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How to Know if Your Man is Cheating: Common Signs of Infidelity

Updated on July 2, 2014

Infidelity is one of the most difficult issues to deal with. Often, you will recognize the signs but convince yourself that nothing is going on. What does it take to know for sure that your partner is cheating? Are you sure that you want to find out out?

How do you know if altered behavior signifies infidelity on behalf of a partner or another relationship problem? Are there certain ways to know what is going on and whether another woman has appeared in his life? Though the most popular signs of cheating seem to be largely stereotypical, they often allow women to find out with certainty that a partner is cheating.

When trying to figure out what is happening, it is of uttermost importance to trust your senses. If your intuition is warning you that something went wrong, chances are that your relationship is truly in a deadlock.

Lack of Sexual Interest

Lack of sexual interest on behalf of your man or sudden change in his sexual preferences could signify that he is cheating.

A man who is experiencing an affair is usually devoting all his passion and sexual energy for a new lover. When making love to you, he will appear distant and lacking interest.

Often, a man having an affair could lose all of his sexual interest in a long-term partner.

If you are experiencing any unusual sex life changes, you should talk to your partner. The reason could be quite trivial or this problem could signal infidelity.


Sudden Attention to Appearance

During a stage in your relationship, your man lost interest in taking care of his appearance on a daily basis. Now he has suddenly regained the urge to look well, to select nice clothes and to put on perfume before going out each morning.

If you notice unusual and radical changes in his appearance, you may question the fidelity of your partner. When trying to impress a woman, men pay specific attention to their appearance. If he regained the interest in looking good, he could be starting a flirt with somebody else.

He suddenly started receiving unusual phone calls. His mobile rings during the night, he gets out of the bed and prefers to talk in another room.

Some of his conversations are veiled in secrecy. He feels uneasy about talking in front of you. His answers, if you are nearby, are concise and ambiguous. Unusual phone calls signal that your man has something to hide.

Virtual Communication

Your boyfriend or husband seems to be spending too much time in front of the computer. He uses Skype to chat, usually with only one person. He probably uses social media websites, as well, to communicate virtually with somebody.

We all enjoy virtual communication with friends and new acquaintances. There is nothing wrong with online interactions. Yet, if he spends too much time online, purchases a web camera and focuses entirely on one person, you have a reason to worry.


A Lot of Time Spent at the "Office"

Your man started suddenly expressing intense interest in his job. He spends long hours at the office and prefers working overtime instead of coming home.

If this behavior is periodical and ends after several days, you have no reason to be suspicious. Yet, if he is habitually late and occupied at work, if he comes home in the middle of the night or on the next morning, you should confront him and find out the truth.

Several months ago he was calm, affectionate and very gentle. Now he seems to be irritated by everything you say and do.

Irrational irritability and mood swings are a signal that your man is experiencing something new. If he is still in love with you, he should be acting the way he always has.

Unusual Gifts and Compliments

You suddenly start getting flowers on a daily basis. You come home late from work only to find out that he has prepared dinner.

These small gestures could mean that he is trying to please you. They could also signify that he is trying to deal with his guilty conscience. Trust your senses. If your intuition is telling you that guilt is the motivation behind the nice gestures, you should try to find out what is really going on.

Discuss the issue with your partner if you sense that something has gone terribly wrong. Problems usually fail solving themselves without your interference. Trust your senses. It often hurts to find out what the truth is but knowing what is happening in his life is much better than living in denial.


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    • vily_far profile imageAUTHOR


      4 years ago

      Thank you so much, Nell Rose!

      Yes, I also believe that even if it happens sub-consciously, most people are aware of the signs. Some just find it too painful to confront a partner about it and they choose to "ignore" what's obvious. Psychology is so complex and we are certainly creatures of many emotions!

    • Nell Rose profile image

      Nell Rose 

      4 years ago from England

      Hiya, yes there are all these signs, and believe it or not some people still ignore them! I have a friend who totally didn't want to see what was in front of her nose! interesting stuff, voted up!


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