that really need assistance when it comes to choosing the right person to be with. Whether you are just starting out and new to relationships or if you have just had very bad luck with your choice in women follow this guide. Many guys have an idea of the perfect mate but sometimes what we want and what we really need are two different things. This article will explore that and equip you with what you need to choose wisely
What You Want Versus What You Need
The first thing is to decide what you want in a mate. If you are looking for a long term, possibly lifelong commitment or simply a short term relationship. Keep in mind the longer you wish your relationship to last the deeper you will need to be able to understand what you want from your mate. The truth is a lifelong relationship will mean a lot of effort on your part so choosing the right mate means that your effort will not be in vain. For the purposes of this article we will assume that you want a mutual lifelong relationship.
What a lot of men want usually has more to do with hormones than common sense: a super model that will say and do whatever they want right? Well chances are we need to dig a little deeper to find out what a man needs. For a moment think about what you need emotionally, mentally, spiritually and not simply what you want physically.
In terms of emotional connection think about the worst period of your life. What kind of support did you need? Do you believe your choice in female companionship is able to provide that? Are you able to give in return what you receive? Can you see yourself being with the person for the rest of your life? It can be simple to overlook issues that could arrive and lie to oneself about the potential your choice in a mate truly has. If they are emotionally unstable or have a serious lack of real emotion, then they are not suitable candidates.
Mentally would refer to intellect, personality and interests. These things can mean the difference between your relationship flourishing or withering away. If your potential mate is not on the same level intellectually they may have difficulty grasping concepts that you do, communication on a cerebral level can suffer. If they are super intelligent you may not be able to feel equal and discuss concepts they wish to discuss either. It seems superficial but again it is something to examine if seeking lifelong companionship. Also consider whether your interests are compatible, hobbies, types of music, film, etc. everything is worth thinking about.
Spirituality can mean a lot of things. If you are a deeply devoted christian you will not want to marry just anyone. Someone with like beliefs is a requirement. Overall make sure that you and you potential mate share common beliefs otherwise you may be in for a bad relationship, one that may end in disaster.
Consider all these aspects and then understand the way to attract the right girl is to be exactly what you want her to be.