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How to Identify a REAL man...Truth Is...
Essence of a Real Man
What is a real man?
When you truly become a man it will NOT be because of your muscles, your hair, your height, your size(anywhere), your money or possessions; it won't be because you can or have beat up someone...You will know you are a real man not because you SAY you are, nor because you think you are or FEEL you are...
Manhood in it's purest & truest form and/or sense is rarely if ever present in one where youth resides- for the foolishness of youth is the enemy of maturity.
Maturity is one of the first steps into manhood...You are NOT a man simply because you've produced a child, can will, or even have produced more than one, more than a couple, even more than a few. You are NOT a man simply because you have charisma or a lot of friends. You are NOT a man simply because you have the ability to produce a smile on nearly ANY woman's face or dampness in her panties...
Five components determine a man:
FEAR: Does he fear GOD? Does he fear failing God? Does he fear failing himself and his family?
ATTITUDE: Does he see life as a blessing and a gift? Is it an opportunity to accomplish and build? Does he care about people and not just himself? Is he selfish and self-centered?
INSTINCT& INTELLECT: Is he by nature in touch with the emotional as well as spiritual needs, trends, lacks, deficiencies of himself and his loved ones? Does he have the ability and wisdom to attend to these in a loving a compassionate but firm manner, showing all involved that his instruction(s) is sanctioned by God and assuredly rewarding? Is he smart enough to know to know that GOD'S way is the ONLY and best way for lasting success, joy, and peace?
TRUST: Is he one who you and your family can trust with your loyalty, love, and lives? Can you freely give your heart and most fragile emotions over to his care and feel confident of their receiving the greatest care?
HUMILITY: Is he humble by nature? Does he humble himself before God? Is he slow to boast, slow to anger, quick to compliment you or others? Does he step aside instead of always wanting to be first? Is there gentleness in his spirit?
Fear, Attitude, Instinct,Trust ,Humility...F-A-I-T-H!
Does he have FAITH? Faith in God, in himself ,in you? Do you have faith in him? Can you? Is his faith in God evident to all?
...for without faith it is impossible to please God...
Too, a real man will love a woman not for how she looks, but for all she does for him spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. He will love her children even if they are not of his loins, and teach them, nurture them to adulthood and beyond as if they were...He will MAKE them his, patiently.
A real man will wash dishes after turning in a 12 hour workday without any prompting or complaint-simply because he acknowledges all that his woman does. He will do the shopping, laundry, cleaning or help with these chores, or assign them to other family members. He will make each day a pleasant one for his entire family. He will make family foremost and conduct activities reflecting this to all.
A real man will encourage you to speak, to express, even to aspire. He will give you total support. He will solicit you laughter and cherish your tears. A real man will invite you into his tears, share his fears, and value your ear and shoulder. A real man makes mistakes and is aware of his own fallibility, limitations, and weaknesses.
* A real man regrets his ignorance-he NEVER wears it like a badge*
A real man cherishes his woman, his family, his relationship with God, and makes certain he tells this often to those concerned. A real man may not be big in might or stature, but he stands tall in attributes and possesses powerful love; thus he sees wisdom in considering your viewpoint.
Understanding, forgiving, and giving, self-sacrificing, having sympathy, empathy, and compassion-Truly in God's likeness, a real man too has a measure of GRACE!
*A real man has nothing to prove-thus needs no self-promotion*
A real man when making love is truly making LOVE, and making it BETTER. He seeks first the pleasure of his mate and gains great satisfaction in doing so. He believes her pleasure to be the purest and surest route to his own. A real man knows satisfaction is only true if it can be shared and that ecstasy cannot be realized as the result of the actions of only one...
A real man will tell you you are special, appreciated, needed and so important that you are irreplaceable. For a real man, compromise is NOT compromising, nor is sacrifice doing without or depriving himself as mutual success requires utter commitment(s).
*You will know you are a real man NOT because you feel it or you say you are- it will be communicated to you...often in ways too subtle to recognize at first and often through persuasive self-enlightened discovery.
Tho' he may stand tall before you, a real man bows low before GOD. Tho' he may be knowledgeable in earthly matters, his true wisdom comes from above...and he is NOT ashamed to ask for the answers. Tho' he makes his family proud, he is quick to give GOD the glory and praise.
* A real man not only prays for you, he prays WITH you
*A real man would NEVER strike a woman- a real woman would never provoke him to do so
* a real man doesn't think he is always right- but always turns right to God
A real man is respectful to all including a stranger...in turn a real man is respected. He pays his debts even those unspoken. He is diligent and has initiative. He is NOT offensive nor easily offended.
You are NOT a real man simply because you think, feel or say you are. When you become a real man it will be made known to you in no uncertain terms...
The question now remains: "Is he a GOOD man?"