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How to Please St Valentine: Wise Advice for Girls of All Ages

Updated on February 14, 2018

Being in love is a blissful and a magical experience that satisfies our inner need for a deep connection with another human being. It brings intimacy, closeness and unconditional love that we are all craving for and want to experience throughout our lives. The question is how to find it and how to recognise that it is a true feeling? Nowadays there are so many ways to meet people or to communicate with them even if they live on the other side of the world. However, finding the love of your life is still as difficult as ever. So if you decided to go on a date with someone new for the first time, try to to make the most of it. The following article is to help you to make your first date a successful one, provided that you already know what you want in a potential partner.


The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances. If there is a reaction, both are transformed.

— Carl Jung

Strictly no games

This really goes without saying, do your best to be as open and sincere as you can from the start. Don’t create a false impression of yourself, show who you truly are, otherwise you won’t be able to form a long-lasting, honest relationship.

If you like the man you are with, let him know that you do. Show your interest openly with a gentle smile and eye contact. It will show that you are enjoying his company and if the man is less confident than you are, it will encourage him to open up as well.

This evening might become the most significant evening of your life and the beginning of a long journey with your husband to be. So make sure it is most enjoyable and flawless so you will cherish the memory of it for the rest of you life.

Be fun to be around with

Be friendly and smile if you feel like smiling, laugh if you feel like laughing, show that you are sincere, outgoing and fun, that you have these qualities that men generally love in women.


The art of conversing

Try to have a lighthearted (not silly!), fun conversation, leave all your problems somewhere safe, you can always come back to them later.

Give your full attention to what the man is saying on the first date. What he chooses to tell you when you first meet can be very revealing so you will be able to see if he shares your values and if he is the right person for you.

Returning compliments

If he tells you that you look beautiful/gorgeous/simply great etc. respond by saying that he makes you feel that way or something along those lines. Later on in the evening, try to find the right moment to return the compliment by commenting on something he is wearing or his excellent choice of this restaurant, cafe, etc.


Enjoy your meal!

Don’t be afraid of eating your dinner on your first date. It will show that you are a healthy human being with a good appetite and that you can appreciate small pleasures in life.

To pay or not to pay?

That is the question that some people don't feel comfortable with. Indeed it is a sensitive one.

Needless to say that you need to offer to pay for your dinner, but if he will not allow it,don’t insist on paying, don’t spoil a lovely evening that you, hopefully spent together. This is not about the money, if he is willing to take charge of it, it means he can afford it anyway. However, there is much more to it. This might be his way of showing that he cares for you, that he is interested in you and is hoping to see you again. It can also be a matter of culture or “traditional” upbringing. So it’s a good idea to let him follow his principles, otherwise he might feel confused or even offended.

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.

— Lao-Tzu

Have faith in your own instincts.

Listen to your inner voice, that will guide you towards the right person, but remember that first impressions can be deceiving. It might be worth taking it slowly and get to know someone gradually, which will give you the best chance of creating a successful relationship and you will live “happily ever after”.

Best of luck!


To summarise things that St. Valentine loves

  • Your Sincerity
  • Your fun loving nature
  • Your Courage
  • Your Appreciation of simple things in life

Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but of looking in the same direction.

— Antoine de Saint-Exupery

If he is a right person for you check list

  • do you feel save with him
  • does he share your core values/positive outlook
  • does your inner voice tell you that he is the right choice for you
  • does he look like the man with whom you want to spend the rest of your life with
  • does he have essential qualities to be your best friend

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