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How to make your marriage successful? Needs contribution from both!

Updated on October 26, 2014

‘Ideally, couples need three lives; one for him, one for her, and one for them together.’ –Jacqueline Bisset

Marriage relationship has become very tough today. It is very rare to see successful marriages in this modern world. What makes couples fight? Husband wants to be known as the head of the family while the wife rightfully feels she is the pillar of strength in the family. Ego clashes, emotional distance, indifference and lost love makes your married life tedious and boring.

How to overcome such relationship problems between you? How to make your marriage a success? You never really want your married life to fail, do you? What exactly should you do to make your marriage work?

It needs the contribution from both. Unless you work for the success of your marriage you drift away from your spouse and your marriage loses its glow and freshness.

Wife always insists that her husband never thinks of the future of the family, while her husband feels that his wife is making family life very serious and shackled. You would be surprised to know that it is both you and your spouse who contribute equally to the success of your marriage.

Your wife has good qualities you do not have. Your husband has good qualities which you do not have. When you combine the good qualities of both your married life is happy and fulfilled. The trick to a good marriage is to forgo your ego and accept the fact that your spouse is your equal partner.

What are the top qualities of your wife?

  • She is more responsible than you.
  • She has the uncanny ability to foresee future problems in the family
  • She has better managing capacity than you.
  • She never buckles under the pressure of family issues.

What are the top qualities of your husband?

  • He has a better sense of humor than you. It helps to ease the tension in the family.
  • He is practical towards many nerve wracking issues which balances your family life.
  • He is more indulgent towards children

So both have your own unique qualities!

The contribution of your wife!

Your wife is your pillar of strength- this is a fact which you should accept. She is the back bone of your family. Without her you find it impossible to manage the family. You are no match to her administration qualities. She becomes strong willed when problems arise in the family, while you buckle under the pressure.

She can multitask which is something you can never do. She has the uncanny knack of balancing work and family life. Though she is tired from a hectic day at work, she overcomes it with ease and looks after you and your children. You often wonder at her capacity to run your family.

Financial security is safe in her hands as she knows what is best for her family and also about its future needs. She is adept in saving money for a rainy day. Children always look upon her to give them emotional support and she makes them feel psychologically sheltered.

Well, your family seems to depend on her for its emotional security, doesn’t it?

Does that mean a husband does not contribute for the family at all?

This is where you are wrong! You might have better qualities than your husband in administering your family, but it in no way takes away the credit of his contribution towards you and your children.

The contribution of your husband!

It is true he lags behind you in multitasking and also in managing the family. But family problems make you rather serious and morose. Since you are too focused on the financial security of your family you become tight fisted in spending for the children.

This is where your husband steps in. He is the balancing aspect of your family. He is more indulgent towards the children than you. He is more humorous than you.

You might be the back bone of your family, but your husband tilts the scale in his favor by his practicality. When you become emotional and tensed with family problems he is very practical in his approach.

Imagine a married life without laughter! It is dry and dull, isn’t it? Your husband is the humor quotient of your family. Your children always want to go out with him rather than with you as they know he is far more indulgent than you. All he wants is the enjoyment of his children. He is the stress reliever of the family as he jokes a lot and children adore him for that.

Both have your role to play and your contribution to the family is very necessary to make your married life stable and secure. Unless you link hands together to make your relationship meaningful your marriage cannot be a success.

© 2013 mathira

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