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How to get a guy to propose to you

Updated on July 24, 2009

Getting your boyfriend to step up and propose can be a tricky job. You can’t really make him do it. For that reason I recommend a pull rather than a push strategy. By which I mean make him want to marry you, don’t try to force it.
In this article we will discuss how to get a guy to propose to you, by making taking some easy steps.

Be great
I’m not saying be perfect in every way. The truth is: he needs to look at your relationship and think to himself: “This girl is a keeper”. The truth is a guy can be with a girl and consider her to be fun, but not marriage material. So be good to him and work on the relationship. Do not be the overly emotional / control freak girlfriend.

Getting more married friends
If you hang out more with happily married friends it will subconsciously keep reminding him about the possibility of marital bliss for you two. The key is that they must be happily married. In no time at all he will start feeling the need to propose to you.

Popping the question yourself
I am a traditional kind of guy. My feeling is that if you propose to him, it is a bit like stealing the moment from him. Keep in mind that the day you propose to your wife, is one of the most important days of any guy’s life. Even if he accepts your proposal, it is gone for ever and he can’t ever get it back. So I would consider this a last resort, if all else fails.

On the other hand I am sure that there are many great marriages where the girl proposed to her guy. I even read a story about one actress that threw her man a surprise wedding. He thought they where going away for a romantic weekend, then surprise here’s a wedding. Obviously it could have gone pretty wrong. Fortunately it worked out for her.

Having the “where is the relationship going” talk
This isn’t an easy talk for your guy to have with you. Despite that you should do it, because it gets him thinking about the future. It’s also a subtle hint that you want him to show his commitment to the relationship.

What you want to do is give him a heads up, before the talk. This will give him time to think about it. During the talk, you of course can’t ask: “When are you going to propose?” However questions like:”Where do you see our relationship in 5 years time” or “do you want to have a large family”, will really put his mind on the right track.

Money matters
Many men feel that they can’t get married and start a family, if they are not financially secure enough. While it helps to have money, it can become an excuse not to do it. If this is the problem you guys need to talk about it. Maybe you could have a long engagement or work something else out.

I hope that my how to get a guy to propose to you tips helps you. If it turns out he really doesn’t want to get married, maybe you need to consider whether it’s worth sticking around.

How to get a guy to propose to you
How to get a guy to propose to you


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    • dohn121 profile image


      9 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

      Good advice here. I joined your previous hub as well. The three magical words wouldn't hurt either, especially in parting with one another (when leaving for work, school, long trip, etc.) Make magic happen!


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