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Things to Do When You Don't Have a Girlfriend (For Guys)

Updated on August 23, 2016

Being Single is Okay

Perhaps all you friends are in a relationship. Perhaps they seem to be doubly as satisfied and fulfilled as you. Maybe their love life gives them a very special boost.

Don't worry. There is no hard and fast rule that only being in a relationship will make one successful in life. There are a whole lot of ways in which you can have a meaningful and satisfying single life. Let's try to figure out what they are.

Important! Remember You are Valuable

A very fundamental thing to keep in mind is that, whether you are single or in a relationship, your value as a person remains constant. You are endowed with a lot of unique character attributes that are not likely to change over a lifetime. Appreciate that!


Being Single Isn't Bad at All!

Being single is cool! Stand up nice and confident!
Being single is cool! Stand up nice and confident! | Source

1. Have a Game Plan in Life

Be clear about the things you want to achieve in life. It's obvious that without a plan, you will go nowhere. Without a plan, you will keep floating about and looking at others, and feeling very sorry for yourself.

Decide on what your short, mid and long-term life goals are. While in a relationship, people are often inattentive to the reality around them, because they are fascinated by their partner, but you are at an advantage in this regard. Make use of it!

While it is important to have a game plan, remember to use it only as an indicator. Don't become a slave to it and manage every small aspect of your routine in accordance with it. This is a recipe for disaster!


Observe People and Become a Better Person

Be an observant young man
Be an observant young man | Source

2. Observe the World around You

As a young single man in a constantly changing world, you are in an excellent position to observe the happenings around you in a non-judgmental way.

Life is full of lessons, and at this stage of life, you are well disposed to absorb them.

Let me provide an example. I travel by city train every day to work. The journey lasts me about 40 minutes each way. I make it a point to observe the other people in the compartment with me. This observation, I notice, is markedly improving the way I read people, a skill that will be priceless all my lifelong!

3. Help Others

The true sense of fulfillment comes from reaching out to someone in need. There are a lot of people in this world who require the help of a kind soul who is willing to help them through a tough time. There are also a lot of single men in the world.

Francis Bacon, in his essay 'On Single Life', observed that single men were in a better position than married men, to help others, because they were free from the responsibility of starting and maintaining a family. I find that thought very meaningful.

Make sure you help at least one person, even if only in a small way, every day. The helping tendency is a precious and increasingly rare attribute that your future wife is likely to appreciate.

4. Socialize

Connect with people and make loads of contacts. Don't be afraid to take the initiative in this matter. More contacts means more influence. More influence means more clout. More clout means more chances that you can get things done your way!

Have a nice word or two to say to the people you meet, and hold back words of rebuke or correction for later, because there's always a tomorrow.

Go out and do fun things with the friends you make. Travel to far off locations and learn the local culture. Play with kids!


Spend Time With Others

Do fun things with the people you meet. Why don't you go skiing in the Rockies or the Himalayas?
Do fun things with the people you meet. Why don't you go skiing in the Rockies or the Himalayas? | Source

5. Engage in Social Causes

Is there something in your society that absolutely puts you off? Raise your voice against it. You are single and strong!

Are you worried about the destruction of a forest in your region, or about increasing pollution, or about the homeless people in your city? Raise your voice.

Use the social media to let others know of pressing issues they might not even have been aware of. One voice can make a whole world of difference!

I make it a point to let my voice on a host of social issues be heard on social media sites like facebook, twitter and youtube. This encourages discussion of these issues, and ultimately, awareness is created.

6. Have Pets

Whether a dog, cat, bird or any other creature, a pet is great company. A pet helps relieve frustration and spreads cheer to its owner. I have 4 dogs and 6 Lovebirds at home, and they play a big role in keeping me humane. In case you're thinking that's too many pets to have, let me assure you that one is good enough!

7. Earn Loads of Money

More money equals more options. Use every opportunity you get to make money. Do a freelancing job if you must. Don't depend on one source of income. Don't keep all your eggs in one basket. As and when you enter a relationship, you will need to expend money.

It is totally unfair to expect to be supported by anyone. Be independent. Be ready to hit the ground running when you begin a relationship.

