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How to Know if it is Love, Lust or Infatuation
How do you know what you are feeling is love, and not lust or infatuation? How can you be sure? asked by CJ Sledgehammer
I have read similar questions and I have wanted to answer but I have stepped back because this question seem very personal. Today as I log into my account this question knocked on the door of my heart and I welcomed it, to share my experiences and dreams.
Love, lust and infatuation is what has many people confused. To me it is the cause of brokenhearted human beings, anxious and deceptive feelings. Some couples will just walk away from each other. Another will stay in the relation like a tragic roller coaster. Many lovers will try to find out a solution to amend the decision that brought them together.
The importance of this question strives, in that Love is the base of our lives; 1 John 4:9 says: "By this the love of God was manifested in us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world so that we might live through Him."
Could our hearts blind us?
The Bible is my guide and I can not answer without leaning on it. I have found that all the answers rest in it's words, and for those that will not find the answer it says in Luke 8:17 "For nothing is hidden that will not become evident, nor anything secret that will not be known and come to light ."
Every time love is mentioned, the part of the body that we recall is the heart. Is it possible that our heart could blind us? Jeremiah 17:9 says "The heart is more deceitful than all else And is desperately sick; Who can understand it ?" and in Matthew 15:19 "For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, slanders ."
The best of all the things I have experienced in life is that there is hope; even more when you have faith; Proverbs 10:12 says: "Hatred stirs up strife, But love covers all transgressions. " Wonderful! If you have love you will become free knowing the difference between...Love, lust and infatuation.
How can we be sure?
In 1 Corinthians 13 God gives us the best and only definition of what love is and how we can distinguish other feelings or actions in behalf of the assurance of true love.
Infatuation is defined as:the state of being infatuated or the act of infatuating; which will be foolishness or all absorbing passion or an instance of this: a mere unreasoning passion that will not last. This in my opinion is stated in the first verse of 1 Corinthians 13 that reads: "If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal ." Here is where a wolf disguised itself to fool and break hearts gaining advantage in a relation. This kind of fool will tear hearts apart, but you know what...it happens so rapidly that it will be known soon enough to be chased out; before a life gets unnecessarily hurt.
Lust is defined as: an intense sexual desire or appetite, an uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire, and lecherousness. The second verse of 1 Corinthians 13 says: "If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. " How wonderful to be loved...we all want to be loved and show love. The thirst in us makes us fall many times for an intense feeling.
Search your heart
...1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 has the guide that our Lord has given us; write this in your heart so it will be able to know when to open the door when the knock is heard.
- Love is patient
- Love is kind
- Love is not jealous
- Love does not brag
- Love is not arrogant
- Love does not act unbecomingly
- Love does not seek its own
- Love is not provoked
- Love does not take into account a wrong suffered
- Love does not rejoice in unrighteousness
- Love rejoices with the truth
- Love bears all things
- Love believes all things
- Love hopes all things
- Love endures all things
Proverbs 4:23 "Watch over your heart with all diligence, For from it flow the springs of life." How can we be sure of love? Love can not be sought out...it finds us. We will be able to welcome it if we have true love in our own heart.
Thanks CJ Sledgehammerfor heart provoking questioned.
Blessings to all!
© Maria Magdalena Ruiz Ofarrill
© 2012 Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill