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How to be unattractive to the opposite sex
It’s the age old question… how do you attract the opposite sex. It is a question that seems to intrigue everyone. Not only does this cause an overflux of answers and opinions, but it also has people telling you what they know when they really don’t know a darn thing.
I don’t think there will ever be a correct answer to this question. Every human is different and therefore every human will find different qualities attractive. So, what one person might find attractive, another person may find repulsive. With that being said, while some people may offer advice and suggestions, is it really the answer… or more importantly the CORRECT answer.
So, because the question “how do you attract the opposite sex?” is a complete waste of time, I will turn this completely around and tell you how to be unattractive to the opposite sex. This list will consist of some pretty basic items, which can go either way, but, because I am a female, I feel this list will be more valuable for men to read.
So, if your interested in learning how to repel the opposite sex… this is the place to be. Why not! After reading this list, people will start flocking to you because you have changed your ways.
Stop being lazy and pick up after yourself!
I would have to say this is one of my biggest pet peeves. I can’t even tell you how much I hate when people are lazy. Yet, the more and more lazy a person becomes, the more unattractive I find the person.
Now how does this relate to relationships and becoming unattractive? Take marriages for instance. It is a new world out there. No longer do woman stay home and take care of the house and wait on the man’s every wish and desire. No longer is the woman responsible for everything that is considered the home life while the man does nothing but pay the bills and watch sports on TV. At this point, as I have just ran after the kids all day, slaved over the kitchen preparing a meal, scrubbing up the dishes afterwards, in between helping with homework, mopping the floors, throwing in a few loads of laundry, I may look over to the man who is watching TV and want to puke because of how unattractive he is right now. Now maybe my eyes are just glazed over with soap bubbles, but they lazier they get, the more unattractive they are in my eyes.
Now, because you are probably thinking that I am completely woman’s lib, I will reverse the situation. What about the man who is always working in the yard, cleaning out the garage, taking out the garbage, and even paying the bills while the woman sits around eating bon bons? The couple who lives in filth because neither one is willing to lift a finger. A situation that I can’t help but find unattractive. In this case, both people are unattractive.
So, let me rephrase this. If you are too lazy to lift a finger or you don’t do a darn thing, chances are likely, you are becoming more and more unattractive to the opposite sex. So, if you are single and you have traits of being lazy, good luck finding a mate. More likely then not, this trait will follow and sooner or later it will be affecting your lifestyle and your love life.
Being lazy can also be considered a lack of motivation. What it boils down to, is the more motivated a person is, the more successful they will become. Now, whether you are male or female, who are you more attracted to? The person that has made something of themselves because they work hard for what they want; or the person who doesn’t do anything and has nothing to show for it. I know which one I would choose.
Are you being lied too?
I understand little white lies, but being downright deceitful is devastating. This destroys the trust in a relationship. If you are dishonest, don’t even bother getting into a relationship. It probably won’t last.
This sounds harsh. After all, I have always been a rather trusting person. Even a complete stranger can do no wrong in my eyes. I was trusting of everyone. I never thought any different. But, sooner or later someone will break that trust. They will lie. It seems it is almost human nature. Yet, the more lies I encounter, the more I start to distrust others. I have been lied to so many times that I have a changed from trusting everyone to trusting no one.
While you may be thinking that trust needs to be earned, I usually thought the other way around. There is no reason to distrust a person until they prove they need to be distrusted. I found believing in people made me a happier and better person. Yet, the more lies I encounter, the more I don’t trust; the more I don’t trust, the crankier I seem to become. This makes for a very unattractive combination.
If you find yourself constantly lying to people, you need to confront the problem… yourself. It doesn’t make you a better person, regardless of the reason why you are lying. While I do understand that it is sometimes easier to tell a lie than it is to tell the truth, being dishonest should not become a regular habit. Therefore, the more you lie, the more unattractive you become.
I don’t know how many times I have witnessed people being disrespected by other people, but when I see this happening, I can literally feel the steam coming out of my ears. I can not stand it. What makes one person so much better than the other person. Absolutely nothing. Therefore, why should you disrespect that person, especially if it is someone you love or trying to be in a relationship with.
This really goes either way. You can see it when a man treats his woman like she is a piece of meat. When they demand they do something they don’t want to do. It can even be as simple as calling them over by you in an aggressive matter, just because you wanted to control them. It is no different than when a woman treats her man like a sheepdog; when she whines and cries just to get what she wants.
Sometimes people feel as if disrespecting others makes them seem like a bigger and better person. They like the control. Yet, what they are doing is achieving the opposite effect. Instead, they just look like a fool. They are making themselves unattractive to not only the one they are trying to impress, but each and every person around them Yet they continue to disrespect people!
Where is the respect? Some people show they have no respect for themselves and are then treated like a doormat by their significant other. Vice versa, when the person treats another like a doormat, they have a tendency to retreat into a doormat state. Now, I know that I don’t like being stepped on, and I don’t expect that you do either. Therefore, if you want to continue being unattractive, continue to disrespect others.
Personal Hygiene - or a lack of it
What happened to the days when people cared what they look like (and what they smelled like!) They say attractiveness is in the looks. Well, duh! That is what people first see. Yet, it seems once they got their mate, why bother with the little things. Now, I am not suggesting that you spend half your day in the bathroom primping and priming.
With this being said, this is what you need to do. Strip off your clothes; jump in the shower; scrub liberally. Once shower has commenced try this whole thing called toothpaste. It works wonders on your teeth. It works wonders on your breath. Even if I am not in a relationship with you, I don’t want to smell your last meal when I am talking to you. All that does is make me slowly (or quickly) back away.
You may be the most attractive person out there, but if you carry a nasty odor, I can guarantee that a person will become blinded by your smell. While our eyes may be pleased, our nose however will not. The nose will overrule the decision. So, if you can’t take care of your personal hygiene, consider yourself unattractive. Your looks and your smell are a complete package. Take care of it or continue to be unattractive to the opposite sex.
What's your opinion?
Which trait to you find the least attractive
Now that you know
Nobody wants to be considered ugly or unattractive. Whether you are looking for someone new or already in a relationship, your attractiveness can change on a daily basis. Therefore, you need to keep up the work to keep yourself attractive in other people’s eyes. If you are in a relationship, becoming unattractive can doom the future. If you aren’t in a relationship, you obviously have skills you need to work on.
While people often consider looks as the entire attractive package, often time people forget about how actions can raise or lower your attractive qualities. If you let these actions slip, you might find yourself completely alone. Not only is being unattractive make it hard to find a mate, but you can put pressure on friendships as well!
So now that you know how to be unattractive, go out and change you habits or feel free to continue to repulse people!
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