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How to get the guy

Updated on January 24, 2012

How to get the guy

How many times have you wondered to yourself, "How does she do it? How does she always get the guy?" The truth is that any girl can become the girl who gets the guy. You know the one. The girl who has all of the guys falling for her, the girl that has probably never spent a Friday night alone. Don't spend another night alone wondering why you can't get the guy. Take a deep breath, and continue reading.

The most important step in getting the guy is to have confidence in yourself. We all have imperfections, and issues that can riddle us with insecurities. The thing you have to tell yourself is that despite these flaws, you are worthy. Worthy of being flirted with, worthy of taking out, worthy of love, and most importantly, you are worthy of respect from the men you are interested in. Overcoming low self esteem can take time, but having confidence is the foundation for getting the guy you want, so if you don't have it you will just have to fake it. The amazing thing about faking confidence is that if you do it consistently, you will eventually develop real confidence that will come naturally. Confidence is so important because nobody wants to date the girl who is always complaining about herself. You have to love yourself before anyone can really love you.

The next step is to make sure you are at your best. As much as we all wish we lived in a less judgmental world, where we are judged not by our looks but by our hearts, the truth is that looks do matter. If you want to be the girl who gets all of the guys, you probably shouldn't wear your dirty sweats to work just because you can. Looking your best isn't about wanting to be someone else, or changing yourself to make someone happy, it is simply about becoming the best version of yourself. This doesn't mean that you have to wear things that make you uncomfortable, it just means that you should put effort into making sure that your inner beauty is reflected on the outside.

Another major part of getting the guy is to start focusing on yourself. It sounds counterproductive, but by focusing on yourself, you are letting the men around you know that you care about yourself, that you have other things in your life, and that you don't need them. Focusing on yourself includes your work or school, but it also includes your personal life. Do the things that make you happy, join a gym or go on a cruise. Learn a new language or take up a new hobby. Be happy to be alone, and realize that with or without a guy you will be ok. Men want to feel wanted, but they also don't want to be the center of your entire universe. Focusing on yourself helps you to maintain mystery and most guys love a good mystery. You want him to wonder about your life, and if he could fit in, not worry that he will be the center of your universe.

Happy Dating,



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    • Mary Merriment profile image

      Mary Merriment 

      7 years ago from Boise area, Idaho

      Caring about yourself is really important. Most people are not impressed by someone who doesn't have their own interests, friends and routines. Balancing "me time" and "them time" is very important indeed. A great article with great advice.

    • MrsInfertility profile imageAUTHOR

      Carisa Blades 

      7 years ago from Ogden, Utah


      I've been there and done that too. In fact my husband and I broke up for nearly 5 months before we were married. I will be writing a blog about getting back together in the next few days. Thanks for reading, and I wish you the best of luck.

    • charkamman profile image


      7 years ago from portugal

      I had to learn this the hard way... Anyway, I got him and now I lost him - and I now have to learn why I lost him and how I can get him back.

      It can all be done..



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