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How to Understand the Mindset of an Introvert?

Updated on May 25, 2020
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I sometimes feel that maybe I am an introvert. Read the article to find out whether you are an introvert or an extrovert.


The person who gains energy by being alone and loses energy by being too social is the sign of an introverted personality. After a long period of active time, they want to be alone to recharge themselves is the prime trait of an introvert. An introvert loves spending quality time alone which doesn't mean feeling loneliness. One must not get confused between the two. Feeling lonely is the sign of depression and not an introvert. Similarly, an introvert must not be confused with shyness.

An introvert is a personality type whereas shyness is just a personality trait of an individual. Shy means feeling nervous facing the crowd whereas introverts feel alone even in a crowd. They are not nervous but satisfied and happy on their own. The alone time is their me time which they want to spend with themselves to get re-energize. Re-energizing activities may involve reading books articles, watching movies, videos, listening songs, meditating. Activities may vary but the core purpose is to spend quality time alone. Though an introvert can be equally bold, courageous and ready to take risks. So, how will you know that you or the surrounding person is an introvert?


1. Personality Traits of an Introvert

The first thing that has been observed is that if you get tired after too much active time and don't like socializing much, you may be an introvert. It's maybe your way to maintain your energy level before it becomes low. If you always find excuses to avoid social gatherings, unofficial meetings, parties and enjoy your own company then you are surely one such.

If you have a small friend circle, only the dearest and genuine in real life. It means you emphasize quality above quantity. More often it has been observed that an introvert thinks a lot before saying anything especially to those who are mere acquaintances. They get comfortable only in front of the close ones. It looks like they have a confined nature but not really. Everybody has their own way to explore the outer world without losing their speciality.

The possessor of such qualities mostly avoids small conversations and tries to jump to the deeper conversation and simply skip the intro part. The reason for not enjoying small talk is that they don't feel the need for it; they just get drained after participating in it. Defining that part is obvious and doesn't feel the need of having it and saves time and energy.

2. Behaviour and Hobbies

Slowly an introvert develop a habit of self-talk. Self-talking concerns a situation of constant inner monologue when a person talks to themselves before speaking it out loud. They do so just to ensure what they really want to convey and in which manner it must be conveyed. Whenever they used to be free an inner voice leads their mind preparing for things like how will they answer the phone call or handle an argument. Introverts prefer everything in a perfect manner for which self-talking helps a lot to prepare things ahead. Others may find it weird but this is a quite normal and basic practice for them.

They love writing. Now writing must not be confused with one's day-to-day life entries. Instead, he pictures all of his opinions, ideas and future goals with the help of words. Introverts often find it best to express themselves best in written words. Diary keeping seems important to them to help them express their deepest feelings and biggest wishes. Writing also helps them improve their thinking standard and creativity. They write fast when they are left alone in their own thoughts.

3. Society Perception

Their surrounding may misjudge an introvert as an anti-social, rude, brooder due to their lack of interaction and quiet nature. But in reality, they are equally generous. It's just that they talk less and purposefully. Being equally emotional and practical like an extrovert, but they don't express their emotions all the time. Others may find them antisocial due to the considered nature. But they also feel equally attached and participated in the events, but they just don't want to get highlighted. If, you don't want to be left alone all the time but definitely after serving all your daily duties then you are an introvert.

Sometimes an introvert generates curiosity in others to know them more. About their lives and opinions. As they speak less, the interested ones will listen to them more closely and help them gain attention on even a routine topic. And sometimes simply get ignored as well.

4. Introvert Perspective

An introvert appears as a wallflower in parties and social gatherings as hosting a party are not in their choice. They unwillingly lead or host an official meeting or seminar. Simultaneously they also hesitate to host an unofficial gathering and prefers to be at the audience side.

Introvert are a great observer. They get easily distracted or drained out on the slightest sound. They notice the smallest and almost discreet detail of the picture. Their sensitivity of observing the slightest detail that the others may not have even noticed makes you standout.


It may happen that few aforesaid traits are similar to other personalities too, but the person who possesses the majority of these is definitely an introvert. A complete introvert appears as an egoist and loner, self-seeker or an excessively proud of himself. Don't misunderstand them as narcissists and autism. Every person has someone close to their heart who became their source of strength, happiness, and energy. That doesn't make them psychiatric but self-satisfied.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 Prateek Jain


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    • PrateekJain24 profile imageAUTHOR

      Prateek Jain 

      12 months ago from Madhya Pradesh, India

      Thank you so much Murli sir. I am really glad that your liked the article. Thank you for being a consistent reader and supporting me.

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      Halemane Muralikrishna 

      12 months ago from South India

      A very good article to help the introverts to overcome their problems and become successful. Your life coaching article is having a strong helping feature. Hope by reading the article, the readers perspective for the silent and introvert individuals and approach will be drastically different, Mr Prateek.

