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How to cuddle

Updated on November 11, 2009

I just want to talk about cuddling (or hugs, but I like the word cuddle). Yes sometimes strange things come to my mind. I think everybody should cuddle every day. So let us cuddle up now.

You just need two things to be able to cuddle; affection and a partner. A cuddly toy like a teddy bear can do the trick too, but that's not the partner I'm thinking about here.

What a cuddle can do for you

The skin is the largest organ we have and it needs a great deal of care and the best care it can get, is a nice cuddle. A cuddle can cover a lot of skin and besides that it is also a form of communication. It can say things you don't have words for or it expresses things you don't need words for.

I think we all experience cuddling in a different way, but most of the time we don't think about how we experience it.

I know how I experience it and I know it wasn't always in the same way. At home, when I was a little girl, cuddling was more something of an obligation. Cuddling my mom on birthdays when the family came over, just to keep up appearances. Cuddling my aunt who I didn't see for a long time and I pretended to like it.

Normally there was no cuddling. Cuddling made me feel uneasy. I did it, but it didn't feel naturally. At least, that's how it felt. I can say I used to be happy when there was no cuddling at all.

I got older, changed, and I accepted the cuddling, didn't resist it. But my first truly cuddle, from someone that really meant it, that one felt scary. (Maybe because I got it from my mother in law) But it still wasn't the cuddle like I experience it today.

A good cuddle, a really true and good one, will last more than a few seconds. I can't tell you how long, because I don't have a clue, but it always seems to short.

With the cuddles I experience lately, I just close my eyes, and feel. Feeling, that's what it's all about. And I feel good, feel relaxed, almost peaceful. In fact, I just feel happy.

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Cuddling and relationship

Cuddling is more than a way to keep you warm on a cold day. It's an affectionate physical contact which is good for your health

It's a perfect thing for a man and woman(or woman and woman or man and man) that just want to be close or haven't reached the stage of kissing each other yet. Cuddling can be a great bonding experience for the both.

In relationships cuddling is a way to show the other how much you care an besides that, it's relaxing, comforting and romantic too. Most woman prefer a cuddle to sex. It's simply touching and caressing without any getting any sexual organs involved. Even though it can be a prelude to sex, it is not necessarily.

Sometimes I feel my heart bounce, or I feel his. That's what you feel with a true cuddle. I observe, taste it with my brains, and capture it into my memories, because I want to take it with me forever, wherever I am, wherever I go. And now when I think about it, I just feel it again.

Cuddles.. Strange things aren't they?


It's wondrous what a cuddle can do.

A cuddle can cheer you when you're blue

A cuddle can say, "I love you so,"

Or, "I hate to see you go."

A cuddle is "Welcome back again."

And "Great to see you! Where 'er you been?"

A cuddle can soothe a small child's pain

And bring a rainbow after rain.

The cuddle, there's just no doubt about it --

We scarcely could survive without it!

A cuddle delights and warms and charms;

It must be why God gave us arms

Cuddles are great for fathers and mothers,

Sweet for sisters, swell for brothers;

And chances are your favorite aunts

love them more than potted plants.

Kittens crave them, puppies love them,

Heads of states are not above them.

A cuddle can break the language barrier

And make your travel so much merrier.

No need to fret about your store of 'em;

The more you give, the more there are of 'em.

So stretch those arms without delay

And give someone a cuddle today!

- author unknown


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      Brittney baby. 6 years ago

      Ok.. So this guy at school, I like him, but he's my besties ex bf. & he wants 'cuddles' at school, but I'm always with her at lunch, I think she'll get angry at me... But I want to cuddle with this guy. What do I do?

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      lovegal 7 years ago

      i love to cuddle ..but my bf loves sex all ta time...nthn more..

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      marion mcdine 7 years ago

      not great with words ,but a big fat cuddle says everything ! Ilove them :)

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      poetlorraine 8 years ago

      everyone needs cuddles

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      I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s 8 years ago

      Ah, cuddling is the best! :) Lovely article!

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      White_Bubble 8 years ago

      i love cuddling. my "boyfriend" and i love to cuddle. We aren't exactly dating but we aren't just friends. it's really complicated, but we love each other. <3 we hug, cuddle, snuggle all the time. it's really a great thing to do when you feel down

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      ontheway 8 years ago

      How to cuddle

      Very good article, thank you to share, welcome to my space to see

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      Lazur 8 years ago from Netherlands

      You're absolutely right Andy, thank you:)

      Cuddle anyone?:D

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      AndyBaker 8 years ago from UK

      Us humans (most of us!) crave the touch and closeness of others, and a cuddle does that nicely.

