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How to Tell if He is Flirting

Updated on June 21, 2017

Is He Into Me?

It is so hard for you tell if he is flirting with you and you often find yourself confused as to why he has given you attention and then run when you give in!

Well sometimes a flirt can be confused with friendly and to some this gets a little awkard and embarrassing if you don't know how to read the signs.

In some cases some girls walk around with blinkers on and miss the opportunity as they didn't notice the hot guy at the bar flirting.

Has this happened to you? Are you the girl that takes a flirt way too seriously or are you the girl that just never notices because you think that the hot guy couldn't possibly be flirting with you?

Okay then let's get to it! You need to learn how to read the signs and you also need to take off those blinkers because you will keep on missing the might even miss the man of your dreams!

We need to take a look at what guys do to see whether they are into you or whether they are just being flirty for fun and if they are meaning it in a friendly way.

For you to gain any insight on this, you have got to learn to open your eyes and observe the patterns so that you will be able to tell whether he is into you or not.

Signs That He is Flirting With You

Look for eye contact when you see a guy that you think is looking at you. If he is you will see that he is staring directly into your eyes and once you notice, he will then give you a smile or a wave.

Guys that are looking for a one night stand will eye you up and down as well as every other girl in the place too and going home with him is not an option because he came to play girl....with the hottest he can find.

Flirting takes courage so if you want to flirt with a guy then you need to have the confidence to do it and that is what you are going to look for when you think he is flirting with you.

There are different kinds of flirts...I know so complicated!

The first one is the "Confidence King" this guy is so full of himself that if he is flirting with you, you can guarantee that he is flirting with anything in a skirt.

He is loud, he is staring at you and every part of your body as well as your friends!

The "Confidence King" will buy you a drink and tell you everything that you would like to hear as well as being the loudest laugh in the bar, so that you cannot help but notice him.

If a guy is flirting it means that he is making eye contact with you. He will be across the room and his eyes will connect with your eyes; either staring deeply into them waiting for you to respond.

A smile is the next step or move that he makes and he is again wating for you to respond.

He will come over and talk to you and when he does he will want to get close by touching your hand or making some kind of contact to show that he is interested.

Men are easy to read when they flirt as they will look at you, smile and come over, the rest is up to you.

How to Tell if He is Flirting With You
How to Tell if He is Flirting With You
Signs that he is flirting with you
Signs that he is flirting with you

What to Do When He Flirts

Once you have established that the hot guy across the room is looking directly into your eyes, then you need to decide whether you would like to take it further or not. If you choose to take it further then you should look back into his eyes and if you don't want to then you should look away to break the connection.

Looking into his eyes and smiling gives him a sign that you are interested which will lead him to come over to you.

Once he is there he will offer to buy you a drink, ask for your name and come up with a cheesy line to get you to think that he is wonderful.

You can show him that you are interested by talking to him and flirting back with a smile and a touch of his hand or arm.

If he is really interested then he will concentrate on nothing else but you and he will also be interested in asking you about yourself. A guy that is just wanting a sleep over buddy will simply try to get you drunk or whisper sweet nothings in your ear until he has convinced you to go home with him.

A guy that is truly interested will flirt with you, listen and talk to you until he gets your number to ask you on a date some other time.

Keep you eyes open and don't assume that he is looking at your friend, you need to look into his eyes to see that he is flirting with you.

Be cool, be confident and be strong enough to say no if you are not interested but if you want him to know that you like him then you are going to have to flirt back.

Smile, laugh and just have fun!

Flirty Friends

Should you have a guy friend that you think is flirting with you but you are not too sure then here are a few ways to tell;

He will want to see you as often as he can and never talks about other girls.

This guy will be playful and touchy, feely with you and he will probably tease you often.

Take note of the way that he looks at you and listen out for comments about how you look.

A friend that just wants to be friends is one that will invite you out with his friends or he will talk to you about hot girls that he meets......if he says that he wishes they were more like you then he is giving you a hint that he like you.

A guy that likes you will show it in his eyes and if you look at his pupils and they are dialated then you know that he has got the hots for you!

He will also get jealous if you are talking about other guys or going on a date and even when you are speaking to other guys too.

A friend that is flirty by nature will be touchy feely with everyone but he will mention girls and people that he likes if he is not into you.

Guys that like you will show it by showing off, wanting to spend time with you and if you take note, he will always be looking at you at some stage of the day.

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A guy that is flirting with you will genuinely find you funny and laugh at your jokes
A guy that is flirting with you will genuinely find you funny and laugh at your jokes

Signs that a Guy is Flirting or Just Being Nice

A friend will pat you on the back after a joke and a flirt will try to bring you in closer.

He gets over excited when he realises that you both have the same interests which is potential for a relationship.

If you are in a crowded room and he moves closer to whisper rather than shout then he is flirting and makes you feel like you are the only two there.

He is not interested in talking to anyone else but you and won't leave to talk elsewhere, if he he is just being nice, he will politely move closer to the girl he wants to talk to.

If you are telling a story or a joke a nice guy will nod and smile but you will be able to tell that he is just not interested and a guy that he keen will listen and smile and even laugh heartedly at your jokes with a wide toothy smile, not the kind that is on the toothpaste ads but a genuine smile.

If he goes out of his way to help you with something then he likes you and you know that you can ask him at anytime for anything and he will be there no matter what.


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    • Tashaonthetown profile imageAUTHOR

      Natasha Pelati 

      4 years ago from South Africa

      Thank you for reading and hopefully there are some good tips here for the girls to take note of. Dating can be fun but it can also be awkward for those who don't know what to look for.

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      Dianna Mendez 

      4 years ago

      Interesting post and one I'm sure single people will find helpful.


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