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How to find that your partner is cheating on you?

Updated on June 10, 2015

To find out if your partner is hoaxing in the relationship, the very first symptom would be an unhappy relation, following by lies, unexpected behaviour, sudden fights for no reason and many more. The below listed are some ways to identify if your partner is cheating on you.

Hiding things from you

One should by no means do things which you would hide from your partner. People hide things which are wrong. If your partner manipulates or try to wrongly influence you, then you may be in a fake relation. Moreover if your partner hide something or is unable to give justification for the thing he did, be alert and find out if he is trying to make a fool out of you.

Making excuses every now and then

Your partner is trying to cheat on you if he shows a lack of interest in going out with you. When he develops an unexplained aloofness that wasn’t there before, indicates that he is no more interested in you. Because a person who loves you will never miss a chance to spend some quality time with you and will make every effort to make you feel special.

Lack of physical love

When your partner feels sleepy and goes to the bed alone. You feel a lack of energy and flame in the relationship due to the changed behaviour of your partner. When you notice that he is reluctant to accept your affection and criticize you for showing attention, surely there is something off beam. If a person really loves you, he will definitely express that love in romantic ways.

Constant complaints

When your partner start nagging you for every little thing and never leave a chance to find shortcomings in you, know that he is deliberately trying to harass you emotionally. This emotional abuse can be worse when he becomes over critical about every issue which leads to physical abuse. There are things that can be tackled with love but nothing can be more vital than your self-respect. Whenever it comes to choosing between your self-respect and love, choose your self-respect, because had the latter been important, the first wouldn’t be harmed.

Feeling uncomfortable and uneasy

When your partner feels a complete negativity in the relationship and starts finding reasons to end it. When he remains unsatisfied and when there is not even a single thing left to share between you both. When he never says the three magical words -I love you, and then one can easily figure it out that their partner is cheating on them.

It’s certainly not easy to gulp down the fact that your partner has been cheating on you. But it’s better to stand alone rather than being with the wrong person. A person who cannot give you love and respect doesn’t deserve to be a part of your life. The person should be left alone to make him realize his mistake.


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    • dashingscorpio profile image


      3 years ago

      Divorce usually is (the last thing) people want to go through.

      This explains why so many try couples therapy before making that move.

    • Kratika profile image

      Kratika Dubey 

      3 years ago from Bangalore

      i strongly agree with the last line. It of course takes two people to break and mend things. m just saying that divorce should be the last thing on their mind.

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      3 years ago

      Once again that's where communication comes in. If both people are clear about their wants, desires, and expectations of one another there should not be a whole lot of misunderstanding.

      There are basically two reasons why someone would not give you what you've asked for after you've explained it's importance to you.

      1. They don't have it to give. (In other words it's not who they are.)

      2. They don't believe you are worth the effort to give it to.

      Either way it means you have chosen the wrong mate for yourself.

      There's this fallacy out there which says; "Divorce is the easy way out." However the reality is it's a whole lot easier to get married than it is to go through a divorce!

      When it's all said and done a divorce is nothing more than public admission that you made a mistake in your mate selection process.

      One person cannot mend or fix a marriage. Both people have to do that.

      There are some people who make up their mind they are going to stay married no matter how unhappy they are, even through cheating, verbal/physical abuse, sexual and affection neglect....etc

      I've found that people who don't have "deal breakers" or "boundaries" usually have a low self-esteem and don't love themselves very much.

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      Kratika Dubey 

      3 years ago from Bangalore

      but may be there is a chance a misunderstanding.. i k now anything that can help me out and my marriage as well. i believe in mending things not throwing them away if they break.

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      3 years ago


      Communication is the GPS for relationships. It lets us know where we stand. We're either "growing together" or "growing apart".

      You'd have a heart to heart talk and from their you'd decide how you want to live the rest of your life. If two people don't want the same things what's the point staying together? Each of us deserves to be happy.

      Staying married for the wrong reasons is just as bad as getting married for the wrong reasons. Marriage was never meant to be a prison.

      No one is "stuck" with anyone. We're always where (we) choose to be!

      Human beings make mistakes and that sometimes includes selecting the wrong mate/spouse for ourselves.

      Life is a (personal) journey.

    • Kratika profile image

      Kratika Dubey 

      3 years ago from Bangalore

      ^ of course i would not but what if m already married to that guy??

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      3 years ago

      Kratika, Would you marry someone you did not love or were not happy with? Probably not! (So why would you stay in an unhappy relationship?)

      I'm not talking about being immature or irrational. I'm talking about doing some serious introspective thinking to determine whether or not you can continue in a relationship/marriage . You have to be honest with yourself.

      Anyone who is unhappy in a relationship/marriage and chooses to stay is (choosing) to be unhappy! If you or your mate needs to change your "core being" in order to make a relationship work odds are you've chosen the wrong mate to be with.

      The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship that you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and lasts but not least have a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.

      Divorce or breakups are rarely easy.

      Know yourself, Love yourself, and Trust yourself!

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them as (is) or move on. The choice is up to us!

      People only change when (they) are unhappy with the results they get.

      The world may not owe you anything but you owe yourself the world!

      One man's opinion!:)

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      Radhika Mehta 

      3 years ago

      Sometimes its not easy to forget and move on. The person who really loves make every effort to find out the root cause which is spoiling the relationship.The aforementioned are some situations which indicate that something is going wrong . rest its up to the partners what they choose to do, either fix the troubles or end it.

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      Kratika Dubey 

      3 years ago from Bangalore

      I don't agree with you. We simply don't break a relationship just because we are not feeling happy. We try to make things better, mend them, encounter the root cause and try to get the answers of all the questions like why is he/she doing this or that. we can't just simply jump into the conclusion of breaking up or divorce. As at times its not the right thing to do.

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      3 years ago

      Over the years I've come to realize if you're "unhappy" in a relationship it doesn't matter whether your mate is cheating or not. Move on!

      Unless you're a paranoid and insecure person by nature there is no reason not to assume you are right.

      If something doesn't feel right to you it's probably not right for you! Ignoring "red flags" leads to regret.

      Know yourself, Love yourself, Trust yourself.

      Anyone who is dealing with a situation that encompasses their mate:

      Hiding things from you; Making excuses every now and then; Lack of physical love; Constant complaints; and Feeling uncomfortable and uneasy.

      The truth of the matter whenever someone is in a relationship that has these issues taking place they're hoping to find an "explanation" for the change in their mate's behavior.

      Odds are you not going to jump for "joy" even if you discover your mate is NOT cheating and their behavior continues!

      Some people almost need their mate to cheat or abuse them in some way in order to give themselves permission to walk away from a relationship they're unhappy with. For them being "unhappy" is not enough of a reason. However it's important to note once you reach a point where you don't trust your mate the relationship is pretty much over anyway.


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