      Great hub.

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      tarrahhernandez, I have to say you're doing a good job by cuddling everyone around you. Human or animals, we all need it, we all feel happier after a good cuddle:) Thank you for reading and your nice comment on this hub:)

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      tarrahhernandez 9 years ago from Michigan

      wow great hub! I have two children one of which is a newborn, and for the first few days after having her I just wanted to cuddle all the time. I husband and I cuddle after a fight, and it seems to take the tension away. I have always taught my son that cuddling is important, giving him a lot of it, as well as introducing him to a stuffed animal at night to keep him company. Its funny because even my dog seems happier after a good long cuddle in one of our laps....I love your hubs, you are a great writer, with wonderful ideas!

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      Zeeshan_Shahid 9 years ago

      u r silly & sexy

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      You're welcome Benson:) I read something about a test they did with babies in Eastern Europe and indeed, the more cuddles the better.

      Thank you for your comment:)

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      Benson Yeung 9 years ago from Hong Kong


      thanks for the great hub. I read a recent scientific research suggesting four of these good one are the minimum number one needs for the health benefits. possible, more the merrier.

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      I hope you mean as much as you can:) at least that's what I hope for most of the time:)

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      francis 9 years ago

      I like to cuddle as fast as I can because it is a moment which will long last for ever

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      Maybe he will find out some day:) When he's ready for it;)

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      Goddess Bethany 9 years ago from Oregon

      Awz!! I wish I could convince my boyfriend that cuddling is great for our relationship. )8

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      Thank you multimastery:)

      @ Anita. Your welcome.:)I'm glad to read that you have your cuddlingmemories too:) You can also say; the deeper the love the warmer the cuddle?:)When there is more affction, the cuddles are better:) A cuddle is much more then an action indeed.

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      Anitha1978 9 years ago

      When i nestle my head on my boyfriends shoulder, the cuddle he give reminds me why i am in love with this man. Cuddling is not just an action its a reminder how much you love a person. The warmer the cuddle the deeper the love. and it certainly does not result in death A wonderful read. thank you

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      multimastery 9 years ago

      The most heartfelt hub I've read so far ~ A great inspiring read.

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      There can be many reasons why someone doesn't cuddle you back and I think you should respect and accept that.

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      beth 9 years ago

      brilliant hub cuddles are good for everyone but what if they dont cuddle you back.

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      Thank you for your nice comment:) I agree qlcoach. Mental and physical contact with the one you love let the love grow between people. If there isn't any,the love will die.

      I will read some of your hubs too:)

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      Gary Eby 9 years ago from Cave Junction, Oregon

      Great writing. Inspiring hub. We need to make more contact with people we truly love. Thanks for sharing this. Feel free to see how I try to help others in new ways too. Sincerely: Gary Eby, author and theapist.

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      pcdriverupdate 9 years ago from VA

      nice hub. it's great to have someone you love and loves you to cuddle with. :)

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      Cuddling is for parents and their child, a friend and a friend and man an wife. Like alexis said, even for animals. Why result to death?

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      efeglo 9 years ago from Nigeria

      I believe its mainly for married partners, but dangerous for singles and those who not ripe for it, they should not even try it cause it might result to death o.

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      hardikinn 9 years ago

      Cuddeling called JADOO KI JAPPI in india

      Thanks for great Hub

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      Om Paramapoonya 9 years ago

      This is such a cute hub. Thumbs up! My bf works night shifts and I work during the day, so we do marathon cuddling on weekends. :-)

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      Within 9 years ago

      Great lens..........well done.

      Give me a cuddle anyday, its really gives me a real boost to give my wife a warm embrace every day especially at the end of a working day.

      All the best,


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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

       I feel honoured:D.Animals are no different at all:D Thank you for this personal comment:)

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      C.S.Alexis 9 years ago from NW Indiana

      Last night I thought of this Hub as we cuddled on the floor in front of the TV. The dogs were included as they need affection too. They tend to get a little jealous of who gets the most pets. Makes me laugh to think that those dogs are not much different than people when it comes to having their bellies rubbed. Four on the floor, and I am not talking about automobiles here. C.S.

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      Actions say more than words that's true:)

      I think that's why the so called cuddles I'd got when I was little, didn't feel genuine.

      I hope you wil get and can give a lot of genuine cuddles.:)

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      chantelg4 9 years ago from Northern Ontario

      Very nice hub, I think "touch" is so important. If you just tell me you love me, it doesn't seem to enough, I need to feel it, and when I feel it, it is genuine. I love to cuddle!!

