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How to know if you're in an abusive relationship? (physical or mental)
Relationships are based upon the nature a person is born with. A person's compatibility with other person depends upon the age old formula of "demand and supply" or "give and take". A person is in need of something which he or she finds in other person. And when he fails to get it, he would then become unhappy and abusive. So the root cause for this abusive behaviour of the partner is infact the expectations he or she has from the other partner.
Now if you the person who is the "abuser". Then naturally you would be very frustrated and unhappy. You had dreams about your ideal partner which crashed or you just need a change from the daily rut of your life. You would be happy trying out to find out the causes of this distress. You would start blaming the circumstances or your partner. Very seldom an "abuser" blames himself or takes responsibility. They are the worse people to live with and no wonder have a record of many broken relationships. If you are into one such relationship, first become assertive. Then quit it. Life isn't worth dragging on things just for the sake of love. And Jesus himself said that " person should first love thyself then others.
Now if you are the "abused" then most probably you would be a passive person. Doing only want's and should's. You dont have strings of your own life in your hands and just merely exist to please others. It's no point blaming the abuser when you yourself are such that you invite such treatment from others. Those who keep sulking and blaming never go forward in life. All you need to do is realize your rights, be more assertive and take your own independent decisions even if it means hurting others, so be it. Never compromise with your self respect.
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