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How to Rekindle the Spark in your Relationship

Updated on February 8, 2013

A Relationship is an affair between two people.

Humans are intelligent souls and they know what they want from life. However, competition at work can stiffen them up. They tend to forget their loved ones or take them for granted for always being there around them. Years are rolling by in work, making money and taking care of responsibilities but; little do we think of our love that is our inspiration to get up and get moving. We are growing old but what steps are we taking to make our love also grow along with us? Love will only grow with us IF we learn to pause and look upon it.

Ever ponder on the above?

Love needs caring and fondling. Love needs attention. Who ever have found love is fortunate and should know how to preserve it. This love will help us stay strong when the world is cruel to us. Love does not grow with age. Only wisdom grows.

So, let’s pause and reflect on the things that are precious to us. Take the time to communicate, sing, dance, cry, laugh with our partner. This time spent with our associate will help us grow old with someone.

Spending a few hours in a week to embrace and caress our love is important.

Below is a step-by-step guide on how to go about making a connection with your better half.

When you reach home after your long and tired day. Do not expect your companion to come looking for you. Take the initiative to light the candle of love and fondness between you two.

  1. First step is freshen yourself up. It’s going to be a long night and you would like to smell and feel fresh.
  2. Surprise your mate with a small gift (some of the examples are:-box of chocolates, a glass of wine, a bouquet of flowers, a bottle of perfume, lingerie)
  3. Sit down to TALK. Talk about anything that hurts you or anything that you feel happy or sorry about. Let your emotions flow.
  4. Now that you are feeling light. Be ready to LISTEN once your partner starts to talk. Communication is the key to solving any problems.
  5. Once both your hearts are light. Let the fun begin.
  6. You could massage each other to relieve the physical stress.
  7. Get food ordered in.
  8. Dine in with candles and light music.
  9. Dance to the tune of music.
  10. Laugh your heart out at the silliest and funniest gesture of your partner. Let there be no inhibitions.
  11. Complement each other at the slightest move. Make your spouse feel important and wanted.

Let the evening turn into a pleasant night, which will be remembered by the two of you.

A few alternatives are:

  • To step out and change the environment for bonding. Go out on a mini-vacation. This will help lighten the mood of both the partners.
  • Sacrifice your time for your better half’s favorite activity. Example – going for an opera show, which your partner loves OR going for a ball game that your better half enjoys. Just watching the partner sits next to you for a continued ~2-3 hours sends in positive vibes.
  • Showing your affection off and on by a sending in a text of how you feel about your partner or surprising her with a bouquet of flowers at her work place can make adrenaline pump up for couple.
  • An unexpected peck on the cheek or an embrace can take the other by surprise.
  • Give priority to the dates when you met your partner such as an anniversary or special days that you shared fond memories. Try to keep your day clear and make arrangements to spend the day/evening together. Time spent on that day will make fond memories.
  • Click pictures as a couple and keep it around the house or work place. Just those smiling faces can help trigger affection for each other on a busy day.

Life is short but love makes the life go smooth. If there is love and compassion in a human’s life, he will thrive and flourish with good health. Wealth will definitely follow where health is good. That will make anybody’s life worthwhile.

So, let’s try to recognize the love of our life. Treasure it and savor the moments spent with that partner. Those moments spent; can become fond memories and help the other associate sustain until he breaths his last. Such, is the impact of good times and trying to be creative to bring a spark in a relationship.


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      Ondari S Jephiter 4 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

      Awesome... I like the idea that wisdom grows with age but love does`t. Great tips...Keep writing we keep reading

      Thank YOU

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      lovedoctor926 5 years ago

      This hub is fantastic! You mentioned very good points. "Make your spouse feel important and wanted." I will keep this in mind. voting up useful! I was looking for one of your hubs on New Year's Resolution. I remember reading it, but didn't leave a comment. I didn't find it on your page. Happy New Years Ruchira!

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 5 years ago from Lagos

      By your standards, you are a master on this subject. All the tips and information here given have proved quite helpful. Kudos


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      Audrey Howitt 5 years ago from California

      Such good advice! So important to have fun together!