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      Thank you Beth!:) A Cuddle for you:)

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      betherickson 9 years ago from Minnesota

      Hi Lazur! I love your hub. So sweet and very thoughtful. It gives a warm feeling. :) I'm giving you a thumbs up. :)

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      What would we do without those kind of cuddles?:) Thank you VioletSun:)

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      VioletSun 9 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

      My mate gets up before me in the morning, and after taking my shower and dressing, I go out to the garden where he usually is and we give each other a big hug, and just cuddle for a few seconds, sometimes without saying a word. It's our little ritual that starts off our day, and we end our day before going to sleep with another warm cuddle. I love the cuddles, feels so reassuring and warm. :)

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      Thank you Moon Daisy:D Having someone to cuddle gives a wonderfull feeling. Happy cuddling for you too:D

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      Moon Daisy 9 years ago from London

      That's a lovely hub. Made me feel all warm inside. I love cuddling my husband and my daughter. It gives me a feeling of peace, like eveything's right with the world!

      May everyone have someone to cuddle.

      Happy cuddling :0)

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      Blessings for you too Angel:D Thank you for your nice comment:)

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      Earth Angel 9 years ago

      What lovely sentiments to start a Saturday morning!! Thank you for sharing!! Blessings always, Earth Angel!!

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      gryphn 9 years ago

      I have always disliked the sound of this word so much. As a writer I avoid certain words, this being on of them, but I will concur that the activity of "it" (replacement word) certainly has its benefits.

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      Dragon girl 21 9 years ago from U.S. OF A


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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      Great idea:D

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      Adam B 9 years ago

      Here is what I need for proper cuddling...I been thinking about this for a long time now...a hole in the mattress with a strap so I can put my arm through the mattres yet have it strapped up to the bottom. Now that would be comfortable and you don't have to worry about your body weight lying on your arm cutting off circulation. Pins & needles sucks!

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      Cuddling brings comfort:D Lucky you;) Thank you Tamra for your personal comment:)

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      AttractionMarket 9 years ago from Clifton Springs, NY

      I call my cuddling, my confort zone. Every night when my husband and I go to bed, first thing he does is open his arm so that I can lay beside him with his arm wrapped around me. Very inviting at the end of a very long day. May all your readers find their comfort zone.


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      mattferry 9 years ago from California

      Cuddling is indeed great. Either cuddling or being cuddled. leaves a lasting memory and feeling.

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      Megtec 9 years ago

      Every man out there should be as lucky as me.

      I hope I get another 30 years with her too;]

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      Thank you Lifebydesign and Megtec for your comments. And Megtec, your marriage looks like proof of how important cuddling is. I hope you can cuddle up with each other for another 30 years:D

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      Megtec 9 years ago

      Hi Lazur. Been Married for 30 years. MY kids are all grown and all over the country. Still, there is nothing better in this world than when my wife grabs me and gives me a big bear hug. We still love lying on the sofa together and watching a movie, or just holding hands while walking around the neighborhood. Physical contact (not necessarily sex) is what helps to keep us whole. Great Hub.

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      Lifebydesign 9 years ago from Australia

      Great hub Lazur- such a warm subject ;-)

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      Hello Christoph:D I don't know why Brainstormer isn't cuddling the dog. Maybe he should before the anmimal eats the vibrator. LOL

      Thank you for reading and your nice comment:D

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      Christoph Reilly 9 years ago from St. Louis

      Hi Lazur. Great hub and a "cuddlely cute" poem! Why won't brainstormer cuddle his dog? That''s what they're for. Thanks again for an always enjoyable read!

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      Your wife is lucky Brainstormer:D You're doing a great job:D

      And you're right. A good cuddle lasts a lifetime. You will never forget the feeling it gives you:)

      and poor Dog.. maybe that's the problem:P No cuddling:D LOL

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      Brainstormer 9 years ago from Australia

      How can a beer guzzling man's man comment on this. That's right I became enlightened in my second hub. I love this hub. I loved cuddling my children when they were young and still give them a hug whenever I think I will get away with it. I love cuddling my wife at every opportunity. The only person in our household I refuse to cuddle is the Dog.

      A good cuddle lasts a lifetime.

      Thanks for bringing back memories. Great Hub

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      Thank you for your comment:)

      I can agree with you on that:) That's why I think cuddles in a relationship mean more than having sex.(not that sex isn't nice;))I just love to connect:)

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      hot dorkage 9 years ago from Oregon, USA

      maybe that's why young people who are responsible enough not to have sex enjoy each other so much because they cuddle. Once they start having sex sometimes it is done without any connection and I think that is bad.