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How to Leave a Secret Admirer Note

Updated on February 19, 2014
Burning Hot Love Letters
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Ignite the Flame

Speaking face-to-face with the person who has captured your heart can be a daunting task. Leaving a mysterious note allows you to express your interest without the risk of being a predator, stalker or bushman. Leaving a secret message sets the mood for romance and grants you time and space to meet on your terms. It also sets you up for an epic love story once you have met, fallen in love and sealed the deal.


  • Test Your Ink

Before you put the pen to the paper, test the pen to make sure it works fluently without any blobs or dry spots. Although it seems sweet to use pink, purple, red or various rainbow colors, refrain from using any colors except black or blue. Not only are pastels and rainbow colors difficult to read, they're best left to Easter eggs and greeting cards. Always practice writing your note before you put it down on your final piece of paper.

  • Simple Lined Paper

Use lined paper to write a simple message, write a poem, compose a song, author a short story or communicate simple words of praise to your potential partner. Don't use lined paper that's torn up or frayed, use paper that looks clean on the edges and is clean and unwrinkled.

  • Keep it Short and Sweet

Don't rewrite Romeo and Juliet, it's been done, re-done, over-done and maxed out. Keep your love note direct and to the point. There's a lot to be said for simplicity. Less it almost always more and leaving fewer details can create a dramatic atmosphere of desire.

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Order a batch of fortune cookies. | Source


  • Poem, Song or Story

If you choose a poem, don't make it mushy and overly lovey-dovey. You don't want to overwhelm your fledgling friend with a literary mausoleum in their honor. Making a compliment or a fun limerick about your attraction to their dazzling personality, beautiful eyes or winning smile is a good idea.

  • When Leaving a Note

When writing a note, forgo the formalities and always include a trademark phrase that indicates the letter is from you. It's not necessary to begin a letter with the conventional, "Dear Cookie Face." Instead, start with only a name, keep it creative and concise and always sign it off as, "Secret Admirer."

  • Give it Distinction

When you're making your mark, you don't want to be mediocre. Nothing stifles love faster than boredom and plainness. You want to say something exceptional, note-worthy and historic; something that will really melt her butter or capture his heart.

This is an occasion when you don't simply want to send smoke signals. You should state your case and maintain as much anonymity as possible. There are numerous ways to send your dedication without revealing your identity.


Go For It

  • Write your letter in a different language. Send your note, email or text in a language that your beau can decipher. Don't send something that your new flame will fizzle about.
  • Send your resume sans the name. It's a resume. It should be complimentary but not ridiculous.
  • Make a crossword puzzle with words that define how you feel. Don't forget, keep it simple and not too emotional. You don't want to come across as a stalker.
  • Draw a hopscotch with a note or limerick. Leave it on the driveway or sidewalk for her to find each morning as she leaves for work. Use the numbers to your advantage in your message. 1 girl + 2 beautiful eyes = 3 reasons I am falling for you. Compliments are never a bad thing when it comes to leaving messages for your potential catch.
  • Send a Telegram. It's a lovely and old fashioned way to send and receive messages. It continues to be a time-stamped, legal and dated means of sending correspondence.

Make a Bold Move

Do you want to be more audacious in your delivery? Try these ideas.

  • Send a cell phone with a text already programmed into it. Send a new text every night at the same time. Send an occasional photo of the sunset, a song, a video of something romantic. See the love burst into flames.
  • Have a batch of fortune cookies made with special messages. Strategically place one to be found on occasion.
  • Have your special message turned into a cardboard puzzle. is a great website to visit for a personalized custom jigsaw puzzle.
  • Create a custom tie and have it sent to him.
  • Have a custom wine label created to convey your growing love. Send white wine if you're just starting out, red if you've been a loyal admirer for quite some time..
  • Design a piece of jewelry with a short message in braille.
  • Put together a CD of music that expresses your desire.
  • Send a magazine or newspaper subscription. If you know what type of reader your future companion is, sign them up for a terrific periodical that they can enjoy each month courtesy of you.
  • Does your potential life partner have a pet? Send some goodies for their best pal. This is sure to be a huge hit since pets are considered family in nearly every household. Check out the Bone-of-the-Month Club.

