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How to Make Your Husband Happy: And Enjoy Your Marriage

Updated on November 29, 2010

Whether its something you did or just a matter of circumstance an unhappy husband is more likely to leave, cheat or just make you flat out miserable. The following are tips on how to improve your life by making sure your husband is happier.


Be Happy

As the old saying goes "A happy wife, a happy life." Easy enough in theory but we all know how difficult it can be to achieve daily happiness in real life. So take a moment for yourself, a bubble bath, yoga class, anything that makes you happy and doesn't bother your spouse. After you take a break for your own happiness share it with your husband through a smile, a hand squeeze or a hug. When you're relaxed and in a good mood it will allow your husband to be relaxed and achieve a good mood as well. Don't forget that both happiness and unhappiness are contagious; be sure to pass on happiness!

Be Thankful

 Gratitude is a powerful emotion and aphrodisiac. Think about the things your husband does for you and your family; working long hours, mowing the lawn, just being himself, etc... Verbalize these thoughts or write him a love letter expressing your thanks. Knowing you see and appreciate his hard work will inspire him to keep up the good work and assure him that you care.

Let Go and Stop Nagging

 Yes, he was slow getting the garbage out and he forgot to get the milk at the grocery store but constantly reminding him of these mistakes (or "nagging" in his opinion) is only going to make him resent you and create more serious problems in your marriage. Letting go of your anger at mistakes he made in the past will put him at ease in addition to decreasing negativity and unhappiness within yourself. If you feel the need to nag creep up let him know constructively once or twice how he can help you. For example, "I love it when you get the garbage out quickly, the house smells so much cleaner." It may sound cheesy but it works, by saying less and more positively he's more likely to pay attention to what you say the first time around.

Give Favors or a Gift

 To minimize the effects of a bad day or just make an ordinary day extraordinary give him a gift or do him a favor. You don't need a huge budget to cook his favorite meal, bake a dessert he hasn't had in years or please him in bed. If you have more funds available surprise him with a book or video game he's been waiting for on the day it comes out, plan a weekend getaway that involves his favorite hobby or buy tickets to an event he would like to see.

Give Affection

 It can be hard to be physical when you're tired, stressed and overworked but cuddling, hugging, kissing and intercourse can relieve stress, release pleasurable endorphins and strengthen your relationship. Making the time to give affection is the key to intimacy and making sure your relationship will last.

Give Him Space

 Everyone needs some alone time to decompress and think, your husband is no exception. By giving him time to enjoy a favorite hobby or pastime, whether its golf or watching a game on t.v. will show him you respect him and his need for some privacy. The time alone will allow him to just enjoy himself and come back to you re-energized. He may even reflect on how much you mean to him during his alone time. It will also eliminate any fears or feelings he may have of being suffocated by the relationship.

Be Polite

 Please and thank you can go a long way in preventing the appearance of nagging and will let him know that you respect him. Not cursing at your partner or calling him names will prevent an argument from escalating and create fewer hurt feelings, leading to a happier marriage.

A marriage requires work and needs to be one of the top priorities in your life if you're to maintain it properly. By following the above tips you'll be well on your way to a well-tuned marriage and a happy husband.


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      Divine grace mansoor 11 months ago

      Hello I'm divine an I am Married to Swedish man and that's my husband.

      I'm here to have advice of how the married happy and no fighting.

      And also make your family happy ever. Without problems

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      Levertis Steele 5 years ago from Southern Clime

      Great points!

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      Femina 5 years ago

      Good one... will definitely try to implement these tips into my life.... :-)

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      movingfinger 5 years ago

      nice hub.. and another thing...just accept him for who he is...don't try to change him

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      xixi12 7 years ago from Everywhere but here. In the truest sense, freedom cannot be bestowed; it must be achieved. You can never be truly free till you have the discipline to manage it.

      Nice tips, it can be difficult to remember these tips when you have been married for a long time. lol I wish my husband was reading these tips right now, maybe you can do one for how to make your wife happy. Thanks for sharing

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      Gypsy Willow 7 years ago from Lake Tahoe Nevada USA , Wales UK and Taupo New Zealand

      I enjoyed your well thought out tips. Often we forget these points. Thanks for sharing.

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      Nayothara 7 years ago

      HUSBANDS = COMPLICATIONS! I love this Hub!!! Enjoyed reading it. Oh Wifee life is like this... She is a companion, not an enemy. But well, there is always two sides to one things! May be more than two... Thanks for sharing...

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      Jo Deslaurier 7 years ago

      Thanks kirutaye! It's difficult to hold ourselves back but I think every time we make the effort to be considerate we're building a stronger marriage.

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      kirutaye 7 years ago from London, UK

      Fantastic. Your points make perfect sense. I agree totally. Sometimes we get carried away demanding what we want, we forget to look at our own behaviour and attitude.

      Well written.

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      Jo Deslaurier 7 years ago

      Thanks hudlife!

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      hudlife 7 years ago from South Carolina

      Haha, we use the old saying a lot in our house, "A happy wife is a happy life". Thanks for showing the other side of the coin. As a husband, your tips are right on the mark!

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      Jo Deslaurier 7 years ago

      Thanks FloBe!

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      Flo Belanger 7 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      All of your suggestions are good. When we treat our spouse as we wish to be treated ourselves, we will usually get a more positive response back. Respect plays a big part in a happy marriage.