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How to Refill a Love tank?
You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won't mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever.... connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.”
― C. JoyBell C.
“We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”
I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.
Let our scars fall in love.”
― Galway Kinnell
“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.”
― Donald Miller, A Million Miles in a Thousand Years: What I Learned While Editing My Life
What is Love?
Love is a language spoken all around the world. It does not require any alphabets; just the action can mean a thousand words. When this accent is spoken it can either skip a heartbeat or create hunger for more. Fortunately, this language does not hurt anyone yet keeps man attached to other souls till death takes them apart. This language is unconditional and no soul has control over it, yet!
Love is not just romance, but a parent speaks this language for a child, or a family or for a country.
Man experiences attachment and bonding via love. This kind of image when evolved helps promote long term relationships, and feelings of safety and security. Love is considered almighty when hurdles are overcome and this affection gains victory.
Love is a great blessing and has no financial worth.
In today’s world, where each moment in life is a challenge, man tends to put his love on the sidetrack. He takes it for granted, not realizing that this love will be his cane and life support when he is old and retired. Each relationship needs rekindling and man ought to pause and reflect upon his priorities in life.
The 5 C's
There are 5 C’s that could refuel a love tank and rekindle a relationship. Some of the strategies are:
Acknowledge each other’s presence by complimenting each other once in a while. This not only boosts the confidence of the person but also helps to initiate a dialogue between two individuals. This will gradually help to open up or discuss issues that are usually kept at bay or are avoided due to indifferences.
Positive talking always helps ignite a talk and chances are that two individuals will be able to get closure on it.
- Comfort Zone
Be open to listening and hearing out the other person in a relationship. A love tank can be refilled only when all in a relationship are allowed to be themselves. Hindering any individual’s comfort zone can eventually strain a relationship.
- Take Charge
Where there is love, there is sharing of duties and tasks. Partnering chores such as laundry, cooking, cleaning, vacuuming or taking out the trash can avoid any individual becoming overwhelmed. This is another way to speak your love via your actions.
Taking charge of one’s responsibilities helps all individuals in a relationship to constantly refuel their love tank.
- Pause the Clock
Allocate a few minutes from your schedule to make time for your loved one. Time is money and when a few minutes of the day are spent with your loved one, it helps to refuel your love tank. Having conversations by sitting together and keeping all the distractions such as telephone, computer, TV away helps. Sometimes doing activities together such as walking, playing a sport, exercising together or going on a drive also helps revive a relationship.
- Give Credit
Just as it takes two to tango, a relationship can only be successful if the individuals in that accord are in harmony with each other, and appreciate each other’s presence. Commendation helps in refueling the love tank.
Man is a social animal. He needs company, since; that is his lifeline to survival. Thus, man ought to prioritize some things in life and put brakes on his machine life every now and then. If he fails to do so, he will become a robot since his emotions will bury in the monotonous life that he chose to lead. Such people have a very lonely ending.
Thus, let us be aware of what our present is, and learn to treasure it by taking small steps for this relationship to grow and flourish as the years are rolling by!