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How to Refill a Love tank?

Updated on July 12, 2013

You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won't mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever.... connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.”
C. JoyBell C.

“I mean, if the relationship can't survive the long term, why on earth would it be worth my time and energy for the short term?”
Nicholas Sparks, The Last Song

“We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”

I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.

Let our scars fall in love.”
Galway Kinnell

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.”
Donald Miller, A Million Miles in a Thousand Years: What I Learned While Editing My Life

What is Love?

Love is a language spoken all around the world. It does not require any alphabets; just the action can mean a thousand words. When this accent is spoken it can either skip a heartbeat or create hunger for more. Fortunately, this language does not hurt anyone yet keeps man attached to other souls till death takes them apart. This language is unconditional and no soul has control over it, yet!

Love is not just romance, but a parent speaks this language for a child, or a family or for a country.

Man experiences attachment and bonding via love. This kind of image when evolved helps promote long term relationships, and feelings of safety and security. Love is considered almighty when hurdles are overcome and this affection gains victory.

Love is a great blessing and has no financial worth.

In today’s world, where each moment in life is a challenge, man tends to put his love on the sidetrack. He takes it for granted, not realizing that this love will be his cane and life support when he is old and retired. Each relationship needs rekindling and man ought to pause and reflect upon his priorities in life.

The 5 C's

There are 5 C’s that could refuel a love tank and rekindle a relationship. Some of the strategies are:

  • Communication

Acknowledge each other’s presence by complimenting each other once in a while. This not only boosts the confidence of the person but also helps to initiate a dialogue between two individuals. This will gradually help to open up or discuss issues that are usually kept at bay or are avoided due to indifferences.

Positive talking always helps ignite a talk and chances are that two individuals will be able to get closure on it.

  • Comfort Zone

Be open to listening and hearing out the other person in a relationship. A love tank can be refilled only when all in a relationship are allowed to be themselves. Hindering any individual’s comfort zone can eventually strain a relationship.

  • Take Charge

Where there is love, there is sharing of duties and tasks. Partnering chores such as laundry, cooking, cleaning, vacuuming or taking out the trash can avoid any individual becoming overwhelmed. This is another way to speak your love via your actions.

Taking charge of one’s responsibilities helps all individuals in a relationship to constantly refuel their love tank.

  • Pause the Clock

Allocate a few minutes from your schedule to make time for your loved one. Time is money and when a few minutes of the day are spent with your loved one, it helps to refuel your love tank. Having conversations by sitting together and keeping all the distractions such as telephone, computer, TV away helps. Sometimes doing activities together such as walking, playing a sport, exercising together or going on a drive also helps revive a relationship.

  • Give Credit

Just as it takes two to tango, a relationship can only be successful if the individuals in that accord are in harmony with each other, and appreciate each other’s presence. Commendation helps in refueling the love tank.


Man is a social animal. He needs company, since; that is his lifeline to survival. Thus, man ought to prioritize some things in life and put brakes on his machine life every now and then. If he fails to do so, he will become a robot since his emotions will bury in the monotonous life that he chose to lead. Such people have a very lonely ending.

Thus, let us be aware of what our present is, and learn to treasure it by taking small steps for this relationship to grow and flourish as the years are rolling by!


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    • Victoria Lynn profile image

      Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      Nice hub. I like the quote that talks about finding the "right wrong person." I never thought about it that way.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Sound advice and so thoughtful of you to let s know more on this topic.

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      Wow, this is an excellent hub. voted up!

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      MG Singh 4 years ago from Singapore

      Very nice and interesting

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      We exist because there is love.

      You share some interesting thoughts from great people. Your 5 Cs are very appropriate.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Wonderful read, Ruchira. Love to needs time and work on it to grow.

      voted up, useful.

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      Kristi Campbell 4 years ago

      This really spoke to me. One of the biggest fights in my house is the use of screen time with my husband and my son. I want their love tank to fill with outdoors, sunshine, and waterplay.

      Awesome post. Always. Thank you for the lovely reminder.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      I do believe this information will strengthen a love relationship. I believe communication is what many couples tend to avoid, but it is the one thing that will help them understand each other completely. Great article and well done!

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Ruchira, your advice is a wonderful reminder to stop and smell the roses, ie, show your love by displaying the five Cs. We get so caught up in daily living, we sometimes forget to refil our tank. Clever advice...

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      Frank Atanacio 4 years ago from Shelton

      Ruch .. I can feel the advice and the refilling of the love tank once again a clever idea ..bravo

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      FlourishAnyway 4 years ago from USA

      Very nice hub. I like your presentation of the 5 Cs of love.

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      Firoz 4 years ago from India

      Great tips RUCHIRA. Voted up.

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      rose-the planner 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      I thought this was a wonderful article on Love! I especially liked your 5 Cs. Thank you for sharing. (Voted Up) -Rose

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      Tijani Achamlal 4 years ago from Morocco

      Very interesting .I like the five C's.Direct to the point.

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      MG Singh 4 years ago from Singapore

      A nice hub

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      HattieMattieMae 4 years ago from Limburg, Netherlands

      nicely done! :)

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for this. Great advise. One can't go wrong taking it.

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      mathira 4 years ago from chennai

      Ruchira, you were right about the five C's, but the sad thing is that couples do not care for it and that is why we so much of failed marriages.

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      Ruchira 4 years ago from United States

      Thank you Bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      What beautiful advice. I have nothing to add to it. Well spoken, Ruchira!

      Have a great weekend my friend.