How to Develop the Ability to Love

You can love unconditionally, abundantly, and unreservedly.

To love in this way, your consciousness is expanded, and your life changes with the people around you.

One who loves actively meaning to love with a greater mind?

Active love fills you with a capacity for love.

How is Active Love Developed?

​Active love is developed with practice as I learned of the people around me. I realized love is an ability when I met my husband.

I found a deeper understanding of love in this way, and discovered people can love, but don’t have to show off love.

To experience a genuine sense of love you need to forgive and be compassionate with one another.

You need to be a loving and caring person to have a sense of love.

​When you love unconditionally, it doesn’t mean you should be the better or the better person, but to set free someone from their previous suffering.

​In other words, you are removing that person from their obstacles.

Be positive and love unconditionally when you are ready for that love. This makes you heal the other from suffering and yourself too.

Be responsible and be open in your mind about love. To love someone, show love to that person.

Avoid criticism when in love with someone!

You are successful doesn’t mean you should put down the other person. The denial of unconditional love imprisons your soul.

For example:

You curse at other people and in your mind, you are feeling for those people. In your mind, you want to free that person from their misery, but you don’t show it.

You can show your true being by showing love for those who are hurt. Some behaviours are shown indifferently.

Behaviours concerning violence show hate and aggression, this is where you would find the absence of love.

The love that is neither recognized nor demonstrated. Practice love to give freedom to you and other people.

Where does the Ability of love start?

Everything you learn is from childhood including the ability to love. You begin to love at home. Love comes from your parents.

Love and affection are the first learned from your mother. This is understood and learned before any other language. When older you learn how to love and be affectionate to other people.

Your childhood experiences affect the adult you become, and this is how you learn about love. If you are or were that unloved infant don’t stress about that part of your life when an adult.

You can still become loyal and feel loved and love another being after bad experiences. Be committed and search for your idols.

Are you a lovable person?

Painful childhood experiences can lead to insecurities in adulthood.

Such attitudes allow for unhealthy relationships, jealous minds, addictions, possessiveness, or abuse.

Have a free-spirited mind by letting go of bad experiences from the past. Show you are worthy of love and could be loved back too.

Loving parents hug their children and show them love confidently.

You must be able to love and receive love. People become broken up physically, and mentally due to the lack of love from their parents.

Why do you lose the ability to love?

Those moments when you feel you have had enough in your relationship and have love and have lost love. You just no longer want to be in love with that person anymore.

Is that hard to believe?

Why the ability of love is fading?

The lack of honesty ruins any relationship. You always need to be honest with one another.

Why do you want to hold a secret from your partner, an emotion, or an idea?

Work as a team not against each other. Be open to your partner about your thoughts and ideas. Living in the past is another problem with many relationships.

One of the reasons for a poor relationship is when you constantly bring up the past. Interest fades in a relationship and so does love.

If there is no happiness in a relationship how can you still love each other?

Insecurities destroy a relationship. Some couples don’t speak for days over an argument which means you must leave that relationship.

A reason to fall out of love is when you ignore your partner and stop talking normally. You lack love and understanding with your partner.

Love is no longer there for you and you need to let go and leave that relationship. A silent partner is not your partner. When communication is dead everything else dies too.

An individual can lose the will to live but not the ability to love. You learn to practice the will to love and nurture another being over time. No human can lose the ability to love unless you no longer are alive.

You love too much and care too much and suddenly you lose it all. Some people confuse love with desperation.

You allow your partner to abuse you or betray your trust. To be left alone while your partner goes out with friends and you trust them.

In time you see that your giving into your partner's every need has failed your relationship.

Eventually, he dumps you and you wonder why?

You had love and had lost the ability to love due to a bad experience.

Do you think you lost the ability to love again?

• You can’t lose the ability to love if you never had it.
• Though you can restart your life and love again.

• Are you insecure about being emotionally attached to another?

• The negative stands more than the positive experiences.
• Love is to have and to experience in your life, not in a split second.
• Modern day version of love is a lack of togetherness.
• When you feel sad or have an issue you right away go for an alcohol drink and have more than you should for the night.
• A way to deal with pain, but you don't think of love because you replace love with substances.
• Most individuals use drugs and alcohol to feel good again and don't give love a second thought.
• It is with such behaviours that you tend to lack the true meaning of love.
• It is sad for such individuals to use substances to replace love in their lives
• You feel more alone when you sleep around and don’t see how you are hurting yourself.

Why feel you are nothing without the other when you are everything you could ever be when you are with the best people?

Dating is not like in the past. You don’t have to date just for the sake of dating. So much has changed that dating has become a favourite sport and a pastime.

Is it hard to find someone to love and to be loved?

Promises are empty!

Your needs and wants are more important than what your relationship needs.

Don’t look for perfection in others or yourself!

Connect with love through your partner that will show you more love. You have faith, love, and hope but without love, you are not worthy.

Bonding with family before bonding with a partner is an important factor. Sometimes the heart doesn’t open to love immediately.

I felt that way after my dog died.

I didn’t want another pet for a decade then one day I opened my heart to love a new pet again. Love for your partner changes over time.

Your partner is attracted to you and you to them, but love is not an instant ability. It slowly builds up for one partner or both partners. One partner can love while the other needs time to do that.