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When a Woman Ignores Your Online Messages

Updated on May 5, 2018
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Mary Florence has been a freelance writer for over five years and she enjoys writing articles on general topics.

Tips to get her responding to your online messages

When people receive messages, they will or will not respond based on their own reasons. And some may be looking forward to receiving a message one day from someone hoping to start a relationship. It's normal. Wherever people intermingle, it doesn't matter whether it's a dating site or not, there will be messages going to and fro, seeking relationships - casual or not. And there's no way a woman would respond to every message she gets. She could try but sometimes it is impossible to give every message some attention . Eventually she will choose to have a conversation with the persons who interest her the most. It must hurt men to genuinely be interested in a woman but she just never responds to online texts. You could be online wishing and fantasizing about the lady responding to your texts one day so that you can finally ask her out but your dreams do not seem to have the potential to ever come true.

When a woman receives a text the first thing she does is to peruse the sender's profile. She wants to confirm if you are worth conversing with. Seems unfair but that's how it is. Here are some tips to be sure that she not only reads your texts but responds too.


Your profile photo

It does not matter if you put up a photo of you of you in a tuxedo or a shirtless photo. You must ensure that it matches up with the profile of the woman whose attention you intend to catch. It has been said that a picture speaks a thousand words, your profile photo will speak for you even before you send a text.

Your Profile Details

Let it present everything and anything you hope would grasp the attention of your type of woman. For instance, if you state you would like to interact with women just for fun and nothing serious while she states on her profile that she's looking for a serious partner the chance that she will respond to your message is almost nil.Have an impressive profile. If you wouldn't mind approaching any woman keep your details general. Be truthful too.If you are married, state it and let the ladies decide if they would still date you Do not lie about your age some women are very specific about the age of the persons they would like to interact with. You would want a woman to like your profile but the one thing you must remember- you can never go wrong with the truth.

If you really want a date, keep it real. It's better to be rejected for what you are than to be accepted for what you aren't. If you cannot put up your real details you are better off just leaving it blank.

Your photos in general

Let your photos represent the type of women you hope to attract. If she's looking for a relationship she will not respond to photos of you with other women. If she's looking for an "adventurous" or "kinky" relationship she will respond to your message if she sees that photo of you with other women because she likes a challenge and she's probably hoping you could enjoy a three-some. If you are looking for a sugar baby then you better put up photos of you leaning on a nice car or living a big life. It all narrows down to the woman you want to attract. Then check out profile pictures and profile details and try your luck at getting a response.

Your user name

Your user name can mess up your chances at a woman responding to your text. Sometimes your user name can tell a woman everything she needs to know about you. For instance someone calling himself "Michael Johnson" is more likely to be interested in having a serious chat than someone named "SexyRichie". No woman looking for a marriage partner will waste time responding to Sexy Richie's texts. His user name is a hint that he's not looking for anything serious. On the other hand, Michael Johnson will receive replies from women even without a profile photo. His user name is sending some serious vibes to women looking for someone serious. While Sexy Richie is appealing to women looking for toyboys and men interested in discreet affairs and hence such women will reply to his messages.

Send serious messages

No one wants to respond to greetings all through. A conversation full of "hi" and "heys" is dull and at some point she will start ignoring you. Also, the type that's full of questions is boring. Go straight to the point. As soon as she responds to your text ask if you could meet up over coffee. Invite her somewhere. Offer to have her picked up at her place. Then ask her to give you her address. Whatever you want, let her know. Just like that you have taken a woman from vitual world to your world. Sometimes online dating is just like speed-dating.People's patience run out too fast. Must be because there are so many people to choose from that there's no time to keep trying to impress just one person. Well, once you have a chance do not waste her time either.