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      Mr Love Doctor 5 years ago from Puerto Rico

      All good stuff, but I would disagree with the statement that love doesn't grow with age. I think both love and affection grow, thought not automatically. Like anything else, whatever you sow you reap.

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      twocupswithtee 5 years ago from Chesterfield, MI

      Hi Ruchira,

      Yep! You are incredibly right! Relationships take effort, but it is so worth every ounce of it! Loved your specific me some great ideas too!

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      Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

      I so agree with you, Jo.

      HP is addictive and it sure is meddling in our relationship :)

      thanks for stopping by!

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 5 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      We recently went away for a romantic weekend, it was very very nice until I took out my ipad to log in to my HP account, bad bad move. :)

      I love this, so useful I'm sharing.

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      Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 5 years ago from Chennai, India

      A wise hub filled with helpful suggestions for an everlasting and eternally happy relationship! You rightly stated that communication and togetherness are two important keys to a successful relationship/marriage! A fetching hub! Well-done!

      Thanks for SHARING. Useful, Beautiful & Awesome. Voted up & Shared on Facebook

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      acaetnna 5 years ago from Guildford

      This is totally amazing - loved it; and as for the totally amazing video - wow. I loved all of the songs of your choice, but my absolute favourite of all time is Arrowsmith - 'I don't want to miss a thing'! Voting up and pressing all of your buttons too.

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      yoginijoy 5 years ago from Mid-Atlantic, USA

      What a great hub! I agree with the lovedoctor 926 that a relationship is exactly like a plant. One must water it every day! I certainly agree with you that date night is important at least once a week. Voting up, awesome and beautiful!

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      lovedoctor926 5 years ago

      This is awesome relationship advice. Great hub! I do come back to some articles and re-read every once in a while and this one is surely one of them. I'm looking forward to reading more articles like these from you.

      Relationships require a lot of time and effort and space to grow. I usually like to think of it as a garden: you need to water it and nurture it in order to thrive, but not too much either or else you will kill it. You have to really know and love yourself before you can give that love back.

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      Manoj Kumar Srivastava 5 years ago from India

      Ruchira, the writer of myriad hues is in her elements right now, right here. Great tips, for all of us to follow. Thanks for the tips. Everybody needs to tip-toe towards it.


      WoW Ruchira!! You're on 99. You ROCK!!

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      Mohan Kumar 5 years ago from UK

      These are wise and wonderful words Ruchira. A must for every relationship. It is all too easy to take relationships for granted, this is a timely reminder not to take anything for granted- well done!

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      There cannot be just ten or eleven point guide to handle relationship. However, tips that come in any numbers can be really helpful.

      This is an eye opener.

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      Brett Caulton 5 years ago from Thailand

      Good tips, love is not easy, but it is certainly worth the effort!

      Useful, up and sharing.

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      yssubramanyam 5 years ago from india, nellore. andhrapradesh

      good message ,lovely hub

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      Elena 5 years ago from London, UK

      Beautiful ideas. Thanks

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      Melanie Chisnall 5 years ago from Cape Town, South Africa

      Lovely article! Voted up and beautiful :)

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      lovedoctor926 5 years ago

      Excellent advice. I've actually read this article a few times already. Nice to meet you. vote up awesome.

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      Spending time with one another and being aware to show love is so important. Great Ideas! Bless those that work on their relationship! It is so easy to fall into bad habits with a spouse!

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      alocsin 5 years ago from Orange County, CA

      Once people have been in a relationship for awhile, especially if they have kids, they forget to have "date nights." And having that night, as your hub suggests, is excellent for rekindling relationships. Voting this Up and Useful. SHARED.

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      Movie Master 5 years ago from United Kingdom

      Excellent advice Ruchira, a big vote up from me!

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      Stacy Harris 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      Love is definately hard. My husband and I have been married for 12 years... we have had our up and downs and for the most, we are probably stronger than ever. I noticed we do a lot of random texting throughout the day... but now that I think about it... I think he should bring me home a gift. What a wonderful hub... up and sharing!