Whether you want to send a message that makes her blush or leave a missive that raises a brow, sending tidings to your secret admirer can be an adventure. Be creative, be spontaneous and pay attention to your prospective sweetheart. Watch, listen and learn and most of all, good luck and much love.


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      Kristi Sharp 5 years ago from Born in Missouri. Raised in Minnesota.

      epi, I hope that one day I can reach people the way you do. You have such a gift and I'm simply pleased to know you. I sincerely appreciate everything you have done for me as I'm certain you have no idea the impact. Thank you for your presence and warm wishes. -K

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      epigramman 5 years ago

      ....well I am not beating around the proverbial (hub) bush then (lol)

      and here I am sending an open letter of admiration and respect to you for all of the world to see as I thank you sincerely for your support of my writing and coming from such a wonderful esteemed colleague like yourself - well that's really means a lot to me - sending you good thoughts and positive energy from lake erie time ontario canada 11:22am

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      Martin Kloess 5 years ago from San Francisco

      I was once a secret admirer. I sent a lady a dozen white roses a week. Only the florist and a guard knew it was me. The reason the flowers were white, I had no further intentions. The whole thing became the delight of hundreds (at least)of people.

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      Kristi Sharp 5 years ago from Born in Missouri. Raised in Minnesota.

      Me too. Feel free to comment about a comment! Your input is welcome here. :)

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      watergeek 5 years ago from Pasadena CA

      I sure wish we could "like" comments!

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      Kristi Sharp 5 years ago from Born in Missouri. Raised in Minnesota.

      Robert, touche! I'm laughing as I read your terrific response and I sincerely appreciate you taking the time to read and comment. It's been pretty hectic to get through this last leg of the apprenticeship but I'm sure glad we're all here.

      Hopefully your girlfriend will love your peppery, lipstick, crossword, jigsaw puzzle and if not, she will undoubtedly applaud the effort. Best of luck in your covert-ops! -K

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      Robert Erich 5 years ago from California

      Hahaha! I have been so busy that it has been a while since I have really read any hubs. But I'm certainly glad I stopped by to read yours. This article is a combination of humor, brilliance, and pure awesome. I will like it and share it. After that, I am going to start planning a secret note to my girlfriend. I'm sure she'll catch on quickly, but it still sounds like fun (if she doesn't catch on, it'll just be awkward). lol.

      But seriously, I'm about to go start filling a box with peppers, buy some lipstick to kiss the box with, and send her a cardboard puzzle that gets put together into a crossword (the puzzle will be in the box of peppers). I am confident that she will love me thoroughly after this.

      This is truly a great article.

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      Kristi Sharp 5 years ago from Born in Missouri. Raised in Minnesota.

      Great story! Gave me the warm fuzzies. I love leaving secret notes and items for my man to find. Thank you for sharing that heartwarming story. Love is alive and well! -K

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      watergeek 5 years ago from Pasadena CA

      Our minister at the church I go to told a story about this guy who was receiving love notes at work from a secret admirer. He wanted to be true to his wife, so he ignored them for a long time. Eventually though, after weeks of receiving weekly notes, they started to get to him. Then she started sending little gifts that charmed him. And finally she sent flowers and invited him to meet her in a hotel lobby nearby. She said she'd be wearing a yellow bouquet. He couldn't help but go, but he didn't go directly into the lobby. He went up to the mezzanine first to see what she looked like. It was his wife. :-D

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      Kristi Sharp 5 years ago from Born in Missouri. Raised in Minnesota.

      watergeek, I sent one message in junior high and then wanted to spend the remainder of the school year in my locker. Since then, the notes I write are to the love of my life and although I attempt to remain anonymous, I'm pretty sure he knows it's me. :) Thank you for reading, interacting and responding. I appreciate your participation. -K

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      watergeek 5 years ago from Pasadena CA

      (lol) The quiz has been taken twice and the score is 0% (neither of us have sent a secret message). I got it WRONG!! Boohoo! I liked that you gave an example up there with the 1+2=3. Not being an expert on this type of message, I was getting a little confused as to what would constitute an acceptable one. Cute hub, Kristie.