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How to make new friends! Top six tricks!

Updated on June 21, 2014

‘Friendship... is not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything.’ – Muhammad Ali

Your success in life depends a great deal in your people’s skill. Unless you learn to make friends you cannot achieve great success. You might argue that you have many friends. You are right! You do have your own group of friends and you mingle very freely with them. You do not have any inhibitions in sharing your true feelings with them and there is a great deal of frankness in your interaction.

  • But can you be friendly with people you have just met?
  • Can you continue your friendship when you meet them again?
  • Or do you shy away from meeting people you hardly know?
  • Do you look away when you meet them again as you feel you have nothing to talk to them?

Most of you feel very hesitant to talk with people you are not acquainted with. You feel they might be reserved and haughty and would reject your overtures to be friendly.

Do you everyone wants to be friendly with others, but shroud themselves with many negative characteristics which make them seem aloof and distant?

  • Do you feel tongue tied when you meet strangers?
  • Do you feel you will be ridiculed if you approach them?
  • Are you searching for topics to interact with people other than your friends?
  • Do you stutter and hesitate to talk about your views?

Making friends is very easy! But the tricky part is continuing the friendship!

Do you want to know the tricks to make friends easily?

1. Be a great listener

People always like to talk about themselves and they like you when you lend them sympathetic ears. You should listen to what people have to say. If your eyes shift and look away from the person you are talking to, it sends the instant message that you are not interested.

You should maintain direct eye contact with the person you are talking to. You should not interrupt in between and air your views unnecessarily. You should wait till the person has finished talking to you and then you should say appropriate words that makes the person understand that you not only listened to him, but you also empathize with him.

2. Be prompt in saying the right words

It is not enough if you listen! You should know how to react and respond to the conversation. If you mumble and whisper innocuous words the person does not want to continue his interaction with you. You might disagree with the views of the person, but you should not raise your voice and say harsh words that can hurt him.

You have all the right to disagree, but there is a correct way to say it. Your voice should be firm and not shrill. You should explain your stand in a reasonable way so that he feels that you are just being frank and not rude. People like a frank and open person.

3. Greet and interact with a smile

Have you seen some people? They do not know how to smile. They have a glum and gloomy look in their face and no one likes to interact with such morose people.

Your genuine smile can talk for your and win you millions of friends. Always talk with a mild smile in your face. People like you for this!

4. Do not show off

Do not show off that you are very knowledgeable! You might have great know how about the topic you are talking about, but if you boast and project yourself as an all-knowing person, it makes others averse to interact with you.

Your knowledge about the topic should be woven into your conversation seamlessly and not be blatant. When you go on rhetoric about everything you know people shy away from you. People hate one sided speeches! They like only mutual interaction!

5. Remember names

People like it when you remember their names. You should greet the person by his name when you meet him again. You strike an instant chord of friendliness with that person.

6. Accept invitation

When you are invited for functions or get together, accept and attend it. It shows that you value their friendship. If you stay away doubting their reception you lose their friendship.

You need people to make a successful mark in your life. You cannot stand aloof like an island and think you do not need the help of others for your success. Of course it is you who have to work for your success. But making friends widens your horizon and makes your accomplishment easily accessible.

© 2014 mathira


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      mathira 3 years ago from chennai

      Thank you Flourish for your encouraging comments. Have a great day!

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      These are simple tips but many people do not employ them. Good list, good reminders, especially for those who may be lonely or in new situations.

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      mathira 3 years ago from chennai

      MsDora, I always had good friends who stood by me in all ups and downs of my life. As you say good friendship is indeed a treasure.

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      mathira 3 years ago from chennai

      billy, I think a smile speaks volumes than words. Thank you for the visit.

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      Dora Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      Mathi, a good friendship is a treasure and there is always room for one more. Thanks for the suggestions.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Smile and listen. Those two would have been my first choices. Very good list of important skills in meeting people.


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