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How to be a Jerk : My Intro to Poshcoffeeco

Updated on January 2, 2012


Don't be a jerk!
Don't be a jerk!

A Mentor?

I’ve been asked to be someone’s mentor – dear God save us all. Does this person realize just how nuts I am?! Ok, honestly though, and flattery aside, I am so very touched by the request. However, initially I thought it was in jest so I declined the offer. Then I thought more about it and came to the realization of “what a nice thing for someone to say even if it was a joke!”

A few hours after the conversation I signed onto my HubPages account to look and see if I had any comments. Holy Toledo Batman – there were tons! I wondered how I could sneak away from the New Years Eve party long enough to answer them all (which didn’t happen so I will spend New Year’s Day night doing that). And lo and behold there was that question again about being a certain someone’s mentor. Oh no…had I lost an opportunity to help someone like others had helped me in the past? Stupid, stupid, stupid humor is always getting in my way. I think everything is a joke! So I closed out of my HP account and rushed over to this individual’s Facebook page to leave him a message. I explained that I felt like such a jerk turning down the offer and I didn’t really think he was serious earlier in the day – but after reading the comments I realized he indeed wanted to make a connection.

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When I sent the message I noticed a post on this gentleman's Facebook wall that displayed a big golden 50 – oooh shiny! Just a few days before I had read about this guy, his wife and their unending love for one another and I thought maybe this was another sweet hub - a 50th wedding anniversary hub. It didn’t dawn on me that this man doesn’t look 50 let alone old enough to be MARRIED 50 years. I’m simple, what can I say? I saw shiny numbers and all sensible thoughts left through the window. So it turns out this man is celebrating hub number 50 – a very special deal. (I should know since I just wrote my very own 50th hub and I was a huge bragging mess about it.) I read the hub and realized I was mentioned several times in the beginning for helping this author recognize that publishing 50 hubs is a milestone to be celebrated!

Then my Andriod vibrated. I had a reply to the message I sent explaining my ignorance. Mr Poshcoffeeco reassured me that he did not think I acted like a jerk earlier in the day and that he was indeed very serious in his request. We agreed we could BOTH learn a lot from each other and we could look forward to being good hubber-buddies! I was smiling rather huge when I went back to reading his 50th celebration hub. I am ready to watch this friendship blossom into something great. And I owe it all to the man who was man enough to ask for my support. And I am honored to know I will receive his support in return.

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    • Ardie profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Neverland

      Hello Sharyn! I chose the title because I truly felt like a jerk hahah I think HP is a great place to meet people too because you can find friends with common interests. Not many of my real-life friends or family "get" my writing. Thanks for reading :)

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      Sharon Smith 

      6 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

      Great title Ardie, you are so funny. Thanks for introducing us to "Mr. Coffee." I'm following him now. HP is the best place to meet great friends!

    • Ardie profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Neverland

      Aaw Epi! I love your top ten’s because they always make me feel so loved and special. This one was especially sweet because I adore and love the team I’m on! Each and every one of you makes the team the best place to be and I will never leave. Thank you my neighbor.

      Hello homesteadbound! I appreciate your kind, sweet comment! It takes one sweet person to recognize another right? I love the friendship of HP too. Its amazing!

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      Cindy Murdoch 

      6 years ago from Texas

      I don't think you could ever be a jerk! You are too sweet for that! And I love your sense of humor. It's great to have friends here on the hub. I just love this place!

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      6 years ago

      ...I think I gave you a top ten just a litle while ago on another great hub - probably the security story - but this is such a heartfelt and sincere hub I will most gladly give you another top ten with my pleasure:


      (in no particular order)

      10. well she's a hot team player (as in my male eyes have eyes - duh!)

      9. she's a thoughtful team player

      8. she's a wonderful writer team player

      7. she's a share the wealth team player

      6. she's a team player that other teams could use

      5. a team player no matter what .....

      4. whether it's sun or rain

      3. the team player always come to play .....

      2. lucky us ......

      1. and bless you ......

      lake erie time ontario canada 12:55am did you see the full moon tonight - I've been following it across the lake all night

    • Ardie profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Neverland

      Aaw thanks Rosemay! I would be so proud if my quirkiness rubbed off on PC :) You should indeed check him out because he has some good visions - he wants to help the world!!

