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How to Interact with the Opposite Sex

Updated on February 28, 2016

Icebreakers designed for couples help guests interact, get to know one another, and keep everyone entertained. Use icebreakers at the beginning of a party or get-together for introductions and during the event whenever you need to add some additional fun.


You See Someone You Find Attractive, What's Next?

We have all had that moment when we were in a certain social setting or shopping in a store or walking down the street and see that one person who stands out above all others and we desire to interact with that someone. Yours eyes meet. What do you do next? Wait for that person to come and talk to you...or do you take the initiative to break the ice and initiate the interaction that you desire? For many people, that moment passes as the two parties do...passing one another and going about their separate ways. Assuming there was mutual attraction or potentially could have been, what if someone had taken the initiative to start up a conversation? Following are a few examples of random meetings that lead to dating.

A woman notices the most attractive man that she has ever laid eyes on in her life. She sees him in passing several times. She decides she wants to test the water or "fish" to find out if he is attracted to her. She does not flirt or even act interested in him. She approaches him and asks him for change. That moment of assertion leads to them having a conversation, chemistry, and going out on a date.

A man and woman are at a party. They both leave around the same time. The man sees the woman walking down the street. He follows her at a distance, noticing her, but not initiating conversation. She trips, recovers, and continues walking to her car. She eventually hears him behind her and turns around and asks him if he saw her almost fall. This then leads to them engaging in further conversation, him walking her to her car, and the two of them having continuous interaction.

A woman contacts a business owner and they meet in her office to discuss business. They are instantly attracted to one another. They engage in banter during their discussion. They are both engaging, confident, and each one desires to date the other. Their conversation leads to them dating and entering into a long-term relationship.

What sets these couples apart from those who are afraid or reluctant to interact with the opposite sex? Would it surprise you to learn that one or both people in each example is shy?

Breaking the Ice


Help! I Cannot Talk to the Opposite Sex!

Do you lack confidence to approach the opposite sex or maybe you approach someone and have a conversation, but there is always something you do that turns that person off. You are tired of this cycle. You are ready to learn how to effectively meet and attract the opposite sex. So, what exactly do you need to do? The first thing you should do is discard everything you have learned as it is not working. In the case of a man approaching a woman, you should know that women are very intuitive and perceptive. If your objective is to have sex, women immediately know this. Women do not want to be viewed as or treated like sex objects (your next sexual conquest). It insults women when a man thinks he can manipulate a woman into sex. When a woman is interested in having sex with you, you will know it and you will not need to use lines and tricks to get it. Basically, the manner in which you approach a woman is very important. Women want you to be genuine, confident, and a gentleman.

In the case of a woman approaching a man, men despise overly aggressive women. Also, every agrees that desperation or the appearance of desperation is a huge turn off. Any conversation a woman initiates should be light and definitely stay away from conversations about having babies or getting married at a first meeting! Women should be confident, appropriately coy, and act like a lady.

As with anything, first impressions are everything. When you approach anyone for the first time, you want to make the best impression that you can. There is no need to try to remember a script or try to be something that you are not. There are three key things you should do each and every time you talk to someone. These are (1) exude confidence, (2) dress to impress, and (3) be yourself. Confidence is important because it is very attractive.


Breaking the Ice

What is an icebreaker? An icebreaker is a thing that serves to relieve inhibitions or tension between people, or start a conversation. Whether good or bad, an icebreaker will make a lasting impression. When good, it is a pleasant and memorable impression. It can make the first meeting wonderful and lead to lasting friendships, relationships, and valuable partnerships. When bad, it can be a disaster…an embarrassment for everyone involved. What is the best way to start a meaningful conversation with someone new? How and where do you start?

1. Greeting

A genuine hello accompanied by smile is one of the most effective icebreakers. Every day conversations always start with a greeting. A simple greeting is usually followed by “how are you” or some other question. This leads to the two parties talking about other things.

2. Compliment

Everyone loves a compliment. No matter who you compliment, it will brighten the other person’s day. Compliments lead to a thank you and sometimes a return compliment. This is the beginning of dialogue.

3. Random comment about present situation

Standing in line at the DMV, commenting on the long line, your impatience, or the rudeness of the workers can be an effective method to initiate a conversation.

4. Talking About the Weather

We all do this without even thinking about it. It’s a beautiful day. It’s wretchedly windy outside. It’s supposed to snow today… Talking about the weather is another effective tool to start a conversation.

5. Discussing Current Events or Sharing a Story or Joke

Talking about current events is something that any informed person can do. The earthquakes in Irving, Texas or the major earthquake in Nepal or even the string of young men being shot by police officers without cause or justification can start a lengthy conversation. Telling a joke is not easy and definitely is not everyone’s forte, but if you have a great sense of humor, then this can be a fun, lighthearted way to start a conversation with someone new.

Breaking the Ice With Women

How Do You Do It?

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What Do I Do After Breaking the Ice?

Now that you have broken the ice, what do you next? If you have made a good impression, the next step is to ask the object of your attraction out on a date. Good luck!

How Does Your Confidence Rate?

Would you walk up to a random, attractive stranger and start a conversation?

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    • Angela Kendrick profile image

      Angela Kendrick 2 years ago from United States of America

      Thank you!

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      Yoleen Lucas 2 years ago from Big Island of Hawaii

      Great advice - just keep it simple!