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How to Become an Ex-Gay Man
Most ex-gay men agree with the basic reparative therapy tenets. That is, homosexuals are created from a child's family dynamics. Usually, a distant, aloof father and an overbearing, over controlling mother OR from some sort of sexual abuse. In reparative therapy, if one treats these mental wounds or experiences, it is possible to convert some gay men into normal men wanting sex with women.
While many disagree with the theory of some are born "gay", the Aquinas Psychological Clinic, which is the largest reparative therapy in California, states that all men are born heterosexual but their environment during development alters it and creates homosexual tendencies. Many gay men, once their deep personal family trauma has been thoroughly dealt with, become normal and want relationships with women. The treatment is often not quick, but years, it often, but not always, reverses the desires of a gay man. There is overwhelming proof that reparative therapy does work on many gay men but it is not 100% effective. It alters a man's sexual behavior.
In one case, a gay man of 15 years and having sex daily was helped by this therapy. For whatever reason, he was not happy as a gay man, so he started reparative therapy and after two years no longer wanted sex with men and seldom thinks about a man. Other gay men try to bury this desire in marriages to women as they battle urges.
Reparative therapy is controversial as to its effectiveness. Like any treatment, results vary from effective to not effective. Like any drug addiction, reversals occur, but there are also success stories from gay men who seek to be normal.