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How To Be Brilliantly Disruptive

Updated on February 1, 2016

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Break The Rules, Be Yourself

Being a "good girl" is not anymore the way to succeed. I once saw in Spain a holidaymaker with a T-shirt that said: "Good girls go to heaven... bad girls have fun"I think, there is no discussion, between the two options I do prefer to have fun!

Break The Rules

Every day we encounter rules. There is a proper way to behave at work. A proper way to dress to go to your grandmother's house. There is an accepted way of acting when you go out with your friends. There are set rules to follow if you go to the theatre, a way to act if you go out with your husband. There is even a certain way you should behave if you are a mom. Rules, rules and more rules... It doesn't matter what we do we always have to follow the rules.

Following The Rules, You Become A Slave Of The Rule-Setter

Following the rules is following some else's way of living. It is not being yourself. Following the rules, you become a slave of the rule-setter. No easier example of this than fashion. "Fashion victims" are always trying to follow The Fashion, and in doing so, they never achieve the place of fashion setters. Look at Madonna or Victoria Beckham, so many people trying to copy their hairstyle, the clothes they wear, even the way they pose! And in doing so, the fashion followers are denying themselves. They are accepting that they want to be like someone else rather than to be themselves. In a way, they are saying that they are not good enough unless they look like someone else!

Be Yourself

When I say how to be brilliantly disruptive, I do not mean disruptive in the sense of being weird, cheeky or impolite. What I mean by brilliantly disruptive is BE YOURSELF. Do not be a follower, be yourself.

I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles.

— Audrey Hepburn

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The Princessa: Machiavelli for Women

I have written this book for you, princessa. I have found a way for a woman to become the artist of her anger and her desire.You are going to read here about women who have won the rule of their domain. You will learn about strategies to win the wars of intimacy.


Believe In Yourself

The World Remembers Women Who Were Innovative.

The world remembers women who were innovative. Women who dared to be themselves despite their limitations. I mean, history remembers Joan of Arc, a young girl who believed in herself and the power that she had. Whether she was really special or not, that is another matter. Joan believed herself special and she transmitted that to the people around her who did not doubt in following a young girl into the battlefield.

The Key To Success Is Transgressing The Rules.

The key to success is transgressing the rules. Not following some else's rules like a sheep. Make your own rules instead. How? Start with small things. To change the rules, you do not need to go on a crusade changing your life and the life of the ones around you. Instead start with small changes and be faithful to yourself. Other people have invented rules to control us. Rules control behaviour. But as well as bad behaviour, rules control also good behaviour. Rules stop us from being ourselves, from achieving happiness.

Why did my grandmother stay married to an abusive husband for more than 15 years? Because she was following the rules. At her time a "decent woman" could not divorce, so she had to stay married despite everything. If she had acted following her heart or even her common sense she would have divorced only a few months after getting married. But the rules set by the society at her time made of her a victim.

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams."

— Eleanor Roosevelt

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      urimidden 8 years ago

      Nice hub. But a few contentions. First, please don't make me look at

      Second. The fact is that many rules were first envisioned with entirely honorable intentions, and as well, accomplished their goals quite well. It has been the constant adulteration of the intent of the rules, and also the abuse of those affected by the rules by powers that seek to use these rules to control and subvert them. Just like abortion. It is wise to prohibit it, but only if we live in a society which intends to abrogate the many causes and exacerbatory propensities being ignored, and even revered, in our society which contribute...such as pimping and prostitution, for example.

      Also, if we seriously respected the institution of marriage, and its true intent, then our society would consider marital infidelity and domestic violence to be much more serious crimes, and our society, united in a common purpose, would demand that it be any cost.

      I propose that it is those who first seek to change the rules because they do not realize the actual intrinsic perversion that so benignly starts the ball rolling, as it then begins to pick up speed and careen out of control.

      But of course, I am not in any way speaking of trends or fashions, with exeption to the propensity for American women to wear their lingerie in public, and the likes.

      Hope you do not mind my conjecture. Once again...nice hub.

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      Wendy Iturrizaga 9 years ago from France

      thanks coolbreeze

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      Rik Rodriguez 10 years ago from Hawaii

      Great Hub !!!!

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      Wendy Iturrizaga 10 years ago from France

      Thanks Brandy and continue to be brilliantly disruptive this new year!

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      Brandy Owens 10 years ago from Wherever life takes me

      Wow, that's what I always believe and try to abide by. :)

      Great hub, well said.

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      Wendy Iturrizaga 10 years ago from France

      Thanks girls, remember "good girls go to heaven... bad girls have fun"!!!

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      Zsuzsy Bee 10 years ago from Ontario/Canada

      Princessa! Great article!

      regards Zsuzsy

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      Isabella Snow 10 years ago

      Great hub, Princessa! So true!

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      Wendy Iturrizaga 10 years ago from France

      Yo are right funride, it applies to everybody. Be yourself, be who you want to be , no who others want you to be.

      Thanks compu-smart, I hope it helps some of us for the new year ;-)

      I like doing it my way too Mr. Marmalade even if it doesn't please a lot of people!

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      MrMarmalade 10 years ago from Sydney

      Good advice as that song made famous was 'I Did it My Way.

      Thank you

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      Manoharan 10 years ago from Bangalore - 560097, Karnataka, India

      hi gr8 post vist my new posts

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      Compu-Smart 10 years ago from London UK

      My feelings entirely funride!

      good advice Princessa :)

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      Ricardo Nunes 10 years ago from Portugal

      That´s it: BE YOURSELF!

      I supose that it applys to everyone ;)

      At least I´ve rule my life being myself!

      Nice hub!