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      Prateek Jain 

      12 months ago from Madhya Pradesh, India

      Thank you so much for your honest and genuine review Sneha mam. I kust tried my best to elaborate the practical thi gs about introvert. Some percentage of my personality also contains introvert features. I can conclude that 70% of people out there can relate their personality with this article.

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      Sneha Bhat 

      12 months ago from India

      Nice article sir... Basically I am not an introvert, but yes, as per my experience and observation being with some introvert friends, you have explained it nicely about them.

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      Prateek Jain 

      12 months ago from Madhya Pradesh, India

      Thank you Suchi mam gor your wonderful comment. Glad to know that you can relate it with your personality. I think everyone at some phase can relate themselves. Keep reading mam. I completely respect that you always motivate me to write and publish more and more. Thank you for consistently supporting me.

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      Shivangi Rani 

      13 months ago

      Nice elucidation brother.. Its actually this way.. I too am an introvert person..not boastibg I totally resonate with your words.. Thanks for sharing...

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      Suchismita Pradhan 

      13 months ago from India

      Its like sometimes I like to be an introvert. It's not that I don't like association, but for me, spending time with my own is to visualize and analyze various perspective of life.I can relate to many points in this article.Thanks for sharing.

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      Prateek Jain 

      13 months ago from Madhya Pradesh, India

      Thank you Risha mam and Nikhil brother. I am glad that this article gave your some in-depth knowledge regarding introvert. Thank you for sharing that you also possess introvert personality. We sometime spend our whole life but don't identify our true personality. Hence, i emphasize on understanding ourself before judging others. Thank you for your wonderful comment and sharing your thoughts. Keep reading and exploring more.

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      Prateek Jain 

      13 months ago from Madhya Pradesh, India

      You're absolutely right respected Vidya mam. I seen many times people missundertood introvert as an egoist and mean person. But what is true in reality they don't know. This need to be communicated to all so that people will stop judging introvert as someone else.

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      Prateek Jain 

      13 months ago from Madhya Pradesh, India

      Thank you Liz for your opinion. I am glad that you liked the article.

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      Nikhil Sharma 

      13 months ago from India

      I'm myself is an introvert and I can relate these traits to myself. Most of the people have wrong mindset and intention towards introverts. But they should remember that it's just a type of human personality and it should be respected no matter what. You've rightly said that an introvert like myself value written words rather than spoken ones. However, in today's world, where speaking skills and public speaking plays an important role, many introverts are turning ambiverts.

      Thank you, Prateek, for writing such an amazing article on this topic.

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      Gaurav Gupta 

      13 months ago

      Very Well explained

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      Risha Khan 

      13 months ago from Bhilai, Chhattisgarh

      You have researched about your article very well. I am introvert myself. I love to be in company of like-minded people. I withdraw myself when I come across people who keep imposing their thoughts on others and don't respect others individual space.

      Thank you for sharing your article as it will clear many misunderstandings that people usually have about introverts.

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      13 months ago

      A very informative and interesting article Prateek. An introvert is always misunderstood. I was an introvert myself even as a child. I preferred the company of books rather than that of people. Writing surely is a trait of an introvert.

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      Liz Westwood 

      13 months ago from UK

      This is an interesting study of an introvert.

    • PrateekJain24 profile imageAUTHOR

      Prateek Jain 

      13 months ago from Madhya Pradesh, India

      Thank you Prantika mam for your wonderful comment. I am glad rha you liked the article. A complete introvert is not alone in himself but after the job when he returns he love to spend time with himself. And i think i am also this kind of person who love to be alone and revive from stressed out day. Keep reading more upcoming articles mam.

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      Prateek Jain 

      13 months ago from Madhya Pradesh, India

      Thank you for sharing your valuable thoughts Chardie Cat. I am really thankful that you took time to read and comment on this article. There is no shame to accept who we are. I loved it that you are really confident in yourself because you know your personality and traits. Keep reading and sharing your opinion. Thank you.

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      Prantika Samanta 

      13 months ago from Kolkata, India

      An interesting read. I do agree that introverts are misunderstood easily. They appear rude, loner, selfish, or proud. Even though I'm not a hard core introvert, I love to spend sometime alone for introspection or revive my tired body and mind. Solitude makes things clear for me and that's not loneliness.

      Love the way you have presented the article and talked about certain points that will help many people to avoid misunderstanding an introvert.

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      Chardie Cat 

      13 months ago from Northern Mindanao, Philippines

      I am an introvert myself, and I am proud of it. It's not that I don't like association, but for me, being alone makes me see the brighter side of the world. Most of the points in this article describe my personality. Nice read.


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