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      Rosemary Sadler 

      6 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

      Ardie you are so sweet, how could you be a jerk.

      Friendship is all about helping each other out and learning from each other.

      I haven't met Poshcoffeco yet but I will be sure to drop in right after this post.

      Hmmm I'll be watching to see if your 'nuttiness' rubs off on him. Lol

      Have a great upcoming weekend

    • Ardie profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Neverland

      Sweet Martie, Im so happy to see your smile here :) Thank you so much for making me feel normal and rational in my initial reaction to laugh off assisting anyone. But yes, friendship is for sharing and caring and supporting. And honestly - everyone I meet is a friend immediately. Thanks for being so you!

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      Martie Coetser 

      6 years ago from South Africa

      I would say this is what friends are for – to share whatever they know and can do with each other.... just for the sake of sharing and not in order to gain anything, except that wonderful feeling sharing arouses in us. Every one of us knows something some of our friends still need to learn.

      When somebody asks us something, fear of losing (goes hand in hand with skepticism) will automatically be our first reaction. It is essential and automatic self-protective action. Like that of a tortoise pulling in his head the moment we enter his personal zone.

      So you were not at all a jerk, Ardie, but a normal intelligent human being.

      You have a beautiful personality.

    • Ardie profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Neverland

      Aaw, Vinaya! That has to be one of the nicest comments I've ever gotten :D

      And I will thank you on behalf of Posh too. He IS a terrific writer. I am enjoying reading his hubs and learning how his mind works.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      6 years ago from Nepal

      Poshcoffee is a terrific writer and your hub reminds me once again how wonderful you are. I always love your writing style, there is humor, irony and most importantly esthetic quality.

    • Ardie profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Neverland

      Ha AA! You think you do? Maybe - did you read my other hubs?

      Hi Cardisa!! You're so funny...NOT! hahah Yes, you are AND sweet too! :) I love the name Mr Coffee Beans!

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      Carolee Samuda 

      6 years ago from Jamaica

      You are such a jerk...NOT! Anyone would be delighted to have you mentor them and Mr. Coffee beans is lucky. Sorry bout the name change, couldn't help

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      Augustine A Zavala 

      6 years ago from Texas

      I know how nuts you are.

    • Ardie profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Neverland

      Thank you Feline Prophet!!

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      Feline Prophet 

      6 years ago

      Happy mentoring! :)

    • Ardie profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Neverland

      Thanks Sueswan! I agree - I dont have much to give but I will give it all to help another person. Thanks for the votes!

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      6 years ago

      Hi Ardie

      What a feel great hub.

      It is always nice when we can help each other.

      Voted up up and away!

    • Ardie profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Neverland

      Hello RHW :) You're so funny! There sure are some characters at HubPages, aren't there?

      Haunty, cooperation is way better because then the blame is split two ways when something goes wrong!!!!

      writer20, Thank you for reading!

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      Joyce Haragsim 

      6 years ago from Southern Nevada

      Great hub and I'm sure Mr. Poshcoffe will love your help.

      Voted up and awesome my new friend.

    • Haunty profile image


      6 years ago from Hungary

      You nailed it. I was just trying to ask for advice, but you are a jerk again, because you didn't take me seriously. I will accept your friendship as an apology. :D

      And you have already taught me something - cooperation is better than mentoring.

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      Kelly Umphenour 

      6 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      Ardie - pretty cool - and funny - and not funny but serious - and cool

      Well I am going to have to keep an eye on this Posh dude:) And I see Haunty here - yep - super fun and interesting people to know here at hub!

      Great Hub Ardie! Good to see you Poshcoffeeco!

    • Ardie profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Neverland

      Thanks Posh! I was worried it wouldnt do justice to the situation - but you HAD to be introduced as my newest friend.

    • Ardie profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Neverland

      Haunty! Its NOT a mentor thing - simply a friendship!! But if this is your way of asking for my advice I will gladly share. Just kidding - you are far more experienced than I am. Thanks for reading.

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      6 years ago from Hungary

      You'll get the hang of this mentor thing, Ardie, and people will flock to you for advice. :D

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      Steve Mitchell 

      6 years ago from Cambridgeshire

      Ardie wow, what a tribute not only to me but to Hub Pages for the brilliant group of people they have here. It was well worth the wait. Thanks and here's to a great friendship and mutual admiration.

      Let's be successful together!


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