Of course, there can be loads of love without a single cent, but looking at things practically, how one handles money is capable of determining whether the relationship is going fine or heading for the rocks. A large number of divorces occur as a result of financial issues. A little foresight can save a future relationship.

Money Isn't Everything, but it is an Important Thing

Don't depend on one source of income. Don't keep all your eggs in one basket.
Don't depend on one source of income. Don't keep all your eggs in one basket. | Source

8. Travel

Find the time to travel and explore your region and the world. Be always on the move. As you travel, you will open yourself to new experiences and opportunities to forge meaningful relationships. You will also develop a profound love for the wonderful natural world.

9. Work on Spirituality and Health

Whether you are religious or not, or even if you are atheist, ask questions about life and diligently seek answers to them. It's a question of finding meaning in life. Don't accept anything as an answer without being totally convinced by it.

Health is another area that must be focused on. The lack of good health will disturb all the plans you've made for yourself. Eat on time and sleep well each night. Make it a point to incorporate a workout into your daily routine.

10. Relax and do Nothing

Just lazing about in bed is a luxury that is available to single men more than to men in relationships. Use your single status to occupy the whole space available in bed! You won't be able to do it forever! Stretch your arms and make weird and piggish grunts. Stare into nothingness! You are single!

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Tell me What you Think!

For most people, the single life is not permanent. However, the decisions one makes while being single have a big role to play in future relationships. This makes it even more important to take the single life seriously.

Writing this article has been a time consuming affair. I have done it, however, in the hope that it will add value to other young men like me. I look forward to reading your thoughts on what I have shared here. Let me know if you have any other strategies to help make the single life more fruitful.


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      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 3 years ago from Chennai, India

      Thank you very much :)

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      Jackie DelMonte 3 years ago from Nashua, NH

      talk about a much needed article for the world! kudos... wonderfully put. one must KNOW themselves and what they want out of life to ever hope to be successful in life and love.

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      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 3 years ago from Chennai, India

      @Paul Edmondson

      Very meaningful thoughts over there. I must agree with you.

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago from Texas

      Congratulations on HOTD rohanfelix, you are a very astute writer at presenting ways to improve one selfworth.

      Voted up and shared.

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      Hui (蕙) 3 years ago

      All these tips make a single man substantial in the life without a lover. So, it is not to kill time, but try not being hollow and shallow, preparing to welcome a love without expectation.

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      Pawan Kumar 3 years ago

      You're turning into one reliable Tips Guru - cheers Rohan! Nothing beats being single :-)

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      Koralee Phillips 3 years ago from Vernon British Columbia Canada

      This is very well-rounded advice, and I love how you put it all together. I agree with glassvisage that it is also excellent advice for women. My daughter's 19, and she will definitely benefit from reading your hub.

      However, its also relevant to married people as well.

      Congratulations on the well-deserved HOTD. I voted up, sharing and tweeting :)

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      Paul Edmondson 3 years ago from Burlingame, CA

      One thing I notice about being single for a few guys I know is that they spend a ton of time on dating sites and pursuing women. From that perspective it's very expensive not just money, but time. For those people that put so much energy into finding a partner, it must pay huge dividends by finding a partner early in life (assuming they stick together). Also, splitting up is more expensive than just the cost of divorce.

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      CrusherDestroyer 3 years ago

      Awesome hub! It gave me a positive perspective and it all makes sense. I'm a 21 year old single male and I totally agree that there are advantages to being single, it's not all bad! You have more freedom and you have more time to do some deep thinking, reflecting, and learning about yourself and the world around you. Voted up.

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      fbesares2 3 years ago

      Awesome hub, I really can relate about this. I am currently single and some of the girls I like do not like me. Yes, I will be earning money since relationships need upkeep.

      All in all this hub made me realize what I am in.

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      Jemuel 3 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      I enjoy reading your hub! Thanks for providing these tips to single men who are still waiting for the right girl until this time. Well, every man should enjoy the days when he is single - the wonderful period of being wild and free. Yes, I do agree, a single man should enjoy his life while he fulfills his dreams and builds his future. Hanging out with friends is really enjoyable, and of course, doing nothing/relaxing is the best.