You must respond to her texts- promptly

Everyone likes a prompt response. Once she starts responding to your messages you must make sure that you respond to her messages as soon as they land in your inbox.You should impress her. At times you will find yourself initiating all the conversations. Do not be distracted by the fact that she never checks up on you, that's premature. The roots you are hoping to plant in her system are still not firm. She's still trying to find out if you are worth it, so be patient. Besides, it's just a text. It's not a competion. Keep your eyes on the prize. You should not take the fact that she's responding for granted. Some men want to play hard to get. After a woman shows interest in them they start their disappearing acts and will soon start stories about being too busy. You do not want to play such games with someone whom you like and want. Absence makes the heart grow fonder but out of sight is also out of mind. Remember she is online interacting with thousands of people daily. Tens of men are bombarding her inbox and she's ignoring some of them. One day she will get an inbox from someone more interesting than you are and she will forget about you and replace you. The next time you try conversing with her she would have lost interest in you and might start ignoring your messages. The easiest way to show a woman that you are consistent anf reliable is by not only checking on her but also responding to her texts instantly. The little things are really the big things.

Do not send nudes

All you are likely to get after sending a nude is an insult. Or you could get blocked. It does not matter if the woman is posing semi-nude in her profile photo, that is not an invite to sex. It does not matter if all you want with her is a sex-chat. You must be tactful in your advances. You need to know how to start. Start smart, be patient, she will request for that nude someday when she wants to see it. Give her the chance to enjoy your texts first and to decide if you are interesting enough to chat with or not.

If everything you are doing is in line with the tips above but she is still ignoring you then seems you have to keep on searching until you find your type.

© 2017 Mary Florence


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    • Mary Florence profile imageAUTHOR

      Mary Florence 

      3 years ago

      Yes that's correct. Profiles are really not just profiles they speak just as those job ads and resumes do. But see, while I could drop my resume and not care whether it's responded to or not, there's someone who might be eagerly waiting for a response and could even be tortured by the silence.

      Also social platforms are not specifically meant for dating just like the church, the library , the club, the hallway, the gym, the club, other words, everywhere has the potential to get us a date. But that aside, meetup. com here I come!

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      3 years ago from Chicago

      In my online dating classes I teach people to view it as if their profile is a "want ad" and the responses they get at "resumes". On the other hand when they reach out to send a message it's their resume or indication they're interested in the "position" of being whomever in their life.

      There's a "screening process" every company/person has.

      Not everyone who sends in a resume gets a response.

      Not everyone who is contacted by a HR rep is referred to the hiring manager for a phone interview. Not everyone who gets a phone interview with a hiring manager is invited to have a face to face interview. And not everyone who has a face to face interview is offered the job.

      Whatever criteria one has for choosing who they'll date is their own. We either appear to have the looks, personality traits, similar interest and sense of humor they do or not.

      With regard to Facebook and other social media I understand some people have gotten dates that way however social media was not intended to be a dating tool. People wanted to either stay in touch with family/friends, accumulate followers to share their ideas, jokes, or experiences with and in some instances to promote their products and services.

      Some people might find it creepy for a strange to hit on them on Facebook or in social media which would explain why they're not responding. Where as dating sites are for potentially meeting someone for the purpose of romance.

      Another option is which is primary a site for people who have similar interest in various hobbies. People have been known to meet and get involved with someone they've met while attending group meetings. It's similar to going to school or college where the intended purpose isn't to date but people tend to because they spend time together. :)

    • Mary Florence profile imageAUTHOR

      Mary Florence 

      3 years ago

      Thanks for that. Yes you are right. I however believe that it depends on where you are meeting. On dating sites it's like speed-dating and if one person doesn't respond you press "next". You definitely have to be out of your mind waiting for a response from just one person who might not even be real. But on social forums, like say, Facebook, you could be obsessing over one person because of the interactions. So you keep inboxing until they respond.

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      3 years ago from Chicago

      "It must hurt to genuinely be interested in a woman but she just never responds to your online texts.' - Not really.

      Truthfully (most men) are used to getting rejected.

      Eventually they view meeting women as a "numbers game" eventually they'll come across one who will say "yes".

      If a woman doesn't respond rejection just means "next".

      You offer some good tips especially regarding user names.

      I would not advise men to ask for a woman's address nor would I advise women to give out their address to complete strangers. It's always best have a few conversations and meet in a neutral place where both people drove themselves.

      Ultimately the goal is to find someone who will love and appreciate you for who (you) are. There are too many people playing "bait and switch" when it comes to dating.

      They'll do or say anything to "win you over" in the beginning only to revert back to their "authentic selves" after there is an emotional investment on your part.

      Unless you plan to make a permanent change don't fake it.

      It's better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for who you are not. Be yourself and let the chips fall where they may.


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