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How to Have a Happy Life
How to Have a Happy Life
Go to any self-help section in a book store (or Kindle online store) and you can see thousands of selections on how to have a happy life. So, one has to ask how I can tell you to have a happy life in just one short hub. Well, brazen as it may be, I can! It comes in only one word: DECIDE!!!
Yes, decide to! Sounds way to easy especially because hundreds of professional people have written many books on the subject!
Every day, we wake up to millions of thoughts running through our heads. What we pay attention to is usually how our day ends up being. I think of the song “Don’t worry, be happy” when this subject comes up. This is another simple solution. You see, worry is nothing but playing “what if” scenarios in our head. What if I run out of money? What if my car breaks down? What if this or that happens? 99 out of 100 times, none of these what ifs ever come true! Yet, we pay attention to them and worry all day long.
Most people go to the negative in their head right away. Don’t believe me? Think about the last time you thought, “What if I get that big raise at work?” or “What if I receive a check in the mail for $1,000?”. How will I spend it?
The trick is now to decide. RIGHT NOW! Decide now that you will not entertain ANY what if scenarios that are negative. Yes, some will always run through your head. It is natural. What you do with it when it comes in is the key. Instead of meditating on that thought, immediately think a positive thought as many times as necessary to overwrite the negative thought. Soon, negative thoughts will not come to you as your brain will be retrained only to accept positive thoughts.
Some people have accused me of telling people to bury their heads in the sand when a negative situation arises. Very untrue! I simply use a technique that my friend Jerry Clark teaches and that is “reframing”. You take any situation that comes along and you simply put a different frame on it. Just as a picture looks different in different frames, your situations will appear different when you put a different frame on it. The frame you desire is a positive frame. One that you can learn from and/or benefit from.
Do I have a happy life? You bet! Do bad things happen to me? You bet!
The difference is that I have decided to always be happy and to think positive thoughts no matter what the situation and to reframe when necessary.
Can you have a happy life? You bet! You are just one decision away! Is today your day?
What should I do?
What should I do if I am not happy!
Well, it is really a mind game. What you think about, you bring about.
Think happy thoughts! But what if I cannot?
You control what you think about. However, we allow ourselves to be programmed by outside forces such as the TV, friends, and family. Therefore, we need to put positive programming in. One way that has worked well for me is hypnosis. I have several programs from Steven G. Jones on hypnosis.
I play them all day long. Simply stated, they are programming my sub conscience all day long. You can avail yourself to them by emailing me at firstname.lastname@example.org
I wish you all the happiness you deserve - and you deserve alot!