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      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 3 years ago from Chennai, India

      @Tom Rubenoff

      I really appreciate that you have taken my hub seriously. For those who aren't sure what they want in life, I suggest that they do some soul searching.

      For example, if it's you, look at your life and try to list the things that you love the most in it. Once you've done this, pick the most loved thing and pursue it. The top 2 on the list may keep interchanging positions, but eventually there will be one winner, and that's what you will absolutely love to do in your life, and manage to be passionate about all the time.

      I do this exercise all the time. The top 2 for me are music and writing, but over time, music has clearly been ahead of writing, so that's where I see my future, and I'm joining a music course in 3 months time :)

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      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 3 years ago from Chennai, India

      @Tom Rubenoff

      I really appreciate that you have taken my hub seriously. For those who aren't sure what they want in life, I suggest that they do some soul searching.

      For example, if it's you, look at your life and try to list the things that you love the most in it. Once you've done this, pick the most loved thing and pursue it. The top 2 on the list may keep interchanging positions, but eventually there will be one winner, and that's what you will absolutely love to do in your life, and manage to be passionate about all the time.

      I do this exercise all the time. The top 2 for me are music and writing, but over time, music has clearly been ahead of writing, so that's where I see my future, and I'm joining a music course in 3 months time :)

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      Tom Rubenoff 3 years ago from United States

      Interesting article, thank you for writing it. You are a philosopher!

      Of the attributes you list, the one I found most challenging (up until recently) was to know what I want in life. There are so many choices! For those who are confused about what they want, what would you recommend?

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      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 3 years ago from Chennai, India

      @markdarmafall

      I'm glad you find this hub meaningful!

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      Mark 3 years ago from Moundsville,WV

      I really enjoyed your article. A lot of the information I have spoken to my single son about but I definitely learned some insightful information I had never thought of before that I plan to discuss in future conversations. Thanks for sharing voted up and useful

      Mark

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      glassvisage 3 years ago from Northern California

      This is great! :) As a woman, I think a lot of these apply to us as well. I'm not married and I don't have kids, so I'm trying to earn more money working overtime, trying to travel and do more things with friends. Great advice! I also like how you encourage us to do more service and support social causes.

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      Hawaiian Odysseus 3 years ago from Southeast Washington state

      You present this concept in a fresh and organized manner. I like your positive angle. Thanks for sharing this!

      Aloha!

      ~Joe

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      Monica Langley 3 years ago from USA

      you are most welcome

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      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 3 years ago from Chennai, India

      @monic-alang

      Thank you very much!

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      Monica Langley 3 years ago from USA

      I know this hub is just for guys anyway it can be also helpful for ladies as well :) great work and best suggestions (y)

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      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 3 years ago from Chennai, India

      I'm glad you found it useful! I consciously kept this simple so that it would be easy to understand.

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      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 3 years ago from Chennai, India

      @ Mel Carriere

      Another reason for single men to take it slow and easy!

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      Benjamin Chege 3 years ago

      Hi Rohan Rinaldo Felix. That title is really interesting. Thanks to the fantastic title, now I have learned 10 ways single people can enjoy life. And what makes it even more interesting is that there is no jargon in it. They are 10 simple things. The hub is so inspiring. Voted up, useful and awesome.

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      Mel Carriere 3 years ago from San Diego California

      Just when you think you have them figured out they change.

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      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 3 years ago from Chennai, India

      @Mel Carriere

      Interesting thought there! I thought married men had women more or less figured out!

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      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 3 years ago from Chennai, India

      @FlourishAnyway Much appreciated :)

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      Mel Carriere 3 years ago from San Diego California

      I am not single and have not been for 20 years, but I suppose a man should make the most of it and not rush into wedlock, because women are strange, unpredictable creatures. Great hub!

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      I like your perspective. Being single is an important time in one's life, not a time when you're simply waiting for the next phase. Make it meaningful and rich by filling it with a game plan, observation of the world around you, by reaching out to others who need assistance, travel (you might not be able to do this as easily later), enjoy the company of animals, etc. What a positive perspective. I like it! Voted up and more, plus sharing.

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