ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Are You Ready for a Relationship

Updated on May 16, 2016
Codebreak profile image

Happily married to my best friend, personal geek (treakie) and life travel partner. Who has given me the best gift ever our son.

I'm I Ready?

In today's world there are many relationships started and many that come to an end. You may find yourself asking time and again is He/she the right one for me? At times it's easier to blame the other person for a failed relationship. Could it be possible that I'm just not ready for a relationship? Examine yourself and see.

How to Know if You are ready for a Relationship

Things You’ll Need

  • Reflection
  • meditation
  • time
  • pen
  • paper
  • not holding on to past relationships
  • not consumed with envy by others relationships
  • Clear and specific qualities you are searching for in a mate
  • not desperate to be in a relationship just to say I'm in one
  • accept the posibility that the "love of your life" may not be who you would expect
  • No such thing as the "right time" for a relationship.

How to Know if You are ready for a Relationship


Auto Examination

Know yourself first. Ask yourself the following and be honest. What are my strengths? What are my weakness? What are my emotional needs? What are my spiritual needs?

Consider your maturity level. Which of the following traits are most important to you in a mate? Good looking, friendly, popular, funny, spiritually minded, trustworthy, morally upright, goal oriented. They are all good traits to have. The first four as you may or may not see are superficial qualities. To choose only the top four shows that you are not mature enough for a relationship.

As you mature you tend to examine more deeper issues like the last four traits. As you mature, not just anyone who asks to know you better will do. You will be more inclined to be with someone that truly fits your personality and your goals in life. Do you tend to look for things in common? It is nice to have things in common. Yet, it will reveal more if you note what happens when you do disagree. How does he/she handle conflict? Does he/she have fits of anger or abusive speech?

Look from a far
Look from a far

How to Know if You are ready for a Relationship

Go for it!!
Go for it!!

Examine Your Prospect

Before you get involved, observe this person from afar in his dealings with others. Write down what you find. It would be wise to find answers to the following questions. How does he/she handle any authority he/she may have? What are his/her goals in life? Is he/she working now towards those goals? How is his/her relationship with his family? Who are his/her friends? What does he/she often talk about? What are his/her attitude towards money? What kind of entertainmentdoes he/she like? Is he/she a spiritual person? Is he/she industrious? Is he/she financially responsible? Does he/she have a good reputation? Is he/she considerate of others? Does he/she get angry often? Is he/she involved in sexual misconduct? Is he/she abusive physically or verbally? Does he/she need alcohol to have a good time? Is he/she jealous and self-centered? If you find it difficult to give honest answers to these questions, or you just not happy with the answers, you may be better off not getting involved in the first place.

How to Know if You are ready for a Relationship


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No comments yet.


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)