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How to Meet Girls on Facebook

Updated on April 19, 2014

If you are interested in getting to know a girl on facebook there are simple steps that you can take to meet a girl in cyber space and maybe later in person. It is best to proceed slowly and gently and avoid using pick-up lines, seeming pushy or rushing to ask her out. Any girl worth her grain in salt will want to get to know you first before moving to the next step. Pick up lines are obvious and work as a big turn off; they don't work in real life or on facebook. If you come on too strong you might push the girl away, keeping things slow and steady is the best bet.

“Slow and steady wins the race”


If you are already facebook friends you can make an effort to ”like” and comment on her posts.

If you have a mutual friend you can make a comment on a post of the mutual friend.

If you don’t have any friends in common you could try sending a friend request to the girl and if accepted you can begin commenting on posts, stay positive and use kind words in your comments.

Private Messages

After you have begun interacting with the girl and a few days have passed you can branch out into private messages. Again, take it slowly, don’t constantly attempt to message her as this might make her feel suffocated and work to push her away.

Use this time to find commonalities and discuss them, ask the girl questions about her interests and life and share your interests with her. Having common interests is a good sign that you can have a successful future together.

Build a Connection

  • Be a good listener, pay attention to what she says and use this information to bring up topics in later interactions.
  • Use her name often, women love to hear their name.
  • Be supportive and complimentary, but not overly so, you don’t want to seem like you are trying too hard.
  • Be a gentleman, don’t ask for pictures especially nude ones, this is a big turn off and makes girls feel objectified and it is just plain tacky.
  • Allow for a natural flow of reciprocal sharing, this is the best foundation for a healthy relationship.
  • Even if this girl seems to be the best thing in the world, it is best to pace yourself because some of the best relationships begin as friendships.

Exchange phone numbers

If things move along well and the time seems right you could exchange phone numbers begin texting and/or talking and possibly set up a meeting.

Where to meet for your first date

Although many people meet for coffee on a first date this is in fact not the best kind of first meeting because without a good conversation flow things can feel awkward. Activity oriented first dates are best, think miniature golf, a zoo, even a nature hike offers something of a physical experience to share with your date and will give you something to talk about as you get to know one another.

Also, make sure you meet at a public place, girls need to be wary of meeting strangers online and a public place makes for a safer and more enjoyable first date.

This could be the makings of a great match or an experience to remember but if it doesn't work out pat yourself on the back for having the guts to try to stay busy until the next opportunity comes around.

You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.

We Bought a Zoo Movie Quote


A few more tips:

  • Girls love a good sense of humor, if you have one be sure to use it, if you don’t, charm her with attentiveness.
  • Remember that sarcasm doesn’t always read well in written form so if you suspect that your words could be misinterpreted err on the side of caution.
  • Chemistry can’t be faked, if two people hit it off, they both will know it.
  • Girls like smart guys, but not show offs, talk about your strengths but don’t brag.

© 2014 Ariel Laur


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