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      anglnwu 5 years ago

      Haha, my first thoughts were: my husband should read this. Good suggestions--it's always good to feel loved and treasured and these gestures suggested by you should keep the fire going. Thanks for sharing and rated up.

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      Kelly Umphenour 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      Terrific advice Ruchira! Now let me see, Dave is working right maybe I can real quick think of something nice to do for him tonight! OH! I know! I will let him sleep in the bed! hahaha just kidding:) lol

      You are very wise...and kind. Both of those things go a long way in a relationship. Communication is key. I do talk to my husband about everything almost. I leave out the boring parts:) lol Lots of times we find that a simple misunderstanding can be quickly cleared up if you address matters right away.

      UP and everything!

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Wonderful suggestions and proven facts that make a relationship stronger and healthier. It is the best thing we can do in keeping those fire alive. I like your suggestion to laugh at each other's antics as laughter is great in keeping a balanced life.

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      yssubramanyam 5 years ago from india, nellore. andhrapradesh

      it is very helpful to present generation. great indeed..

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      neeleshkulkarni 5 years ago from new delhi

      great tips ruchira.

      i and the wifie are already booked for a long overdue holiday

      from 20th june.

      log nightsssss- well will keep you

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Great tips Ruchira. Now where did i put my camera?

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      Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

      Hi Susan,

      Thank you for the read and appreciation. Life sure teaches us wisdom 'cause of experiences but we gotta learn to stop and appreciate love around us.

      Thanks Arun

      Thanks mhatter99. Your wife is lucky :)

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      Mary Hyatt 5 years ago from Florida

      Couples seem to just take each other for granted after a while, and that's too bad. You gave some good advice here.

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      Susan Zutautas 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Great advice from a very wise woman :)

      Up, useful and awesome!

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      yssubramanyam 5 years ago from india, nellore. andhrapradesh

      beautiful guide to heavenly life.

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      Paula 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York are a wise, loving and compassionate woman. It is a joy to read your wonderful hubs. This hub is thoughtful and I am sure, will enlighten and motivate couples everywhere. UP++

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      Shampa Sadhya 5 years ago from NEW DELHI, INDIA

      Voted up and awesome!

      An expert's advice, Ruchira. Present day couples do need such good advice. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful hub. Sharing it socially.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Great tips and advice Ruchira!

      Amidst the daily hustle bustle of jobs and work the spark sometimes tones down...

      Great hub!

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      Nithya Venkat 5 years ago from Dubai

      WOW wonderful ways to rekindle romance and set the fire burning. Enjoyed reading your great ideas. Voted up.

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      Frank Atanacio 5 years ago from Shelton

      Ruch.. your hubs are always there when I need them.. voted up and useful..bless you :)

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      Injured lamb 5 years ago

      What a wonderful and sweet advice Ruchira...I am so agree with you, thanks for the great and useful sharing, vote this up! Cheers!

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      snowdrops 5 years ago from The Second Star to the Right

      Great hub indeed!

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      MsLofton 5 years ago from IL

      This is great!

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      Tammy 5 years ago from North Carolina

      Beautiful advice Ruchira. We should always remember that our spouse or partner is our best friend no matter what. It takes a lot of work, but it is the one relationship that should be attended to above all others. Wonderful suggestions!

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 5 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      This hub is interesting and useful. In the daily grind of living we tend to overlook this aspect and sometimes take things for granted. Sharing moments together, laughing together, I like your point about being funny and silly at times - it eases so much tension, just being together makes up for so much. And yes good health too - mentally satisfying.

      Voted up, interesting and useful.

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      Martin Kloess 5 years ago from San Francisco

      I always dated my wife.

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      Arun 5 years ago

      Nice one :)

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      Susan Holland 5 years ago from Southwest Missouri

      Ruchira, these are very good tips to keep the love alive in a relationship. You are right, it does take wisdom for love to grow as you and your partner age. :-)

      Votes and shared!